Derek Sean O'Brien (O.B.) - Texas

**Rachel** · #1 05-23-2006, 02:59 AM

Hi everyone!
This is a brand new thread for Sean's friends and loved ones.

I'll start off by saying that Sean (O.B.) is one of the nicest men that I have ever met. He is also a great example of how an individual can grow spiritually under difficult circumstances.

Let's keep our hopes high that there will be some good news in the near future.

Rachel x

Mrs. OB · #2 05-23-2006, 03:28 AM

Hello again and thank you about every word from the previous posts too (execution watch thread)

I appreciate each second you’ve taken your time to sit and think this. It really warms my heart to see your posts. Support from my WONDERFUL friends and truly caring people from PTO have given me lots of more strength to believe and fight together with the man I love.

I have let him know that he is also cared by many, who does not even know us, and sent him prints and posts, copies of emails etc. And if anyone wants to write him words of encouragement, just PM me your words and I will be happy to send some more mail to him. Thank you.

As his wife (hehe, as soon as we've got paper works done) and co-author of his book... I have a permission to share something from the last letter.

“I am hated man in Texas. It amazed me how many people really want me dead. Well it shouldn’t amaze me at all, but still it is really sad how many people are out foaming at the mouth and screaming about how I should die, calling me a monster without even knowing me. So many people want me dead. I am not a person they portray me, I never was, but how can I even defend myself. Noora, you have chosen a big challenge by loving me. People despise me. I know it, and I understand it, but no one has ever tried to learn who I really am, how I lived or anything else... .... .... ...”

It broke my heart to read those words and know that it is absolutely true.

The Sean: I know, and his dear friends know: is such a pure, wise, caring and loving soul. I could stay in closet and not let anyone to know what I think or feel, but I will proudly stand by that wonderful man.

I don’t care about “hate mails” or other stuff. (Just received second one this morning) If someone ever wants to talk about their point of view: I am more than willing to see their side pf the story, but I definitely ignore people who don’t have wits for anything else than just blow up childish words: I’ll keep my pride, but I am always more than willing to conversations. I just hope that people wouldn’t be so black and white.

People who are pro-deathpenalty are saying that they are against violence or killing, but somehow it seems that they are very blood thirsty to see inmates executed: killed! They just defend themselves saying that is justice: what justice is that? How many more victims it brings :( I just cant get it, and oh yes, I have been thinking about it.

Yes, we are working on a book together with Sean.
I know that by myself I can’t ever abolish death penalty, but if I can have even one people to think; then I have succeed with him.
I am honored to be part of his project.

Through PTO I have had a chance to meet new people who are also friend of Sean's and I am so happy to notice how many caring people he has in his life. Thank you!!!!

I think I need to end my chattering ;-)
All the best and keep the hope up!
Follow your dreams!

Proud to be Mrs O’B ;-)

loussie2 · #3 05-23-2006, 06:00 AM

Well said Noora

Thinking of you both

Lots of love

Louise xxx

Valentine4ever · #4 05-23-2006, 06:59 AM

i will keep derek in my prayers....and let him know that prayers r answered......and god is not asleep!!!

suzeg3 · #5 05-23-2006, 07:12 AM

thank you for sharing those words from his letter. As I said in a previous post which of us would want to be only the worst thing we have ever done? Inmates, especially those on dr are defined only by what they have done wrong. I think that it is a HUGE step if people can begin to see that they are simply human beings, like everyone else who made mistakes, yes sometimes BIG mistakes with horrible consequences. But that does not mean and it does not erase the fact that they have also done good things as well. I wish you luck with his book.

Bonehead · #6 05-23-2006, 11:47 AM

Hi,

I've read alot about what happened 16 years ago and it truly did horrify me. But I've also read some of Seans writings on various websites and the above excerpt and he really does seem to be an emotionally mature and intelligent human.

It really shows two sides of the debate over the DP. It's all too easy to read about the crime in detail and say "kill him" and overlook the fact that all people can change.

I don't understand how someone can participate in crimes of this nature which is why myself and many others just think "animal" or "sub human". But it just isn't that simple, and looking deeper into things shows that.

Starchild · #7 05-23-2006, 12:02 PM

I've come to know Sean through you Noora and he is a true example of change, spiritual growth, peace and wisdom. So many cannot look at what lead up to the crimes our loved ones committed; invariably there is pain and hurt and unhappiness. To continue to hate a person is surely ultimately more destructive, negative and painful than to be able to see that people can and do change; can and do learn from their past and genuinely demonstrate this in word and deed and in the person they become. My love, support and best wishes are with you and Sean and everyone involved.

