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Old 01-18-2011, 01:30 PM
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Unhappy Help! He got a tattoo inside prison......

Hello Ladies,
I honestly don't know how to go about this situation. Please help me! My boo gets out of prison in about a week or so and I am super excited (of course). I haven't seen him in over 3 years and I can't wait to give him a hug and kiss. My only concern is the sex.... He got a tattoo in prison and I am looking out for my personal health. How should I handle the situation when he wants to get intimate with me? I don't know if he has an STD or anything, but I am just scared because prison needles aren't the cleanest. I would like to BOTH go to a center and get checked, but how do I bring this up to him without him getting mad or feeling hurt by my decision. I am confused on what to do. Our situation is complicated too, but to make it short.... we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend but we both extremely care for each other and I'm sure once he gets out we'll be a couple. I have supported him 100% while he has been incarcerated.....

What should I do?????


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Old 01-18-2011, 01:33 PM
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In the prisons my man has been in they test them on their way in and on their way out. Ask him if this is the case where he is at and if not then tell him he needs to be tested upon release. It can save a life.
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Old 01-18-2011, 01:38 PM
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Don't do anything you arent comfortable with!

Have him get tested, meanwhile, don't touch his blood. Good luck!
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Old 01-18-2011, 01:42 PM
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Yea I need to stop freaking out.... I am just so nervous that he is coming home so soon (10 days).... AHHHHH
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Old 01-18-2011, 01:42 PM
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Well first off use protection.....Then just be big kids and discuss the two of you going to a clinic and getting tested if you do become that couple. He can't get a STD from getting a tattoo but he can get Hep.C ....
He could only get a STD from transfer of sexual bodily fluids.
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He can't get a STD from getting a tattoo but he can get Hep.C ....
He could only get a STD from transfer of sexual bodily fluids.
Hep C can only be transmitted through blood contact. It rare that it gets passed to another through having sex. It's a blood borne disease.
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Don't do anything you not comfortable with. And if he really cares about you he will not get mad or upset about you trying to protect yourself.
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My guy has gotten a few while he has been locked down, and he already knows that before we do ANYTHING sexual he is to get tested WITH ME, because it's not a chance I'm willing to risk. I love him to death, but hell, I've waited 2 years so far without being intimate, I'm sure I can wait another week once he gets out.
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Hep C can only be transmitted through blood contact. It rare that it gets passed to another through having sex. It's a blood borne disease.
That's what I meant you can get Hep C from getting a Tattoo in Prison and a STD can NOT be gotten by getting a Tattoo
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Yea. My husband got one too. I told him the same thing. "I love you, but I got to love myself a little more".
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Thanks everybody..... Before he got locked up we didn't get tested either and so I don't know if the prison takes care of anything if he would have had something. I don't have a problem saying no or waiting, its been this long already! I just wanted to make sure other people shared my concerns
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Hey Hesmychamp,

Congrats on his upcoming release.

My man got a few prison tats and like you I was concerned. When he asked me to get married, I agreed on the condition that he be tested and MAIL the results to me. If all was well, I was to become his Mrs. He wasn't upset or offended because he knew I was dead serious. Once I received his file, we set the date.



Its a matter of life and death, so you shouldn't be afraid to speak to him about it.


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