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View Poll Results: How much do you send your MWI monthly?
$1 - $49.99 51 14.29%
$50.00 - $99.99 91 25.49%
$100 - $150 69 19.33%
I'm ballin' and I send more 42 11.76%
I don't send money 104 29.13%
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Old 02-15-2018, 12:58 PM
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Currently none. After about 2 years of us communitcating, i sent about 15/month for about 4-5 months when him and his mother fell out.
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Old 02-15-2018, 12:59 PM
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My MWI taught me a good lesson. We got married a year after we started writing. He was always asking me for money and at the time I had a good job so it was okay. The phone bill was always over $300 a month (close to $20 a call in 2002-2003). Plus visits 5 hours drive each way and the vending machine money and packages. Then I threatened to divorce him because he never wrote...said he had nothing to say. Well, he went in the hole and went cold turkey on a few things. That's where all my money had been going! But he got off it all and wanted to start sending me money! I refused because I knew what he had to do to get it. I got laid off so I was hurting for money. I didn't send him anymore money or packages, I just paid the phone bill. I waited for him 7 years. We we're great for three years when he got out and then he went back to his old ways and we got a divorce. That was 4 years ago. He is now back in prison and we are writing again. I send him packages and phone money. That's what I would do for a friend so I will do it for him. Oh, we are getting remarried as soon as we can. He has 3 more years. Do what you can afford and won't feel used for.
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I can only send him $30 a month right now after putting money on our phone. He never complains because he would rather us have $ on the phone. He also knows that I got bills and kids.
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Old 03-18-2018, 07:17 AM
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He never asks for anything besides books, so I never have a problem sending those. I typically send $100+ monthly.
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I put $25 on his jpay account and pay for the calls This only started last month He has never asked ,it was my decision The phone calls are really cheep as i have a local number to him he phone's on a friday and Saturday night
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He doesnít want me to do anything. He says you are a single mom and I put myself here - it isnít your responsibility. He wants to do for me, not the other way around. However I donít listen lol because I know he needs to get things and while I canít do a lot I send 20-30 every two weeks, whatever I can do. I also keep money for stamps on JPay but thatís super cheap & for phone calls which since itís local for me is $1.60 a call. Itís for both of us because communication helps us both so much get through the days. ♥️
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Old 04-26-2018, 11:32 AM
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My MWI taught me a good lesson. We got married a year after we started writing. He was always asking me for money and at the time I had a good job so it was okay. The phone bill was always over $300 a month (close to $20 a call in 2002-2003). Plus visits 5 hours drive each way and the vending machine money and packages. Then I threatened to divorce him because he never wrote...said he had nothing to say. Well, he went in the hole and went cold turkey on a few things. That's where all my money had been going! But he got off it all and wanted to start sending me money! I refused because I knew what he had to do to get it. I got laid off so I was hurting for money. I didn't send him anymore money or packages, I just paid the phone bill. I waited for him 7 years. We we're great for three years when he got out and then he went back to his old ways and we got a divorce. That was 4 years ago. He is now back in prison and we are writing again. I send him packages and phone money. That's what I would do for a friend so I will do it for him. Oh, we are getting remarried as soon as we can. He has 3 more years. Do what you can afford and won't feel used for.
Wow you certainly didn't learn on the first round!!!
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Old 04-26-2018, 12:38 PM
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D has asked me to send like 15-20 dollars twice...in 13 years! lol I send him some every now and then just because i can and i want to and he always gives me heck for it ; ) He feels bad like he owes me and can't repay me, even tho i tell him he doesn't owe me and i did it bc i wanted to.
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Zero. He has a job in there & doesn't even like me paying for phone account.
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I didn't send money until the last 4 months of his incarceration.
He had a good job and he's good with money- then he lost that job and I offered to send money because he spent all his savings from the last 7 years on me.
I figured I could do my part
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Wow you certainly didn't learn on the first round!!!
You need to get some self esteem and cut him off not remarrying him that will not fix h u need to work on loving u so u can love someone else who deserves your love and not stay with him out of guilt or because u feel u cant do better and or u like him.being in control so u dont have to feel the pain of what is really going on in ur life so u feel needs to fix him
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None , he won't have it. I pay for our phone calls and Jpays. He has a job and some family members help him if he needs it.
He has told me all he needs from me is me and 2 years on he has been true to his word.
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I send enough for our calls for the month ($1.80 a day is roughly $50 a month) plus a few extra bob in case he needs deodorant/soap ect. Usually $80-$100 a month. I also sent him a securepak as a Christmas gift. He doesn’t have a job or family support and personally happy to send a little bit to make him a bit more comfortable I sent it unsolicited FYI, he’s never asked for anything.
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Old 01-06-2019, 09:45 AM
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Over the past year I sent occasional gifts as his Dad and Aunt were sending money. But since is Aunt is not impressed with his decision to marry me she has cut him off. She wants him to move states to parole with her and be her primary care giver as she is elderly and unwell. She doesn’t want a wife in this picture! He can’t work currently where he is and because of his OCD often refuses food trays so relies massively on canteen. I have started sending $100 a month to make sure he eats! He is sad about it but very appreciative. There is no way I could leave him suffering. We are a partnership.
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I only send money when he ask, he rather me put money on the phone more than on his books. I roughly spend about 250 a month on the phone and then 10 - 15 a month for stuff he needs to order. I don't mind though he only ask when he needs cosmetics and I love him so I always help him out.
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