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View Poll Results: How long did it take to meet physically ur MWI + any regrets?
1 day,1 week (up to six months) and it was great.We bonded so fast.No regrets. 13 36.11%
Took a minute,but we are closer than ever.We are engaged/each other's BFF!!! 5 13.89%
took me 1-3yrs because i was frighten.But now, we are closer than ever.No regrets. 9 25.00%
We both agreed to "wait" until he get out. So far,no regrets!!! 3 8.33%
I do not plan on going to see such person. We just talk,write,email etc. 1 2.78%
YES i have many regrets.Glad he or she is out of my life now. 3 8.33%
Other...Please comment below.Thank you! 4 11.11%
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Old 07-13-2017, 08:15 AM
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How long did you take to meet(in the physical sense) your man,loved one,or your woman (in person)

Also,do any of you out here in the MWI world do you have "any regrets?" Now, I am one who does not (at this time) have any regrets & he is almost home this year.

But,i also know the real test is when the partner/loved one of ours is around us regularly,out here in the real world ya know. LOL When mi bff fiancee' es no longer in the D.O.C.
Thank you, in advance, for also voting in mi new poll. Have a great day/safe evening out there,and hugs -n-blessings to all Pto'ers.adios.
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It took me approx. one year from the first letter to the first visit and now 2,5+ years after the first letter we're a couple. The "deep dive physical" part has to wait a bit longer but we've been pretty frisky the last time (second visit) we've had
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It took me around a year before our first meeting and it was so good. We had already become a couple but that first meeting proved to us both that we were meant to be together. Just under 2 years later we were married and I have no regrets at all.
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It took 7 months after my first letter. The visit was in April and I'm ready to go back but probably won't until after Winter. No regrets. I just miss his pretty face.
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A little over a year from first letter to first visit. Another year and a half'ish to get married. Regrets? No, but I will say that I had no idea how I would feel about doing this five years into it. I love him, but this is hard. If it were to end, I would never MWI again.
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It took me almost 2 years .. I was so nervous and the day I finally went I took his sister (my bestie) with me.. I sat on my hands the whole time and probably only said 2 sentences. We laugh about it all the time now, but I do regret waiting so long, at the time he was only 45 minutes away, 6 months later he got moved 2 hours away. But it only helped make us stronger and yes we have regular weekly visits ♡
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I found my now fiance on a pen-pal site in November 2015, we met in person for the first time when I went to visit him on February 12, 2016, we are now at 555 days till his release date. My only regret is that I didn't find him sooner.....but I will say if for some reason things were to not work out with him, I would not MWI again, it's a very challenging stressful roller coaster! ....wouldn't want to ride it twice.
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I'd just like to say Amen to the thought of ever trying this again! I'm nearly 3 years into loving Randi Lynn, but since she's federal, and I didn't know her before, I'll not see her until I go to pick her up upon release. She's been in ISO 5 times, and was recently transferred to the Oklahoma transfer center. I had a few emails from her, then they moved her to Lovejoy Georgia, where we exchanged a few phone calls, and they are moving her again, probably to Aliceville Alabama, but since there is no rdap program there, which she started in FCI Waseca, Minnesota, she says they have to move her yet again to Hazelton, W Virginia. It's been nearly 3 weeks since I've heard anything at all from her, so I have no idea where she is, how she is, and where she is going, for sure. There is no way I would take this journey again. I surely hope she is released next year as she forecasts, but the way things can change, I have little confidence that it will happen. Whew! This ain't easy, right?
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I'd just like to say Amen to the thought of ever trying this again! I'm nearly 3 years into loving Randi Lynn, but since she's federal, and I didn't know her before, I'll not see her until I go to pick her up upon release. She's been in ISO 5 times, and was recently transferred to the Oklahoma transfer center. I had a few emails from her, then they moved her to Lovejoy Georgia, where we exchanged a few phone calls, and they are moving her again, probably to Aliceville Alabama, but since there is no rdap program there, which she started in FCI Waseca, Minnesota, she says they have to move her yet again to Hazelton, W Virginia. It's been nearly 3 weeks since I've heard anything at all from her, so I have no idea where she is, how she is, and where she is going, for sure. There is no way I would take this journey again. I surely hope she is released next year as she forecasts, but the way things can change, I have little confidence that it will happen. Whew! This ain't easy, right?
Definitely not easy! I can relate to the constant moving around, my guy, also in federal, has moved over 5x in the last 7 months, we are currently waiting for him to transfer yet again. It makes communicating sporadic, I can't wait for him to get to a half-way house next summer!

