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Old 02-19-2005, 09:06 PM
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Question xxx love letters

This is the story recently Jeff & I were talking on the phone, when our call ended I could have swore we agreed he would call again the next day. When I didn' receive a call the next day I started panicking. When he says he is going to do something he does it. So of course I was thinking the worse because it had to be something major to keep him from calling as promised. We have a wonderful relationship so I couldn't think of any reason he would be mad and not calling me, so the only thing I started thinking was maybe he got caught doing something he shouldn't have been doing. I worry about our xxx letters getting him in trouble, so that is the 1st thing that came to mind. Anyway it ended up being a big misunderstanding he didn't think we had agreed to call the next day. So now anyway after I had a major heart attack worrying, I now refuse to write him anymore xxx letters. I told him I could not live with myself if something I did got him in trouble and got him a major ticket. At first he said that was ok he had my other letters he could read, but now he just begged me for one last xxx letter, he swears nothing bad will happen and says I worry too much. I don't know what to do. I want to make him happy I know how much he loves those letters as well as any of my other letters, but then I don't think it is worth risking him losing his parole. We are pretty confident he wil be paroled this September. Help I don't know what to do
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Old 02-19-2005, 09:47 PM
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Well each prison has a different mail code and what is allowed, he wont get into trouble for getting those letters he might not get them, or they get sent back. Who knows maybe the mail room people will like the story to much :-)
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Old 02-19-2005, 10:49 PM
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It's doubtful that getting xxx letters would effect his parole decision. I think that ultimately the choice is your's. If you get that worried about it then it's not really worth it. I think that the people in the mailroom have probably read it all anyway.
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Old 02-20-2005, 04:21 AM
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I don't think that your letters will get him in trouble with the board. Keep writing them if you like to write them. If they can't have them they are sent back or thrown away!!!
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Old 02-20-2005, 07:31 AM
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yeah i wouldn't worry to much about your xxx letters... i write them all the time and have yet to run into any problems.. I think they're more worried about xxx pictures then letters..
but the choice is up to you girl.. But i wouldn't worry to much about them.. If you have run into problems yet, the chances are your not going to now...
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Old 02-20-2005, 05:18 PM
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I know that each prison is different, but I send my man XXX letters all the time, and he has never gotten into any trouble. I don't think this is something that you have to worry about too much
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Old 02-20-2005, 09:16 PM
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It's nothing, keep writing if you want and like to. He cannot get into trouble for that, if that was the case why would they allow porn???
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I used to send my guy XXX letters and he got paroled in November The Xrated letters should not have any bearing on parole
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maybe he got caught doing something he shouldn't have been doing.
I know what you are saying, but honestly men dont need to read a XXX letter to do what you are speaking of. I dont know that not sending the letters is going to prevent that risk from taking place. The fact is men will be men and there isnt anything we can do about it. If hes gonna do it then it will happen no matter if he has old letters, new letters or no letters at all. I dont know about other states, but here in Idaho they can get a ticket for that as well. The county jails dont care, but the prison will write you up. Even that being said I dont send those kind of letters very often, but it doesnt stop me from sending them once in a while. We need that connecttion. If we cant share each other then the next best thing is talk about sharing each other.

If the letters are something you both enjoy to stay connected that way then I say do what you have been doing all along.

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Old 02-20-2005, 10:58 PM
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I dont know about where he is, but I know in New York those letters are not a problem. I dont think he could get introuble for a letter talking about sex.
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I dont know about where he is, but I know in New York those letters are not a problem. I dont think he could get introuble for a letter talking about sex.
I could be wrong and maybe I am the only one getting this out of the post, but I think she is talking about what men do while reading the letters. Not the actual letters, but the act that follows.
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Ok. That one went way over my head!!!!! LOL!!!! I think they all do that and I think that they would still continue to even without the letters!!!!
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IT IS TRUE THAT EACH PRISON HAVE THEIR OWN SYSTEM BUT IF HE COULD HAVE GOTTEN IN TROUBLE FOR LETTERS MY FIANCE PROBABLY WOULD HAVE BEEN GOTTEN PUT DOWN FOR LONGER CAUSE WE HAVE THIS SPECIAL LETTERS THAT ARE CALLED PILLOW TALK, WE INTEND TO MAKE A BOOK LIKE LATER, HE WRITES THE FIRST CHAPTER ROLE PLAYING I WRITE THE SECOND AND WE GO ON FROM THERE. WE ARE ON PILLOW TALK 15 NOW, AND HE HAS BEEN DOWN A YEAR, SO IF IT KEEPS YOUR BABY'S HEART BEATING TO HEAR/READ WORDS THAT STIMULATE HIM, BE HAPPY AND DO SO, CAUSE IF HE CAN'T GET CONJUCALS IT'S THE BEST WAY TO GO, IT LETS YOU KNOW YOU CAN STILL GIVE HIM WHAT HE NEEDS EVEN FAR AWAY.
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My husband can have letters and even nude photos, but what a man does with himself while reading those letters or looking at those pics is against prison policy. I cant say this without being any more blunt, but I think if you read the orriginal post very close I think she is talking about being worried he might get caught spanking the monkey....

