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View Poll Results: Would you let your MWI move in with you?
No. Not immediately. 8 32.00%
Yes. We've been together for awhile! 12 48.00%
Yes. But after a few weeks living separate. 1 4.00%
Yes but after a few months living separate. 4 16.00%
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Old 08-21-2018, 09:06 AM
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I was wondering if anyone had experience with having your MWI move in with you or just wait awhile after their released to be able to adjust to your life and their life outside.
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Old 08-21-2018, 09:11 AM
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Mine has been in for so long that I want him to make that decision once that option becomes real and I will not expect anything.
Depending on his (parole-)conditions or whatever he might face with regards to restrictions, he has to stay with is family first anyway. But I don't expect to move in with him right away, I'll be visiting and see where we stand once he's released. As I stated a lot already, I'm not sitting on packed boxes.
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He has been locked for so long I'd be worried if he lived alone. He so out of technology and all, I'd like to help him so he can focus on his job and all. So I'd prefer him to live with me.
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Im with the Miz on this one.

I feel like this. He's been in too long and Im not equipped to handle the transition he will go through all by myself. Of course I will be to him what I am now when he comes out.

We talk about this often. I know he needs to enter a halfway house. He believes he doesn't need it. However.. As time gets close to release he now realizes he needs help from those that been in his place and have stayed out of prison. I can't be his everything out here. He has to learn how to crawl then walk on his own.

He knows I will always have his back. And that's comforting to him while going through civilianship

To answer your question Mur. No.. We will wait to move in together. We both want to take it slow

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He has been locked for so long I'd be worried if he lived alone.

He so out of technology and all,


I'd like to help him so he can focus on his job and all. So I'd prefer him to live with me.
aw chica, that's sweet of u love this one.... Kirin... That's nice. I agree to this and i know it has worked for some. ( for me, i know 1 personally who it still is working for a close friend of mine) so i would say (all depends though) a few weeks "out on his own first/and or a couple months et.al.,) but time will tell if i am thinking the same, when he is out, both of us will learn soon enough... or if he has to do time, through plea bargain til' at least end of march/end of winter 201. or get out this year we hope. time will tell... i think this way, LIFE es chica so short too and we know NONE of us are promised a tomorrow, so live your best life, with who you're clearly connected to/loving/wanting/desiring/serious with, committed to and if you're COMFORTABLE with such living arrangement/if it's what you're truly wanting do it...Life is so short for some, and be happy and careful, and enjoy...

Adios... hugs blessings to u tonight, chica, kirin. have yourself a great night chica.adios.
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We did move in together about two months after he released. We never met while he was in prison we met the day he got out. He went to a half way house so we could date and her to know each other. I also wanted to see how much motivation he had towards making a life out here first for himself and second with me. I still have a teenage boy in the home and that was a lot to consider too. He works and goes to school and I work as well. We have lived together since December and just recently opened a joint account to save for goals we have together. It’s like any relationship no matter where you meet just take it all slow and watch for the warning signs.
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My love will be home in 2 days and will be moving w.me. Nothing to elaborate on, we.ve been together 5 years and have discussed almost everything under the sun in that time.
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My MWI wants us to move in together and I'll be honest I'm nervous about it but it's not cause of prison, I've just never lived with someone I was in a romantic relationship with so it's going to be a big change and will take some adjusting. He has basically spent the last decade incarcerated (was in federal for 4 years then out for 1 and has been back in federal since August 2013) so I know he is nervous too, it will be a major transition for the both of us. I've never spent a day with this man outside of prison walls so I know in many ways I do not know him and we need to meet each other on the outside.
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It's definitely your personal decision but I'd let him not come live with you right away... give him time - give yourself time to adjust to him. Being MWIs is not the same as being in a relationship on the outside. Try it out first, it's your right and you should do that and not commit right away.
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