Mrs. OB · #8 05-26-2006, 05:23 PM

Thank you about all beautiful words and encouragement as always.
I havent post for a while, because I have had so many things to plan, do, arrange, think..... It has been a complete emotional chaos. But I am touched about all the love and caring from PTO people. It means so much to Sean, his all dear friends and not least to me ;-) Keep the hope up

I am here feeling much better! I just miss him so much

Noora

**Ness** · #9 05-26-2006, 09:15 PM

Noora,

Thinking of you both. Please let Sean know that both of you are in my thoughts.

Love Ness

strogirl · #10 05-26-2006, 11:38 PM

I've known Sean a little over a year now. I am so greatful for his friendship. He is a very intelligent and caring man. He should not be murdered.

My thoughts are with Noora and Sean.

Atalie · #11 05-28-2006, 10:27 PM

I will continue to pray that there be mercy for Sean. I can't say I am a friend of Seans because I only know him through the posts that have been written about him. I do know Noora loves him as well as many other people,I feel I have become a friend in spirit and I will continue to pray that is life is spared.

Mrs. OB · #12 05-29-2006, 05:18 PM

Thank you about such beautiful words!

Today I mailed new private messages / posts to Sean. I am sure he appreciates each word, thought, and prayer as well.

Recently I have got lots of extra strength from somewhere, and I am holding up quite well and finally trying to enjoy again about this precious journey with Sean.

I don’t let the fear catch me anymore. Who knows what tomorrow brings, but at least I am so happy now - and so is he

and I can’ wait to see him again and get paper work done for the marriage.

I am enjoying the fullest now, but I know there will be harder days, but I try to take it day-by-day.

RiverstotheSea · #13 05-30-2006, 02:14 AM

Noora,

I just wanted to say that it is really good to hear that you are holding up quite well during this time. Also I hope this paper work for your marriage comes through as quickly as possible - Congratulations to both you and Sean! I will continue to keep both of you in my thoughts. I shall also continue to hope that the days to follow bring a change for Sean. Take care of yourself.

Sincerely,
Ben.

suzeg3 · #14 05-30-2006, 08:43 AM

Noora:
You are simply an incredidablly strong woman, I know Sean is a very special man as well, but I hope he appreciates how wonderful and strong you are. I hope that the marriage "paperwork" and plans are coming along ok. I also continue to pray for both of you that Sean will be shown mercy. Please keep us updated. ((((HUGS for both of YOU)))))

Sue

Mrs. OB · #15 05-30-2006, 11:00 AM

Hello!

At first: Ben and Sue: Thanks again! I hope you are doing fine too. I really appreciate your thoughts and prayers!

Past months have been a huge challenge to me, but as I said I am trying to stay confident and most of all enjoy about time we share now!

I do believe that everything happens for a reason. My spiritual beliefs and wonderful support from my good friends has helped me a lot. I try to gain my strength even from the smallest things, but of course there are hard days, and I know there will be.
I try to stay positive, skip negativity and speculating about the future.

I was told that there are some things written about me on few pro DP discussion boards. Most of the posts are quite childish and inferior name-calling, and then someone wrote a poem called “Ode to Noora”. That person of course remained anonymous. What was his/her purpose?, I asked. Was it to make me feel hurt, humiliated, sad…?? Those were just words, and didn’t hurt me. Of course he/she said that I cannot be hurt, because I am empty inside, I have a personality disorder that cannot be cured, and I do not have any real emotions. Hmmm.. What a great judge of human nature.

Also one lady was thinking my purpose to marry Sean a month before his possible execution. She thought that I am doing it only to get sympathy after his execution.

I wonder what made them to fall in love with their partners or marry them?
Do they have to explain their love or desire to marry someone they love?

I have lots of questions too, but I am going to leave that subject.

They are all entitled to their opinions and I respect that.

Our views and life experiences, ways and thoughts are all different and we must each of us do and feel and act in ways that work for us.

Nobody knows what it is like to walk in another's shoes, so just as I probably can't understand their views or acts, nor would I ever expect them to understand mine.

Arguing over views helps nobody and I choose not to do so.

All my love to EVERYONE

*Noora*