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View Poll Results: How effective is visitation for our beloved inmates?
Extemely effective 920 87.62%
Very effective 99 9.43%
Somewhat effective 24 2.29%
Not effective 7 0.67%
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Old 06-24-2006, 02:29 PM
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Hello Everyone,
My name is Talaya and I am in the process of opening a transportation business that will provide transportation to and from correctional institutes for those wishing to visit an inmate.
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How effective do you think visitation is for an inmate?
If you are an ex inmate can you please speak on the subject for me?
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Visitation is extremely important! My man has told me on more than one occasion, that if it weren't for the fact he'd lose his visits, he would have been in a fight. It's a great motivator to keep themselves out of trouble and it gives them something to look forward too!
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Visitation and mail is all that keeps most inmates going. I visit my husband twice a week every week and three times on holiday weekends. I wouldn't miss it for the world, and i know that it is very important to him also. I don't know any inmate that doesn't appreciate it when they get a visit from a friend or loved one. My husband actually thanks me for coming to see him everytime I go to visit.
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For my husband, its all he looks forward to during the week. Knowing we will be together on the weekend is what gets him through the week.

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It really does make a difference for some. It keeps them connected to the outside world. And also shows them that they still have people that care enough for them to come and spend time with time. My husband always lets me know how much me and his parents comming to see him means. I think you will be doing a good thing by helping the ones tha cant make it own their own get to see their loved one.
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Although I can't visit often with my Hubbie, visits are extremely important. It is their connection to the outside world and they need to know that someone cares for them from the out side.
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Old 06-25-2006, 08:49 AM
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Depends on the inmate. Most think its VERY important, but my man would rather do his time without them. But that's us, we're weird! *LOL*
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this is all they have and they look foward to ia a visit even if 1 amonthif it wasent for my back surguery i would go more often.
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Thank you all for your input. I appreciate it. My hubby really looks forward to visitation as well and I think its mainly because they feel a sense of the outside world as well bunnyrun5..Thank Keep the visitation coming for your loved ones and they'll get through this much easier. Citalove2 >> Im sorry to hear about your having to have back surgery..hope things get better with that real soon!! Good luck guys. --Talaya
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As a former inmate, visitation is very important. You sit and wait for your name to be called and when it is - a sense of calmness and relief is felt.

The visits keep you in touch with the real world and your family.

Getting out of the cell block is so much appreciated.

It is sad when there were some girls who I was in with who never got a visit.
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I believe that it is very important and effective in the process they go through.. good luck on your business....
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The transportation idea is great idea .I wish there was a way to sign up at the prisons for carpooling.If anyone think of a way to do this pm me.
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everyone has pretty much stated what is true - my fiance' can't wait for me to come visit and has even said even the idea of doing something to get his visits revoked has stopped him from particapating in something he shouldn't do
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I believe it is needed to get them through the long lonely days...It is part of their survival..gives them hope and something to hold onto..
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I am speaking for me and my loved one it is very effictive. But then there are a few bad apples out there who uses these visits for bringing things in. I think over all they are effictive my hunny is so cute he knows when I am coming and he gets his visiting cloths ready and waits for his name to be called I think that is so cute
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Visitation, phone calls, letters. These are the lifelines of our loved ones. I would move and stay in the city where my husband is in prison if we could visit everyday. Ronnie lives for visits and he gets really nervous when I travel and go to see our children in other states or countries. He worries about me on the road, but there is NO WAY I would ever miss a visit. The penal system needs a complete overhaul in their attitude and behavior towards the friends and families of inmates. Yeah visits!!!
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Hi all. During my time inside my wife and family visited me every chance possible (once a week ) and I am eternally grateful. One of the worst things about being inside is that its like a whole different world, many are tempted to "cut off "the outside world while they serve thier time but I think thats a big mistake. While there were days that I would have preferred not to have a visit( badly depressed etc ) they kept me linked to those I love.They did also act as an incentive, there are many many opportunities inside to break the rules but I was always very careful as I knew a breach would affect my visitation rights and I couldn't do that to my family. So deffinately, visit when you can and if you cant visit write. Good luck with the business.
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To Me - Its Extremely Effective.

It Gives Them Something To Look Forward To. My Husband Tells Me All The Time How Thankfull He Is To Have Someone Come See Him Because There Are A Lot Of People Who Dont Get Visits.
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My husband is home with me now, and I asked him this question. I wasnt able to visit a lot because of the 6 hour 300 mile drive, but every couple of months I would make it for 2 consecutive visits, and he siad they really brightened things up for him and made his time very much easier.
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For most inmates with whom I was familiar, and including myself, visitation was the bedrock of sanity maintenance. I was far more fortunate than most: My home was exactly 20mi from garage to prison parking lot, so my wife was there with me as much 3x/week.
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only able to go once every 6 months for health reasons, but my son lives for those few visits that we are able to have. i can tell by his face and actions how happy he is to see me and his brother. it is a connection to the outside world, and it helps him remember who he is. they can loose themselves in there without even realizing it.
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My man would die if he didn't get a visit, letter, phone call. It's what keep him sane
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i think it is extremely important they get visits... i been visiting my man every satuday and every sunday since apri this year and never missed a visit and i dont plan on missing one ever... the drive is 2 ina half hours away and the gas is a bitch but it really dont matter to me
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I think visitation is very important and effective. It gives them something to look forward to. Something they know they have to earn so they stay out of trouble. Plus its the only contact they have with someone they love and not just other inmates and co's.
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My huney really enjoys our visits. He says it makes his time go by a lot smoother for awhile afterwards. He really didn't expect to get any because he is so far from home (5 Hours). But he truly enjoys them. He gets up early and trims his moustache and makes sure his " Visitation Shoes" are clean. He is so funny. I know it also helps my "Time" go smoother as well. It does my heart good to be able to hold him, and see with my own eyes that he is doing good.
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