Marriage By Proxy (any state)

Shortie · #1 07-04-2002, 08:41 PM

I was wondering how you all felt about marriage by proxy.. I did this last Nov...
Do you thing you love you partner enought to marry them like this or would you wait???

vnvdvc · #2 07-05-2002, 08:04 AM

I would do it if I had no other recourse. I do feel it is important to be married. After all, in the end the marriage is what counts, not a ceremony. Not that I wouldn't live a nice wedding with the family and friends either!

CREAMYALMONDZ · #3 07-05-2002, 09:37 AM

What's a proxy?

KelliKoz · #4 07-10-2002, 03:06 PM

Shortie,

Wouldn't let me vote, but I vote yes. Love conquers all in my book. You can always have that special ceremony to seal it after they are released.
Kelli

DJohnson · #5 07-10-2002, 03:19 PM

Well for me on my & EJ's last visit, he wanted us to get things started so we could get married while he was inside. He stated that he loves me that much that he would get married while inside. He doesn't have all that long to go 5/2004 & we have both already waited for eachother for over a year now.
I told him honestly that I can wait until he comes home. If he would have been in longer then I would have said yes.
I told him my BIG reason why. To me a prison wedding w/EJ would be the biggest form of torture for me & him as well. We are married, yet we can't be together, we can't have our honeymoon night & things are the same as when we were engaged, just have that piece of paper to prove our marriage. When I told him that reason he actually sat back & thought about it & agreed w/me on that it would be torture for him as well.
We both love each other more than life itself & no matter what I am standing behind my man & when he comes home then we go to Las Vegas & get married!

KelliKoz · #6 07-10-2002, 05:23 PM

A proxy means you are an agent or a representative for a person who is unable to attend. Since the incarcerated person can't attend a ceremony, he fills out an absentee application for marriage, and either a stand in (like in Shortie's case) or a judge acts as the representative to carry out decree. Voting by proxy is another example.
Kelli

danielle · #7 07-10-2002, 05:26 PM

If Wayne and I weren't already married, I would do it. I am not sure he would, however.

Shortie · #8 07-10-2002, 08:39 PM

i see such a great varity in here that is great..

michelle · #9 07-30-2002, 07:41 PM

Hey does IL do that sort of thing? The proxy thing?

jnv512 · #10 07-30-2002, 08:27 PM

Does New York do that?

DJohnson · #11 07-31-2002, 08:29 AM

I don't think IL does the "proxy" thing Michelle.
In fact I talked to a lady while waiting for EJ this past weekend & she told me that she got married to her husband inside. I asked her of the procedure & to ME it was really sad....

Shortie · #12 07-31-2002, 08:39 PM

i am not sure if they do it in eaither state call the county clerks office and they could tell you...

ShanesPrincess · #13 08-01-2002, 12:29 AM

I was woundering if they do this in Washington State? For Shane and I we are already married. We did this thing in Las Vegas that we were able to say our voews. It was not a legal thing.

All we want is for the gov to reconise that we are married. To eachother we already are. So that is what counts to us.

KelliKoz · #14 08-01-2002, 11:43 AM

I have done some research, and proxy is allowed in Texas, Montana and Colorado only from all that I would locate. That way you won't all spin your wheels.

Today is my official wedding date. It was not done by proxy, even though my HUSBAND (yippee) is incarcerated in Colorado. They also let you solemnize your own vows in that state, so that is how our wedding was done this morning. We preferred not to have guards present, it detracted too much.

Hope this info helps others.

Kelli

RubenzChulita · #15 08-03-2002, 05:34 PM

Congrats Kelli!!!! I married my husband by proxy in Texas 13 years ago. It was the best thing in the world I have ever done and I hope one day when he comes home to myself and our daughter that we will renew our vows then with a wedding for all the loved ones to attend.