Family Problems Over Interracial Relationship?

KellyNMelton · #1 01-02-2004, 10:50 AM

I've been going through 6yrs of family problems b/c my choice to be with men outside of my "race"...just wondering how other peoples family deals with it....

davsdab · #2 01-02-2004, 11:08 AM

my b/f is black and at first my parents (mostly my dad) didn't like it. Now, they are realizing it is my choice and they don't say anything negative. I have been dating outside my race since i was 17, and I am now 28. Its been a long time coming.

Jakesgirl · #3 01-02-2004, 11:20 AM

I too am with a black man. My parents have been pretty good about it. They were a little surprised at first, but really said nothing. Now that they know Jake they really like him. I am not sure this would be their first choice, but they know me well enough to know that if they ever mistreated him they would be the one to miss out. I wish you all the best with this. I know the hardships that an interracial relationship can bring. All though my parents and family have been pretty good about it we have had more than our share of probelms from other people. Good luck and I hope things start looking up for you
Carrie

KellyNMelton · #4 01-02-2004, 01:29 PM

I am past the point of worrying about what others think! as far as my mom and dad go...i feel like its a lost cause to care. i mean its their loss. they have 2 beautiful grandkids that they are missing out on.

eyez697 · #5 01-02-2004, 01:38 PM

Well, My little girls dad is Mexican. (I'm no longer with him) I think there is nothing wrong with different races going out with each other. It took such a toll on our relationship though. We were together for 3 years and for those 3 years I was stressed. If you truly love him though they will except it. My family does not care anymore. They realized after 3 girls going out with Mexican guys who cares as long as they are happy. The best wishes are out to you and so are my prayers.

Velma · #6 01-02-2004, 06:53 PM

I think there are differences that can be more powerful than race. For example, socioeconomic differences cause a lot of problems. We have a working class family and my sister married a trust fund boy with who knows how much in the bank. Their struggles over money and expenses far surpass anything I've ever seen! Additionally, someone raised overseas may not be of a different race, but may be used to a lifestyle that is so different from our American ones that it's unreconcilable.

crisslee · #7 01-02-2004, 07:06 PM

It appears that only in America are there interracial problems...and that seems so crazy since we are supposed to be the melting pot of the world! I feel it would probably be wrong to be with someone out of our "species"...not out of our race. Good luck to all who are having problems with this. Remember, Love Conquers All.

mizblack · #8 01-02-2004, 09:55 PM

My guy is black and at first my parents, or my mom I should say wasn't too happy but after her granddaughter was born she changed 100%. She now says as long as I'm happy that's all that matters. Best of luck to you.

doughsgurl · #9 01-02-2004, 10:08 PM

Most everyone in my family dates interracially so there are no problems at all... if anything they would look at me funny if he was my own race.. lol

Hang in there gurl.. if they can't move past it, then that is their ignorance, not yours...

~TeRe~

lanangregs · #10 01-02-2004, 11:17 PM

Well my fiance is white and I am black in the beginning my mom felt kinda weird but she got use to it but now that she finally gonna be a grandmother she hasnt even complained that our child is bi-racial, so just give your family time they will learn to deal with it.

mrswalker · #11 01-02-2004, 11:26 PM

My parents never had a problem with our relationship, or his race, and they love our son!!

imissrondale · #12 01-03-2004, 01:32 AM

since i was little my parents have always been racist my dad worse then my mom my dad actually told me when i was 15 if i ever talked to a black man he would burry me in the back yard so until i was 21 i never dated outside my race mainly for fear of my dad then when i met my husband it was not a rebel thing or a he is black so i am gonna be with him it was a i love this human being regardless of me being white and him being black after 2 mths of hiding it i finallt told them they did not speak to me for 3 mths then finally my mom came around by then i was pregnant they told me i was stupid because my daughter would have to go through teasing for being and oreo is how they put it but as time went on and they spoke with my husband and my daughter was born they have completely changed my g-ma stopped speaking to me in feb 2001 and she died in june of 2003 and we still had not spoke because i was with a black man my brothers still say things once in awhile it is stupid but i am not pressed about it i love my husband and my family and any one that loves me will come to grips that i am married to a gorgeous strong caring balck man who is my life

**Patty** · #13 01-03-2004, 07:42 AM

I can't imagine a color, race or religion that ISN'T represented in my large family. We don't have a problem in this area.

Patty

PIMAKAT · #14 01-03-2004, 12:29 PM

At my family reunions we look like a meeting of the United Nations -- my family is fine with PIMA and I being different 'races'. His family is a different story...they have a BIG problem with me being "White"!

Amy · #15 01-05-2004, 02:56 AM

I have had problems in the past. My father disowned me when I married my ex-husband. My mom was pretty mad at me too but she got over it when Ace was born.

As for now, they still don't like my husband but we don't have the problems we used to have. I am living with them until I can get on my feet. I think they finally realized that it was my life and my choice. They just wish my choices were different.