Here is the part of her post that makes me think this is the problem
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I have written my sweety a lot of XXX letters with no problems...As for what he does while reading them, well he has never actually said that causes problem...interesting and think I will ask him about that.... bobbi
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My husband can have letters and even nude photos, but what a man does with himself while reading those letters or looking at those pics is against prison policy. I cant say this without being any more blunt, but I think if you read the orriginal post very close I think she is talking about being worried he might get caught spanking the monkey....

Here is the part of her post that makes me think this is the problem

TANYA!!! I AM SHOCKED!!!

I think you got right to the point there sister!! I think you are right on with what she is worried about. It is a major ticket - "Sexual Misconduct" to be exact.

To the original poster - I am sure that your honey knows how to be discreet!
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Old 02-26-2005, 12:06 PM
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yes exactly I meant what they do after reading a letter
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I could be wrong and maybe I am the only one getting this out of the post, but I think she is talking about what men do while reading the letters. Not the actual letters, but the act that follows.

Sorry it has been a very hectic week and I haven't even had a chance to check on here. You are exactly right TNC it is not so much the letters but what happens after he reads a letter. I should have just been to the point and said sexual misconduct sorry guys. Anayway your are right again TNC men will be men and I guess it doesn't matter if I write him an XXX letter or not if he is going to do it. He says he gets turned on just by looking at my picture from missing me so much. So at this rate of thinking I will have to stop sending him any pictures of me as wel...lol So I guess it won't matter if I write or not.

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Sorry it has been a very hectic week and I haven't even had a chance to check on here. You are exactly right TNC it is not so much the letters but what happens after he reads a letter. You are right again men will be men and I guess it doesn't matter if I write him an XXX letter or not if he is going to do it. He says he gets turned on just by looking at my picture from missing me so much. So at this rate of thinking I will have to stop sending him any pictures of me as wel...lol So I guess it won't matter if I write or not.
Well I think if those letters are how you two bond then I say go for it. IMO there is no reason to give up the bonding experience for something that very well may happen anyway.

I also think that they know how to be discrete about doing it. You can bet it happens a lot more then what is actually caught
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I Don't Know Where He Is, But Where My Husband Is, It Is Ok. I Know That The People In The Mail Room Be Cracking Up Reading Our Stuff. I Send Him Xxx Letters All The Times. And Sometime I Just Put It Right In The Middle Of A Letter. But If You Are Worried Then Call And Talk To Someone In The Mail Room , Or Ask What Are The Rules.
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Old 02-26-2005, 03:28 PM
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Well I think if those letters are how you two bond then I say go for it. IMO there is no reason to give up the bonding experience for something that very well may happen anyway.

I also think that they know how to be discrete about doing it. You can bet it happens a lot more then what is actually caught
I'm sure your right. I am not niave enough to think it is not going to happen if I don't write him letters, but I would feel horrible if it was because of my letter he did get caught. I know he is discreet he is in level one they can take a private shower...so you know...but still if a guard walked in or something, I don't know I guess I'm being stupid worrying about it. I just want him to come home so bad and I worry too much about something happening to stop that. Thanks for all the advice everyone!
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I'm sure your right. I am not niave enough to think it is not going to happen if I don't write him letters, but I would feel horrible if it was because of my letter he did get caught. I know he is discreet he is in level one they can take a private shower...so you know...but still if a guard walked in or something, I don't know I guess I'm being stupid worrying about it. I just want him to come home so bad and I worry too much about something happening to stop that. Thanks for all the advice everyone!
I understand what your saying about not wanting to be the reason he gets in trouble. Even thought I know men can do that without any pictures or letters I would also feel bad if Chris ever got caught while looking at my picture or reading my letters.

I dont send those kind of letters very often, but when I do I do it just as much for me as for him. Sometimes I just feel in the mood and if I cant have it then the next best thing is write him about it.

Its a tough place to be in when you are trying to focus on him coming home. Either way you decide I do understand where your coming from
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