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Old 03-29-2006, 08:14 AM
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I'm wondering how many of you who have married and those who are planning an upcoming wedding have/plan to write and speak your own vows at your wedding? If you have already done so, were you able to get through the ceremony saying your vows without bursting out in tears? My soon to be husband and I were discussing this, and I'd like to get others thoughts. I am so very emotional, I'm not sure whether I'd be able to get through telling him what I want to say without crying my eyes out - of course due to being so happy! Anyone have thoughts on this? Thanks!
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i also want to say our own vows at our wedding. we really have discussed it yet. i guess when thet time comes we will. i had that concern too, that i wouldnt be able to get through it cuz i would cry too much and mess everything up.

maybe some one will come along and tell us how to get through it
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Vin and I are getting married soon and we are not going to write our own ows or say anything personal. For him and I, it just seems trite and unnecessary, that's just us.
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We haven't talked about it yet but I would like to write our own vows. I figure either way Im gonna end up crying anyway so why not do it the way we want!!
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We wrote our own Vows but I but I didn't get past Gaylon I take you to be my husband, before our heavenly Father these things I promise you, to love you. And that is where it all fell apart at least I did. And he just kind of laughed and said thats my big baby and just kept it simple and had our vows scrolled for keep sake.
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Me and my fiance just set our date yesterday. And this is something that he said he wanted to discuss this weekend at visitation. I think he is wanting us to write our own vows, I know I will cry either way but would rather have vows that are coming from his heart and soul than a chaplain...
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Old 04-10-2006, 10:17 AM
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Whichever way you decide to say the vows, congratulations and best wishes always!!!!!
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Me And My Baby Have Not Talked About This Yet But To Me I Really Would Love For Us To Write Our Own Vows But I Dont Think I Will GET Through It Cause I Will Be Crying Like A Baby Lo0ol Next Time I Speak To My Baby I Will Ask Him About Us Writing Our Own Vow
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We haven't discussed it yet, but I did order a book with different wedding vows in it. Also gives you ideas on how to write your own. I'm just waiting for it to arrive. I would prefer reciting vows I picked out than the normal "do you take this..." and the obey part is a little, umm, not my style.
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hey congrats on getting married and me and boyd did our own vows its much better with them then the repeat after me stuff !! well good luck to u both
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Thank you everyone for the well wishes and your replies I really appreciate it!!
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I didn't too much care for the prepared vows by the Judge. But hey, what could I expect from a wedding in a prison. When he comes home, we are already planning on doing our own vows when we renew them before our friends and family. He and I did not want to concentrate on those details while he is still incarcerated. I will feel much better about it when he comes home and we can really do things the way we want to.
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My husband wrote our vows...and I cried but it's okay-you're getting married-you're allowed! (and you'll cry either way) Realize that this is a time for you and everyone else will understand it as well.
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He wants us to each write our own vows and usually I am really good at writing but now I have writers block. HELP!! Lord give me the right words to not look like a dummy!
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Hello, Twittemen,
I'm not sure I'm responding correctly, but I just thought I'd share my points of view. Don't worry about looking like a dummy. Don't think about it that way. When you write your fiance and you tell him how much you love him it always comes easily, doesn't it? When you write your vows all it is is declaring your love for him. You love him so tell him why. Think about it and just say it without worrying about how you sound and it'll come out just right. Don't wait to say how you feel when you think it's going to be just right like at the perfect wedding. This is your time. This is your chance. This is your moment. Say it now because believe it or not this is when it's meant to be.
I was married by proxy to my husband who was incarcerated and he wrote his vows to me. Although it wasn't what I would have imagined my marriage to be like it was equally beautiful. The justice of the peace read them to me and it was so loving. So touching. Even though your husband may not be there with you at that moment, you can feel his presence with his loving words as he will feel yours with your declaration of love towards him.

Anyway, I've gone on and on.........lol...........I could go on forever I guess. I just always feel that I have to give my opinion....and it's just that, my opinion.

Good Luck,
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Congrats on your up coming wedding. We wrote our own vows and burst into tears reading them. I was able to control myself though and finish the vows. My hubby was starting to cry as well. To this day when he mentions that he has tears in his eyes. a photo was taken of me crying saying the vows and he loves that photo. Had me blow it up huge for him.
Its all good, makes your own special moment if you cry.
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I plan on doing my own vows also, but here is the trick,
I am thinking that if I am able to write my vows out in
the form of a poem, then memorize it, would be the best way,
this way you get through it, it comes from the heart, it is more
real than just repeating the typical wedding vows, let me know if you want a few samples,,,and i'll throw a couple at you, let me know
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lipps, please share some of the samples you have with us. It might help others get a general idea as to where to start. I would appreciate seeing what you have as I am sure that others would also.

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We Have Three Weeks Left, And He Writes Me About Wedding Vows. I Dont Really Want The Pressure Of Remembering Vows, Although Putting Them On Scrolls Is A Wonderful Idea. Among Other Things Such As Emotions; Nervousness, Crying, Etc....but If You Can Pull It Off, I Think It Is Special...congratulations!
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i wrote some wedding vows from my heart and on to paper....i will read it to him when he calls then i will send it as a letter....most likely..when the time comes... i will say something completly different and better
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I like your comment on that. It would be so easy to tell my husband why he is amazing and why I want to spend my life with him even without practice. We are truly meant to be.

Do you feel that even though he is locked behind such huge barriers, that you are the luckiest girl in the world?








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I'm not sure I'm responding correctly, but I just thought I'd share my points of view. Don't worry about looking like a dummy. Don't think about it that way. When you write your fiance and you tell him how much you love him it always comes easily, doesn't it? When you write your vows all it is is declaring your love for him. You love him so tell him why. Think about it and just say it without worrying about how you sound and it'll come out just right. Don't wait to say how you feel when you think it's going to be just right like at the perfect wedding. This is your time. This is your chance. This is your moment. Say it now because believe it or not this is when it's meant to be.
I was married by proxy to my husband who was incarcerated and he wrote his vows to me. Although it wasn't what I would have imagined my marriage to be like it was equally beautiful. The justice of the peace read them to me and it was so loving. So touching. Even though your husband may not be there with you at that moment, you can feel his presence with his loving words as he will feel yours with your declaration of love towards him.

Anyway, I've gone on and on.........lol...........I could go on forever I guess. I just always feel that I have to give my opinion....and it's just that, my opinion.

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good question, i discuss w/my sweetz when he calls!!
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A lot of people get married in prison. I would say it's okay, go through his counselor to get it arranged. I know God says Marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled. I don't know more about it.
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im actually way to shy to recite my vows in front of everybody especisally under those circumstances so i kno im gonna wanna wait but i doubt he is ugh......i think i would be a wreck im a bigg baby when he gets lovie nd gushy
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