FRUSTRATED AND IRRATE..Need advice

mysoulishis · #1 01-15-2011, 11:51 AM

Just found out that the man I believe only had eyes for me has been having an ex visit, send money, and whatever else. He's been writing and calling her. She just emailed me on Jpay and found that he has been playing both of us. There were things that put up that red flag but when you are with him..he knows how to lay the shit on and make you feel like your the only one. I am better than this but how do I tell my heart that. I have been with him since 08 and we have had discussions about this same topic. Come to find out she has been posting on the other forum since 09 and they have been togerther for 2 yrs and she knows everything I know. How do I tell my heart to let go and I will be alright without him? I am so frustrated and don't know which way to turn. She wants to go to the prison together and see how he would react.

orchibu · #2 01-15-2011, 12:09 PM

im so sorry this is happening to you.

Ms. Devious · #3 01-15-2011, 01:49 PM

I wish I had some words of wisdom for you. I would be absolutely devastated if that happened to me. I dont think teaming up with her is the best of ideas. You need to go see him alone and confront this yourself so you can get all your feelings out in the open. Only you know if the trust is gone for good. If it were me, I wouldn't stay with him him. Promises mean everything in relationships like this but once they are broken, sorry means nothing at all.

alwayshim · #4 01-15-2011, 02:03 PM

I'd say lets go see him!!! Then dump him!~ Don't let yourself feel bad he's the one that is bad, but also she's an X. She might just be talking bs to you.

mysoulishis · #5 01-15-2011, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by calidreamin

im so sorry this is happening to you.

I thought I was strong..but don't know anymore. He is a sweet talker and always says the right things. But when it comes to him I am super weak.

mysoulishis · #6 01-15-2011, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by alwayshim

I'd say lets go see him!!! Then dump him!~ Don't let yourself feel bad he's the one that is bad, but also she's an X. She might just be talking bs to you.

I have also taken this in to consideration also. But she knows information on his case that I know. It hurts bad cause this will the 2nd time I've been cheated on. I would die for him though and that is the bad part. It's scares me.

mammastalkin · #7 01-18-2011, 10:03 AM

I'm so sorry to read this and I want you to know that I'm here for you. Sadly there are dogs on both sides of the fence--that is what you need to remember. Can you ever go back to the way things were before? I don't think so. These relationships are hard enough but to destroy the trust you had was a huge mistake on his part. I would probably write him a letter--lay it on the line and go from there. I'm a better writer then I am with face to face confrontation. That is just my opinion though and you have to do things your way. Be sure to stay in touch.

kare bear · #8 01-18-2011, 10:36 AM

Just a thought...why waste your time confronting him? You know the truth now and prolonging it will only make it worse. I would write a letter, dump his ass and let it go. You mentioned this is the 2nd time he's cheated? If he has done it before he obvioulsy doesn't have a problem doing it again. Why put yourself thru that? Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. I am sorry if this seems harsh and I do feel badly that you are going through this but letting go is the best thing. Don't set yourself to get hurt again.

BH4life · #9 01-18-2011, 10:42 AM

omg, that is so aweful! i'm sorry you have to deal with that, i would definitely be devastated too. my baby's dad did that to me, and i just got support from my friends and family. i would try my hardest to get over him, because you don't deserve to be treated that way.