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Old 09-10-2017, 12:51 AM
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After 16 years in either jail or prison, given an indeterminate sentence of anywhere from 4 years to life, my husband is out and in a halfway house. We're both in shock- we really didn't expect that this day would ever arrive, especially since he had been denied parole this past April for no apparent reason.

Now- he's not technically on parole yet, but he's been allowed to go to the halfway house and he is doing very well there so far.

Those of you waiting for indeterminate sentences, or life with possibility of parole- keep going! There is light at the end of this tunnel.

Those of you who are LWOP, I'm sorry and I really hope your circumstances change someday. That takes a lot of guts to remain in a relationship like that, and I would have if that was my situation too.
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I'm just so happy �� that's amazing
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Revenwyn, that's amazing news; I hope they don't change their minds again!

Would he be on lifetime parole?
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Whooo hooo! That is Great news May your journey continue with the next step being his Coming HOME
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What a blessing!!!! I have always loved your story it's like you two are just meant to be together. Please keep sharing on how your transition in life goes. How exciting I probably wouldn't be able to sleep if I were you! I wish you the best!
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Oh is such happy news for you both. I really hope he can come home soon and you can continue your lives together.
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Revenwyn, that's amazing news; I hope they don't change their minds again!

Would he be on lifetime parole?
Yes, until the laws change, he will have lifetime parole.

What he told me is they really don't bother past about 5 years or so though.
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Oh is such happy news for you both. I really he can come home soon and you can continue your lives together.
Thank you for posting your positive story.
Well I'll have to find a place for us to go- difficult since I will need to move there and I currently am disabled to the point where people won't hire me but the government thinks I just need an understanding employer.

I also have to convince his therapist that he didn't "groom" me, because she can't see any reason why I would be with him otherwise. :-(
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That is amazing news. I have been following your journey and I am so happy that he is now in a half way house and you will finally be able to spend the rest of your life with him as a free man. Congrats. God Bless.
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I'm so happy for you!!! I'm not giving up hope on mine and things do look so flipping bright!!!
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After 16 years in either jail or prison, given an indeterminate sentence of anywhere from 4 years to life, my husband is out and in a halfway house. We're both in shock- we really didn't expect that this day would ever arrive, especially since he had been denied parole this past April for no apparent reason.

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Those of you waiting for indeterminate sentences, or life with possibility of parole- keep going! There is light at the end of this tunnel.

Those of you who are LWOP, I'm sorry and I really hope your circumstances change someday. That takes a lot of guts to remain in a relationship like that, and I would have if that was my situation too.
Congrats to your and your hubby and good luck to him!!!!!
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What amazing news! I am so happy for you both! Positive things CAN happen!
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WHAT?! Wowee!! I am so thrilled for your two! Yay! You've come this far-you two will be able to meet and overcome the challenges that still lie ahead! Do keep us posted with how things continue go proceed! : )
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Unfortunately, about a month after he got out, his new parole officer decided that he must have manipulated me into marrying him, because otherwise why would anyone marry him? She didn't even talk to me to ask me. She just decided to cut all contact between us.

I don't know when or if it will ever be lifted. And there's no real way to fight it either without the possibility of revoking his halfway house privilege.
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Is there any superior to appeal to? That's a horrible requirement!
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That's as awful as any of the horror stories I've read, or experienced from "badge heavy" government employees. POs, or their bosses often listen to judge's orders, so my advice is to talk to a lawyer to see if you, or your husband have any viable options to pursue.
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Unfortunately, about a month after he got out, his new parole officer decided that he must have manipulated me into marrying him, because otherwise why would anyone marry him? She didn't even talk to me to ask me. She just decided to cut all contact between us.

I don't know when or if it will ever be lifted. And there's no real way to fight it either without the possibility of revoking his halfway house privilege.
I was so happy to see that he is out....and now this I really hope you can find a way to appeal and somehow have the situation solved! Thinking of you and hoping for the best - please keep us posted!
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I don't know anything. I guess neither of you read the posted update at the end of this. They cut off our communication almost two months ago. I'm not allowed to talk to him or even find out anything about him. Because I'm possibly on the autism spectrum, they believe that developmentally I am not capable of consenting to marriage and that he manipulated me into it. This was all decided without even talking to me.

My birthday's tomorrow and I won't be hearing from him.
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