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It took me 2yrs and on our first visit we got married and still going strong. On the 16th December we'll be celebrating our 1st year of marriage.
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First night I worked there... and saw his nickname--I was intrigued by his nickname. As time went on I learned more about him--from his counselor, unit manager and wardens... 4 years later we were 1 on 1--year after that I left. Few months later we married--- now 17 years later and he with a life WITH sentence we are still together......... Go figure :-)
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A mutual friend asked me to write him in Jan 2013...we wrote for a bit, then I quit writing because I was starting to really like him and I was NOT getting involved. In Sept of 13, I decided I should have seen where it went and asked my friend for his address again. While I was trying to write and explain why I quit writing, I got a letter from him. We decided to become a couple in November 2013... In March 2014, I packed my car, grabbed my bff and we we're off to Arizona. We had an agreement that if I wasn't feeling it after meeting him in person, we would go back to Illinois. When I wasn't back at the hotel by noon, she knew I was staying.

Anyway, it was a year and a couple months from when I sent the first letter that we met. He was released to my address in Phoenix in August 14 and we we're married Sept 9th. The only regret I have is that I quit writing him for all those months. He's amazing and I have never been loved the way he loves me. He went back in Nov 14 and just got out in May. The adjustment for both of is us a bit rough, but I have no regrets where he is concerned. I'm so thankful I decided to take my crazy behind to Arizona to meet him and spend time with him. We wouldn't be where we are now had I not had that first visit.
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It took me approx. one year from the first letter to the first visit and now 2,5+ years after the first letter we're a couple. The "deep dive physical" part has to wait a bit longer but we've been pretty frisky the last time (second visit) we've had
omg. i won't ask "ummm what and or how frisk"but i love that. gracia chica.
Thanks for your response Miz! too cute.
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It took 7 months after my first letter. The visit was in April and

I'm ready to go back but probably won't until after Winter.

No regrets. I just miss his pretty face.

i m loving this awww. i hope you're able to go in winter,and i love the post response so far, thanks every one at PTO. Gracia.
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In my case it took 7 months to see her. This was due in part because her visitor list could only be updated twice a year during certain months, but she is also very careful. I was on her phone list for at least a month before she first called. I was "background checked" by her brother, her mom and her best friend. I had no problem with that at all.

I don't know if I could ever get use to going into prison, but our friendship allows us to be so at ease with other. The first compliment she ever gave me was that it was easy to talk to me. It goes both ways. Even to this day I can watch her when she first sits down with me and just see her settle in and relax, even in those terrible visiting room chairs. lol.
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I visited after 4 months of writing, maybe a month into talking on the phone. I do not regret visiting although it may have promoted the idea I could come more often than I can. A week after, we were already saying we need another visit.
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Started writing him in Aug 2008, met him for the first time Dec. 24, 2009 and fell deeper in love then before I'd met him (which was very deep). Still together and he gets out next month. I wouldn't do it again. Its so hard! (Especially having 2500 miles between us!)
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We live on different continents and I can't afford a flight over the big water for the time being, so meeting in person right now is not an option. If I could though, I'd be on the next plane.
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. It's been nearly 3 weeks since I've heard anything at all from her, so I have no idea where she is, how she is, and where she is going, for sure. There is no way I would take this journey again. I surely hope she is released next year as she forecasts, but the way things can change, I have little confidence that it will happen. Whew! This ain't easy, right?
aw. well, i am really hoping tonight you're going to hear from your sweet lady, soon. Real soon.and yep. this is not easy at all. I got like just about five long yrs in.Not easy...But so far mi fiancee/bff is making it all worth it. (The wai Thanks for your vote, to all of PTO. Good night.hugs and blessings to you all.adios.
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Started writing him in Aug 2008, met him for the first time Dec. 24, 2009 and fell deeper in love then before I'd met him (which was very deep). Still together and he gets out next month. I wouldn't do it again. Its so hard! (Especially having 2500 miles between us!)
That's really nice .. I wish you and your loved one so much luck,and keep us at PTO posted, when he is home.

"*hugs and blessings to you tonight, chica." 1 month will be here before you know it. G-night. and yes that is alot of miles lol but well worth it! So sweet.
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We agreed to wait until he gets out to meet. We will finally do that in 27 days, I am now so glad we did it this way. When I meet him he will be a free man. Now that it's so close it's like Christmas is coming for both of us. i know the way we are doing it is not the most poplular idea around PTO, but each couple is individual and it is working for us. I was encouraged to see by the poll we are not alone in waiting.
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I met him on a pen pal site. After 3 months of talking on phone I went to visit him. Since he's in a different state and I have to fly to, I made a vacation out of it. I stayed for 3 days; seeing him each day and staying for the entire 8 hours of visitation each day.

I was so relieved to have the same connection we have over the phone. We had shared tons of pictures but I was even more impressed in person.

After that visit our bond became so much stronger. Seeing his mannerisms and getting a chance to touch & kiss took it to the next level. We were both so sad I had to leave.

I'm making another trip back soon and thinking about moving to him. He'll be out in 2 years but I can't imagine having to be so far away from him for so long. The trips are expensive lol

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