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Old 07-06-2006, 09:40 PM
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FIRST ME AND MY MAN HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 12 YEARS NOW, AND SINCE HE HAS BEEN LOCKED UP (3 MONTHS) HE HAS TOLD ME IT WILL BE OK TO FIND ME A GUY TO JUST HAVE SEX WITH, BUT I HAVE TOLD HIM NO I CAN WAIT FOR HIM. MY QUESTION IS : ANYBODY THAT HAS TAKING THEIR MAN'S ADVICE AND DID JUST THAT OR IGNORED HIM AND WAITED
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Old 07-06-2006, 09:46 PM
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Well for me, it made me mad when that came out of his mouth via a letter... I wrote him back telling him how much I loved him and that the only man I want is him.. I explained that a relationship is so much more than just the physical aspect of it.. Yes I get lonely sometimes but never enough to ruin the wonderful relationship we have together!!!
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Old 07-06-2006, 09:50 PM
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My husband would never tell me anything like that .. He has asked me to wait and it was something i didnt even hesitate to agree too cause we are married and I just couldnt see myself with anyone else..
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Old 07-06-2006, 10:15 PM
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Well, before we were married, my man sort of implied that it would be okay if I had to do my thing occasionally, he just didn't wanna know about it. Though I had many opportunities, I chose not to, out of respect for him and myself.

When we got married, we made a vow to be faithful to each other, and we both take that vow very seriously. While he might have been okay with me having a sex buddy before, now that we're married, he expects me to be faithful, and I expect the same from him, regardless of the circumstances.
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My boyfriend did tell me he would understand if I wanted to "date" someone else while he is incarcerated.He stated although it would tear him up to know that,he wouldnt blame me.I just wrote him back and told him he is the only man I want,if I cant have him,Ill do without!!
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Well, My boyfriend has told me that he will not expect me to be alone through out the time he is away and will understand if I wanna find someone to do my thing but I don't feel the need to because he has everything I want and I don't need the sex if its not with him...
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I have tried to get him to agree because thats what I want but he is ot going for it. He says this is his stuff.
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Old 07-07-2006, 03:10 PM
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My husband and I had this conversation once and basically what came out of it was "Oh HELL NO is that ok..." Not that I mind casue I would rather wait on him than go out and sleep with someone. I don't need the touch of another man, I need his touch.
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Hell no, it wouldn't be ok. I think he'd have a flippin fit, then end up in the hole it would just ruin his day to say the least. I wouldn't anyways.
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My man has told me that in his past relationships, he allowed the women to have a sex buddy, BUT that with me he just couldn't do that he loved me truly and too much to deal with the thought of another man touching what is his and what he can't touch right now.
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I agree with Jazzy!!!
I would be upset w/him if he even mentioned anything like that lol.
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Well, my boyfriend said to not stop living while he is locked up (10 year sentence); he did not/does not expect me to stop my life.

I am married to his best friend, and I have his best wishes. Of course, I can have both of them, so I'm not complaining.

Just as if the situations were reversed, I would not be so selfish as to expect him to stop his life. I do not own him, and he does not own me. We are all human, and having that human touch is simply human nature, IMHO. Whether you decide to be with someone intimately or not is on your conscience, not anyone else's.
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Huh?????? Crow,did I read that correctly? Your boyfriend is your husbands best friend?
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ok i am going to respond to this and many of you will probably be ready to bash me but i am tough i can take bashing.my man did say that i could have sex with others while he was in the only thing he said was for me not to do it with anyone held run across when he got out and that i didnt get into a relationship with them.Did i do it? Well yes i did. It got me thinking why would he say yes if he loved me as much as he said he did.so i figured hey he doesnt love me as much as i thought he did so i went and did my thing.I also would go to visits with hickeys on my neck trying to rub it into his face to see what if any reaction i got to it.my hubby can hide his emotions real well.well one day i just came out and asked him if he loved me as much as he said he does then how can he be okay with me having sex with others.he told me the reason he said i could is because he knew eventually it would happen and if he told me not to and i did anyway it would be the end of us and that if he said he was okay with it then he wouldnt have to lose me.you would just have to understand my hubby to understand the way he thinks.anyways 2 beautiful kids was the result of me having others while he is in which he claims both of them. and they both call him daddy.to make a long story short after the talk i no longer went with others for sex.and i also told him to be a man and not a mouse and tell me when he dont want me to do things.sometimes i wish i never said for him to tell me what he dont want me doing but that is the evil twin i have that just cant seem to behave
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Huh?????? Crow,did I read that correctly? Your boyfriend is your husbands best friend?

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Wow!!!!! Wow,whoa,wow!!!! :d
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Those words would NEVER come outta my man's mouth. We have a commitment to one another. In our case we don't have sex with others...

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That Would Never...ever Come Out His Mouth Especially Now That We R Married....besides I Cant Even Begin To See Myself Having Sexual Relations W/ Another Man...im Too Hooked On My Husband!!!!!!!
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