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Old 06-09-2007, 08:02 PM
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Do they allow marriage in NC prisons? I want our marriage to wait until he gets out, but I know other states allow it. Anyone know?
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Yes they do, you need to contact the prison chaplain and ask for the marriage packet and he needs to do the same. You fill it out and send it back in, then they give it to him and he fills it out. Then you get approval from the administrator/warden and then you go through a brief counceling stint (I think it is like a month or something like that) and then you set the date and get married. But each prison has their own rules about what is allowed and what is not. So if you decide to get married while he is still in be careful and really pay attention to what they tell you. GOOD LUCK with getting married.
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Old 06-09-2007, 09:12 PM
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I agree they do allow marriage, Lisa is a newly wed perhaps she will also jump on and answer any details needed.
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Today is our two year anniversary and we got married while he was in. Ask the questions you have and I'll do my best to answer. Also, I'm sure Lisa can answer them too.

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Oops...little late. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY, CANDY!!!!
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Happy Anniversary Candy!!

I have my 1 yr. anniversary next month, so if there is anything I can help with, I will be glad too. Also Callen got married this year, so she can help too!
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Old 06-12-2007, 01:47 AM
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:love: Happy belated anniversary Candy.......As for info I was also married in prision but in VA..But the same applies depending on what grade(Undergrade,Closed custody,etc) Will determine what will happen afterwards such as a kiss or even a short visit..Some camps even allow cameras...Best wishes
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Thanks, Ladies, for the well wishes. We had a wonderful weekend with a visit and lots of phone calls on Sunday.

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So If I decide on getting married while he is in...which I dont want to cause he gets out in September, who is this first point of contact? And when you get married, how long do they allow you to visit with them? Do they provide a chaplain, or do you provide them? I think I need to wait until he gets out, haha
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who is this first point of contact?
--Usually you contact the chaplin first. He will tell you what you need to do.

And when you get married, how long do they allow you to visit with them?
--After we got married we had an hour to visit. We got married on a Friday. (We had our regular visit on Thursday and then I went the following week on Monday so we had a lot of time together.)

Do they provide a chaplain, or do you provide them?
--We had to provide our own minister.

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Candy isn't it true that your husband has to contact the Chaplain? Not the wife to be? I believe that is how it works.

Did you get alone time after you were married?
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We both had to contact him. We couldn't get the paperwork that we had to fill out until I contacted him.

Alone time? Yes and no. The chaplin and some other inmates were on the other side of a divider setting up for a service. So yes we were alone but not alone enough to do anything freaky.

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Old 06-13-2007, 05:25 PM
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LOL well alone enough for some deep throat kisses that didn't last 5 seconds at a time?
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Yeah some deep kisses. But not alot. It was more of letting the realization that we were actually married sink in and just enjoying the initial moments of being married.
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Girl, I'll be honest....I'd wait. If he's out in September, you may not even get a date by then. I can't vouch for how quick the process is, but if it's anything like everything else in DOC, he'd have to go back to get a marriage date for in there *LOL*
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I agree if he is coming home in September I would wait and have a "Real" wedding. Why go through DOC? He will be home in less than 90 days. I say hang on and wait till he comes home so you can consumate the union.
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We got a date within a few weeks of me getting the paperwork in to the prison. However that may not be the case for all facilities. And if he had been coming home so soon, we probably would have waited.

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congratulations to everybody that is already married and good luck to everyone that is trying to get married like me. i have a big hold up. i cant find a minister to do our wedding. we have all the papers to fill out just cant fill in the name of a minister yet. does anyone know a minister who could help me. he is at Greene CI in Maury NC. it is a minimum custody prison. please help me if possible and let me know how much it would cost. oh yea and by the way iwould wait until he came home if i were you. you are so lucky!! :-)
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Have you asked the Chaplain if he could recommend somebody. That is what we did. He was very helpful.
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Or you can try looking it up in your local phone book, look for an officiant.
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Or, ask the place where you got the license as many people do quickie weddings there, too, so they can probably recommend someone who will do it for a "small contribution." At least they do that here in KY.
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I think down here it was like 100 or 150 it was NOT cheap, but hey you never know.
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I probably bring a unique perspective to the question of marrying in prison. First, I'm a retired superintendent with DOC. Now, I am an ordained minister.

Each prison is allowed to set their own policy concerning marriages. Some only allow on weekends...some only through the week...some just certain weekends of the year, etc. It depends on working operations of the facility, so it is important to consult with the Superintendent or his representative to see what the specific guidelines are for that facility.

As a minister, I would recommend, barring unusual circumstances, that if the love one will be returning home in less than 12 months to wait and get married in front of plenty of friends and families...without all the restrictions of DOC.
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