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Old 01-10-2012, 09:01 AM
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Originally Posted by JJS811 View Post
That I 100% agree with. With a lifer, education is a daily lesson, always something else to be put inside the knowledge box.

In your earlier post you mentioned CDCR. I have learned there is no R (rehabilitation) with the CDCR!
i agree it's the California Dept of CorRuptions
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What I learned from being with a lifer is patience!! LOL
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Old 02-19-2012, 10:45 AM
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YES!!!! He has taught me the meaning of being truly SELFLESS. He showed me that I am capable of loving and being loyal to some one who can not offer me anything but love and devotion in return.Thank you baby ! Muuah
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Among many other things the few that come to mind the quickest are unconditional love, TRUE love, and patience.
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Old 02-19-2012, 10:51 PM
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To comfort him. Unconditional love, patience and don't forget a twisted sense of humor!
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Patience patience patience... And lots of love and to stick by his side..
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Old 07-29-2012, 03:40 AM
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Honestly I'm not even sure if this is a complete list, but this is my list thus far.
I've learned from my lifer:

That I could experience a love this deep and this wide.

That I do not need to mold myself for someone to love me.

That sugar coating my true emotions complicates things and creates a false relationship with no real meaning.

That life is so much better when you are dreaming in the same direction.

That someone's happiness can fill you with a joy you've never known before.

That a letter has the power to change your entire outlook on a day.

That there is no such thing as a good or bad person, only actions deemed good or bad and this is only because a majority gets to make the decisions.

That it is easier to condemn than to understand and forgive.

That sharing yourself at the most vulnerable is real intimacy.

That helping a person fulfill their goals and dreams can make you as happy as if you were accomplishing your own.

That distance even if it is just a piece of glass between you, can make you crave the simplest of touch so badly you'd think your thoughts were cardinal.

That turning back saying goodbye, knowing you can leave and he can't, is one of the most crushing experiences you can have and yet it is a necessary evil if you want to see him.

That I am emotionally stronger than I ever thought possible.

That loving him, and letting myself fall in love with him is the best decision I have ever made in my life.

I'm still working on the patience...

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Old 07-29-2012, 11:42 AM
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So beautifully put and so on point, Cornellcutie1!
We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly ~ Sam Keen
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Old 08-02-2012, 01:01 AM
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Do you want the truth?

What I've learned from being with my lifer is:

1. People in prison can be some of the most brilliant, creative and compassionate souls you will find anywhere.

2. Love can be found and sustained in the most unsuspecting places. Walls and wire are no barrier to joy.

3. Never do this again.

"What do we live for if not to make life less difficult for each other?" George Eliot
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Always... and, from point #3... thanks.
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Old 08-13-2012, 07:56 AM
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If I had to describe in words, I would NEVER stop talking!
Unable to articulate LIFE with a LIFER, it's in the SOUL.
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[i]loving and living was worth the wait[:d/i].
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Old 09-05-2012, 07:55 PM
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Not much I could add to ur list but he has taught me that there is someone who loves me for me and means what he says
il mio cuore e il tuo per sempre
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He's taught me that there is still good men out there. Lol. Patience. Respect. Communication. Growing up in many ways. True love. Foundation of a real relationship. Not to be judgemental. He's my inspiration. Helps me focus. Keep me grounded. My motivation.
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