Freeloaders

roc city girl · #1 09-01-2003, 10:05 PM

Hello ladies. Is a mere "thanks" good enough?? I am posting because I wanted to know if any of you have been taken advantage of. I mean in the aspects of providing some kind of service to an inmates loved one. Well i got "GOT" last weekend and as much as i just want to forget about it, i cant. I am still bothered. Heres my story:

Last weekend was the Gowanda picnic, and when its a picnic i leave my house at the break of dawn to make sure i get there before the buses and have a low number. ok well I made the aquaintance of this girl who lives out in Albany and she called me and was telling me she was having a hard time getting transpo. to the prison. So she askes me if she catches the bus to Rochester can i pick her up. I leave at 4.30 am and she tells me the bus was going to arrive at 5.00 am. I figured 1/2 hour no big deal. so i said "yes". well to make a long story short, the bus was delayed as hell (1 hr)and i didnt arrive to GCF until 8.00am. My # was 66!!! u know i was pist as hell. To make matters worse, I didn't get to see Tito until 11 freaking o'clock!!!!! oh and it even gets worse, when i drop this girl off, she just hops out the car and says "thanks" UMMMM hello????? can i get some freaking gas money?? something?? I just couldn't believe it!! i was late as hell because of this chic and all i get is a thanks??? Ok, i have a BIG MOUTH and can 1 rude mutha BUT since i also had 2 friends in the car i didn't want to call her out. so i emailed her and she that the nerve to say that her intentions were to give me gas money but that her bus was there but that there was money coming my way from her. oh, it don't ends here, HELLOOOOO!!!! U DON'T HAVE MY ADDRESS!!!!!!!! why even lie????? I swear it doesn't pay to be nice. Common courtesy would tell u to give the person who just went out of there way for you a few dollars for gas. I mean gas is expensive.

am i over re-acting or would you be upset as well??? and has anyone here been thur a disappointment like that?? I appreciate all feed back.

Amira · #2 09-02-2003, 07:48 AM

Since it's me that Maria is talking about I feel the need to respond... First of all, I am not a freeloader by any means. Anyone that has ever provided me with transportation to any facility has always gotten gas money, toll money, etc.. I'm trying to get over on anyone, that's not my style, at all. I didn't lie at all. On Saturday, I received the envelope that I sent you through the mail back. I wrote your first and last name on the envelope, left the space blank for address and wrote Rochester, NY. Dumn of me to not think to ask you of the address before I left, of course it was. But as I said when I sent that email out, I felt horrible, so I rushed to get money out in the mail. It wasn't my fault that the bus was delayed and I apologized, despite the fact that I had no control over that. When we pulled up at Greyhound, my bus was about to pull out of the terminal and that's why I rushed out of the car the way I did. As I said it was never my intention to not provide gas money. I give money to anyone who provides me with transportation, no matter what. As previously said, I apologize that you had to miss part of your visit, because of me and the delay of the bus. I apologized that I was rushing to get on the bus when we arrived back at Greyhound. I apologized that I forgot to give you money. However to label me as a freeloader and a liar is a littel unfair. Not only that, but I was sent an email telling me that everything was okay, don't worry about it, but then I come on here and see that I'm being dogged. And once again, I have money for you in the exact same envelope that I used to send it in the mail. If you provide me with your address, I will gladly send you the money.

Jillian · #3 09-02-2003, 08:17 AM

I started to post on this yesterday and bit my tongue. I do not want to post on controversy too much.

The originator of this posts began by asking if a thank you was enough. My opion is if it ws a favor, then no money should be expected unless it was agreed upon before hand. If you do a favor for someone and then complain afterwrds, you loose all your blessings. Personally, I'll take the blessings over a small amount of cash anyday.

jdswifey02 · #4 09-02-2003, 03:26 PM

PTO is not a place to air personal issues between two individuals. This thread is being closed.

But to ALL PTO members-- it is PTO's administration's hope that you find not only support and understanding here, but that you may also have the opportunity to make friends at PTO and meet offline and support each other.....
HOWEVER, this does come with risks-- as do ALL relationships!!

I must say that in MY opinion, when there is a conflict between two individuals-- that conflict is best resolved by communication between the two individuals involved-- not by airing it on a PUBLIC forum.... and sinking to name-calling rarely helps a situation find resolution.