Is this true?? - (wondering how his ex got info & DOC #)

Teardrop · #1 03-08-2003, 12:34 PM

Recently an ex girlfriend of my husband's wrote to him from the county jail. We got in a huge argument about how she got his address and DOC #. He insists that he did not write to her and give her his information. I know that she could get this information off the internet or maybe from calling a phone number but she is in jail and does not have access to these things. A friend of ours said that she could have put in a request at the county jail for this information and they would provide it to her. Does anyone know if this is true?

PixieQueen · #2 03-08-2003, 12:59 PM

She could've even had someone else do it for her on the outside. I don't know what state you're in, but in California, all you have to know about a person to get their location and number, is their name and their birthday. --Helen

lulu · #3 03-08-2003, 01:00 PM

Man, i hate to start any trouble. but, i know that if he is in tx prsion, you cant get no information with you his doc number.
how ever, he is in county. do you think maybe that she could have got it through his family members?

Phil in Paris · #4 03-08-2003, 01:03 PM

I would agree with Helen, she could have asked someone on the outside to check for her.

Phil

flygirlaa2 · #5 03-08-2003, 01:04 PM

I think there are many ways she could have gotten the info. Maybe someone on the outside, maybe even a guard inside. Even though information is susposed to be private, people break the rules all the time.

Has he offered to show you her letters? just curious

Teardrop · #6 03-08-2003, 01:41 PM

He told me that he did not even read the letter that he just had the guard throw it away. I find this suspicious and told him that if she ever writes again that I want him to send me the letter or at least read it to me. I know if someone wrote to me I would definetly want to read it but would not respond. He said that he does not care what she has to say does not even want to read it. I am very upset about the whole thing and have considered writing to her and asking her what she has to say to my husband and telling her to back off. I told my husband this but he expresses concern about her having my address, but maybe he doesnt want her to tell me something? She is in jail for kidnapping a girl and stabbing her four times and I don't want problems with her but I need to know. I have considered getting a po box to write to her. What do you all think?

Teardrop · #7 03-08-2003, 01:45 PM

Lulu, I know that his family did not give her the information because they love me and do not like her at all. She is a troublemaker that only got my husband another felony when she snitched on him. I think maybe someone got it for her but I seriously doubt that the jail gave it to her (she is in county and he is in DOC). I am going to call them and ask them their policy's. It may have been a guard b/c I know when my husband was in the county he had a guard written up for passing messages from her to him.

**Ken** · #8 03-08-2003, 02:03 PM

Teardrop,

Purely my opinion and how I would handle this situation.

I would not write her, I would just leave it be... If you believe your husband, then you may just stir up more trouble by getting into the mix. If he does not read the letters or respond then she will stop.

Don't get me wrong, I can see where you are coming from and I think that I would be upset too if this were happening to me - but I would just let it go.

lulu · #9 03-08-2003, 02:07 PM

Oh so she is in county and he is in prsion, well, she could have got any one to get that info then. I do know that in Tx you cant get nothing with out his doc number. I do know that you can find out by asking someone in such ways

IRIST · #10 03-08-2003, 02:26 PM

TEARDROP, IF I WAS YOU, I WOULD NOT EVEN GIVE HER THE SATISFACTION OF KNOWING THAT THIS HAS CAUSED A PROBLEM BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND. SEEMS LIKE SHE IS A VIOLENT PERSON AND IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN SHE MIGHT GET BACK AT YOU SOME WAY LIKE THAT. SOME PEOPLE GET THEIR KICKS BY CAUSING TROUBLE BETWEEN OLD BOYFRIENDS AND THEIR NEW WIVES. YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND HAVE ENOUGH TO WORRY ABOUT BY HIM BEING IN PRISON. SO LET GO OF THIS, YOU ARE MARRIED TO HIM NOW, AND THAT IS WHAT SHE IS TRYING TO DO, BREAK YOU AND HIM UP OR MAKING YOUR LIFE AS UNHAPPY AS HERS IS NOW. SO JUST CONSIDER THE SOURCE AS I ALWAYS SAY, MAYBE HE DID THROW THE LETTER AWAY WITHOUT READING IT, TAKE HIS WORD IF YOU LOVE HIM. SHE WILL JUST GET A GOOD LAUGH IF YOU BOTHER TO WRITE HER A LETTER, DON'T GIVE HER A REASON TO LAUGH AND BE HAPPY BECAUSE SHE HAS MADE YOU DOUBT YOUR HUSBAND.
I LIKE THE REST I BELIEVE SHE GOT SOMEONE ON THE OUTSIDE TO GET HER THE INF. BUT PUT HER OUT OF YOUR MIND, YOUR MARRIAGE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN A LETTER FROM AN OLD GIRLFRIEND. PUT ALL YOUR ENGERY INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR HUSBAND. JUST MY OPINION HOPE IT HELPS YOU.

Teardrop · #11 03-08-2003, 09:04 PM

Thank you for your support everyone. I am with you all, I will not write her and give her the satisfaction of knowing that she has caused problems. I have decided to believe my husband that he did not read the letter and when he does not respond, then she will get the point and not write again. I am just very upset but it is best to let it go. She is a very violent person; she even hit me when I was pregnant and would have done more if my husband had not stopped her. I totally agree that she would hurt my son if she had the chance. Thank you, Irist and Teb, very good advice and I really appreciate it all. I've just been taking things really hard lately and crying a lot.

lulu · #12 03-08-2003, 10:35 PM

oh my goodness. she sure is something, huh?
All the best to you teardrop

BillysAngel · #13 03-09-2003, 05:40 AM

Teardrop
I'm glad you decided to believe your hubby. Just remember, he probably wouldn't have told you if he had initiated the correspondence. There are a million ways that one can find someone, believe me, I do a little Private Investigating for a few people and public information is easier than you may think to find out. What state are you in and I may be able to help you find out how she did it. I am also glad that you decided to not write to her. That will only give her the satisfaction of knowing that she got you mad

Keep your head up and keep believing in your husband!!
diane

BillysAngel · #14 03-09-2003, 05:41 AM

Oh, I forgot to add that ANY inmate can refuse any mail that comes to them.
diane

Teardrop · #15 03-09-2003, 12:41 PM

Thank you Lulu and Diane!! Diane, I am in Colorado. I know that the info is easy to come by as I found out his info myself very easily when he got placed and could not write for ten days just by making a phone call and giving his birth date. You are right that he would not have told me that she wrote if he had wrote her first and that is the thing that has made me believe in him. Thank you for all of your support when I need it the most!