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View Poll Results: Whats your BIGGEST fear that you have?
That he will cheat (either on the inside or after) 153 15.79%
That he will re-offend 245 25.28%
That he will get hurt in prison 280 28.90%
Other 291 30.03%
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Old 10-11-2009, 10:40 AM
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I'm definitely scared that he'll screw up in the future and wind up in prison. I'm lucky that my man is in a halfway house, but he was sentenced to 9 years. He can get out of ComCor in as little as 6 months, but he still has to serve the remainder of those 9 years with an ankle bracelet, a curfew and UA tests... The judge was very clear with him that if he breaks the rules, he goes to prison for the remainder of his sentence.

In the past, Matt has screwed up until something woke him up, and then he gets his head on straight...for awhile. Then he screws up again. Having a history of drug abuse, he's had everything from going to jail to being hospitalized be his wake up call. I know he's a changed man, but we all have the ability to fall back into our old patterns or lifestyles.

That being said, it is definitely my biggest fear that he'll get out of the ComCor facility and on his ankle bracelet, and then he'll start to slack because he's not technically "locked up." And once he breaks the rules...it's prison and a broken heart for me.

Although, he never had me when he was locked up in the past, and I know he loves me and he's told me he doesn't want to do anything that would jepoardize his relationship with me, so hopefully love will conquer all the odds!
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my biggest fear is that we wont be together when he gets out. since we're goin through shit now I have that feeling in the back of my mind..
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My biggest fear is me lying in a hospital bed dying alone and not being able to make love to him as my husband.

BUT THAT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!!!
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That when he does come home that he will revert back to his old ways. That this little stint won't teach him a lesson.
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My biggest fear is me lying in a hospital bed dying alone and not being able to make love to him as my husband.

BUT THAT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!!!

Not it's not going to happen! You have the V.I.C.T.O.R.Y!
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my biggest fear..is him not being able to find a job. He is soooo ready to come home and be with me and have a family. And im afraid him not finding a job is going to make him fall backwards.
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Old 10-11-2009, 05:04 PM
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i would say that he would re-offend, but its more than that.. my biggest fear is that he will turn back to drugs again, sometime in our lives. if he does, i will have to leave i dont want to lose him, so that is my biggest fear.
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my biggest fear..is him not being able to find a job. He is soooo ready to come home and be with me and have a family. And im afraid him not finding a job is going to make him fall backwards.
That is also one of my biggest fears. My man used to make really good money before all of this happened and now he has lost it all. When he comes home he will be starting from ground zero. While the prospect of us being able to build our lives together is an exciting one, it is also scary as everything is going to riding on me. I've been being some what propped up for the last few months, but now he's about to be released in a few weeks. I have to get us a brand new place, clothes for him, and I'm looking at buying some new furniture too. He's never been in any trouble before this and now he could end up with a felony on his record. I'm nervous, but I have to be strong. I'm sure things will work out the way they were supposed to work out...
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My biggest fear is that hes just messin with my head and/or using me now cuz he has no one else. He likes the attention I give him while hes down. He has NEVER given me a reason to doubt his sincerity but I still have insecure thoughts that maybe when he gets out....after I've waited for him this whole time.....that he'll just move on in a different direction without me and I'll have wasted years of my life waiting for nothing....
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My biggest fear is that when he comes home he will not be able to be the Husband, father, and not be out in the streets. I will not do another sentence.
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My biggest fear is that something will happen to one of us, and the other will be left alone, before he gets out.
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One of my fears WAS that he would come home and cheat on me. I am not worried about him reoffending, or getting hurt in jail because thats general worries at this point. We been through so much in our life mainly dealing with him cheating and me stepping off for YEARS. I use to just worry about that. I really dont have any more fears, because its all in God's hands and that is where I will put my trust in.
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I worry that he will go back to jail.
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I worry that he will get hurt if i get a call in the middle of the night my heart drops everytime i just want anything to happen to him
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Im scared to lose him to the system.Scared he will never change and scared i wont even know who he is when he's released.He will have spent 18-31 in prison.
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I coudnt decive if my biggest Fear is for him to get hurt , or for him to be a diferent man once he is out . I knew him before this trip to Jail ,and I'm more inlove with him that when he was out ... and I'm so exited for him to come home , but I'm scared thar he will not be the same !
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My biggest fear is that we might not be able to be together right away after he is out.....my child graduates High school this year and he comes out about 2 months before that........I don't want him to stay in this area as neither do I but I don't want him far away either......
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I'm scared of the adjustment after he's released. He will have been in for 8 years. I already see changes in his attitude (anger, resentment, ect.) and I'm scared he won't know how to cope out here, even with my help. I worry about him adjusting to the kids, and them adjusting to him. I'm worried that something will happen to one of us before he comes home. As far as him re-offending, it crosses my mind sometimes, but I'm not consumed by that fear. He knows if he goes back again, it will probably be for life, and I couldn't put me or our sons through that. I have to give my boys a chance at a "normal" life. I worry we won't be compatible anymore...
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I would have to say that my BIGGEST FEAR is that he'll get hurt ot sick and won't be taken care of like he should.....
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I think my biggest fear out of all of this is that we have a 1 yr. old and we are due in december and im afraid that he will miss being there when our other son is born and that he will miss out on some of our 1 yr olds best memories. I wish he could have been here to see his son walk for the first time and even now that he is walking i wish he could be here.
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M angel is serving quiite a long setence so I'd have to say my biggest fear is that he will go back to prison.
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Its a bunch of things really.

I know that he will not re-offend, or do anything to end up back in there. Hell he even promised me that he wouldnt speed so he wouldnt see a cop again. LMFAO- i dont think that'll happen, but >shrugs< whatever.

Its not so much that he'd cheat on me when he's in there, or when he's out. I'm just afraid that he'd leave me when he got out, after all the time I'll be waiting on him. - I do not want another man EVER, I love him with my entire heart, thats why I'm waiting on him. I'm just afraid, even though he says he'll never leave me, and that he loves me more than anything and everyone in the world, I'm still scared of it.

I'm scared of him getting hurt while in there. I'm terrified of that as well. He's about 5'10" but still SO thin. I'm afraid at times that I'll break him, and I'm not that big :P- he's fragile i swear.

He gets along with everyone, which could be a good thing and a bad thing. He's got a few big guys that act like his body guards :P - I had to laugh at him when he called me about a month into him begin locked up. He made friends with the biggest darkest guy in there. So you've got the big built bad guy, and the tiny pale ass skinny boy as best friends.. it'd totally remind you of 'big bubba' i guess you could say, but in NO way is it like that :P THANK GOD! They're both uber thankful of each other

I'm terrified that he'll have a panic attack, an asthma attack, or something of that nature and he wont get the attention he needs and something will happen to him.

Those are just a few things i'm scared of-all pretty equally too
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Old 10-21-2009, 06:51 AM
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I dont really have a fear.. but the concerns that do have is really between me and him
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I'm scared of the adjustment period as well. I have really grown and changed sense he has been in. I'm not the same person I was. I am stronger and more independant. He has changed as well. I can tell because his whole outlook on life is different. His attitude has changed. I guess I'm scared of all the changes we have made allthough they are for the better I'm scared that he will have a hard time adjusting to the new me once he is back home.
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