as you may know, lee and i are currently limited to phone calls and letters...
how can i write things to him or speak on the phone with him using "code"? there are some things i want to tell him that i don't want the prison officials to read or hear...how do i establish this code without them catching on and with him realizing what i am up to?
they read my incoming mail, and *supposedly* they don't read his outgoing mail...he seals it and puts it in a box where it is picked up each morning...
We talk round about kind of....I'll say something and say "I gotta watch how I say this so bear with me....." I'll alude to stuff and say "you know like Sam did" or whatever that will clue him in. Also, you know that thing you told me about that Ed was perturbed about or whatever......Bill picks up on things really good and will respnd the same sort of way---we both know the other is on the same page..... I hope this makes sense and helps. We do this whenever we need or want to talk about stuff we don't want them hearing.....
bryanssong..the problem is that we won't have visits until march, so we can't set up the code until then...
i have an idea to say something like...oh, i heard about this woman from new jersey who ALSO has a boyfriend in colorado who's in texas...and her name is "blah" and his name is "shwa" and so on...who knows?
i'm kind of giggling that my life has come to this...but what are you gonna do?
anyway, thanks again...oh, and lulu, please thank kenneth.
Emme... I agree with Deb... a lot of it depends on what you have to say and what the two of you know between each other makes a huge difference....
When we "talk" about other inmates, we often use initials of their "street" name.... but JD and I had enough private conversations that our little "code" is already established.... we can have a whole conversation in "remember when I told you that one thing" and "that one guy I was talking about that one time".... I am sure it would be amusing to try to listen to... it would sound like we are talking about a whole bunch of nothing!! I will admit though... sometimes one of us gets lost... and it ends up being really frustrating to the other...."you know... that THING!!" (no!! WHAT thing??!)
when tyrone and i talk. we kind a just read between the lines and ask such things to make sure we understand where the other is coming from. unless you all know what you are talking about. i wish you the best. i know there is a way
"You're my end and my beginning, Even when I lose I'm winning"
Em, when I was writing my friend and all we would talk in third party. Let me see if I can give you example his nickname for me was Ankh and I would say hey Ankh is going through this or that. And I would refer to Ankh when I was going through things and he seemed to catch on really well and I would always sign off my name so none of the CO's or anyone in the mail room would put it together on who it was from and I would usually have someone write it out for me to because the handwriting. He would respond like well I am sorry Ankh is going through tell her I suggest that she might try this and such. He was really impressed on one of my first letters he got wind of the third party thingy and went to one of his cellies and said hey check it out she knows how to get around things in here. Also another thing that he would do for me is every 5th word he would put in a word and I would have to sit there for hours to find out what the heck is he talking about then after I figured it out it was like okay. But it would take me hours to sit there and read all of this stuff that made no sense at all and then bamb a real word would pop up and I would write it down and all. So anyways that is what we did.
Emme, I did that when I was talking to the lawyers about my being bruised by that guard. I would tell him about it as if it was the story of someone else. I would say, Boo had to go see the lawyer today and he said xyz. I always refered to the incident as an assalt. In our case I believe they knew because I couldn't keep my baby from raising hell with the prison officials. I kept telling him in the beginning, dont say anything, just drop it and trust me that I am handling it.
Ant & I have our own code I think you just make it up as it comes out.. we talk in code a lot and it would not make sense to anyone but us.. Sound stupid but it is true.. There really is not set code. You come up with it..
Absence is to love
what wind is to fire
it extinguishes the small
it inflames the great
I make up stories. Things like, "Do you remember when we did blah blah blah.?" To let him know of something that's going on now. At first he was like, "What the hell are you talking about?" Now he understands that my strolls through memory lane are really letting him know of things going on now.
On September 22, 2003, my better half came home after 657 days in an Alabama prison!!!
And he's now forever free - passing away from this life and into the next - on January 9, 2010.