Rehabs; co-ed or not ?

[witchlinblue]

Shelby and I were just discussing rehabs I started wondering how everyone feels about co-ed rehabs. Please vote and add your two cents !!!

[AmyLynn]

I dont like the fact that there are co ed rehabs. You have enough to deal with when facing your addiction that you really dont need the other sex trying to push up on you at this time in your life.

[Shelby]

I believe rehabs should never be co-ed. You take a couple of people that are fighting for their lives, they are afraid of facing life without drugs, have so many things in common, and they hook up. Which in turn, takes their focus off of recovery. Rehab romances are doomed to fail, and both partners relapse.

[California Sunshine]

Personally from past experience (ex boyfriend and friends) I agree with Shelby

[FEDhead]

Originally Posted by AmyLynn

I dont like the fact that there are co ed rehabs. You have enough to deal with when facing your addiction that you really dont need the other sex trying to push up on you at this time in your life.

This is so true!! During my stay at a 90 day treatment facility ( which was all female ) one of the issues I worked on STRENUOUSLY with my counselor was my manipulation of men as a means to fuel my addiction. There was so much I had to look at in that area and if there had been men actually at the facility, I would have been much more concerned about getting their attention than in gaining the knowledge and the tools I desperatly needed to embark upon the road to recovery.

[kintml2u]

I agree with the majority so far...Non Co-Ed.

[shiva65]

I know that most rehabs are coed, but there seems to be more sucess and 'working on the core issue's">>> in seperate rehabs. It 's easy to de focus off one self when it is coed.. just my experience.! also from what was said.. yes the relapse rate .. seems to always go hand and hand.. w/ relationships!!!!!!!

someone once said to me.. "Getting into a relationship in recovery is like pouring miracle grow on our character defects">>>>> i never forgot this, because of my own share of .. (recovery relationship)>>>>>>>

Donna

[amanda8088]

Most emphatically, I agree with Shelby and anyone who expressed like-minded opinions!
I have worked in co-ed detoxes, and programs, and nearly EVERY time, an addict or alcoholic will choose to focus on the first needy person, instead of focusing on their recovery!! In fact, they would "hook-up" at the speed of light, and leave the program altogether.

It has never worked that 2 new addicts got sober or clean together, while in the first stages of recovery, even though their lives depended on it!!

An interesting topic!!

Amanda8088

[Homiegirl]

I think co-ed rehabs should not exist as well as co-ed halfway houses either, I dont understand why they do them at all. My man was in a co-ed rehab while out on bond and there were so many girls trying to get on him and it is only natural being in a living situation like that...but I just think it takes away from the focus of their recovery...or the focus of them trying to get on track after incarceration!! Just my 2 cents...

[Shelby]

1st Year of Recovery- Buy a plant.
If it lives,
2nd Year of Recovery- Get a dog.
If it lives,
3rd Year of Recovery- You might be ready for a relationship.

[witchlinblue]

HaHa, I so very much agree with you Shelby. Even then 3rd year might be too soon. It takes so very long to be comfortable in your own skin and mind when getting cleaned up.

[HeSoHandsome]

I voted non-coed, you guys stated the reasons.

[MonkeyBoi77]

Personally it needs to be non coed, I have been there and done it, I have seen the str8 females gawk all the time at the guys and not do their treatment, no offense intented I just call it as I see it, some of the guys are even worse.

Co ed spells trouble to me!

[BlueEyes01]

I aggree with the others as well

[MonkeyBoi77]

Let's think for a moment, if one is serious about recovery, why hinder it with co ed rehabs? If a person is there are they not there to help themselves?