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Old 09-03-2019, 04:16 AM
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We have prison pen pal forums too, take your pick of where to post.
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Hi all,
Im completely new to this forum so please bare with me
I started writing my pen pal only a few months back. We get along so well and have alot in common. A week or so ago he had asked me to make it "official" lol. We both admitted to falling quite early on. So hopefully things continue this way :-) Only real issue we are having is that because im Australia and he is in CA getting the phone to work is quite the challenge .
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Old 11-09-2019, 11:14 AM
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Good morning everyone,

I met my LO while he's lockdown in San Quentin on deathrow. We've been together a yr Nov 17 & it is hard to be with him cause he's on deathrow but I love him to the moon back & won't ever leave him to do this time by himself & we're getting married on VDAY
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I met my LO while he's lockdown in San Quentin on deathrow. We've been together a yr Nov 17 & it is hard to be with him cause he's on deathrow but I love him to the moon back & won't ever leave him to do this time by himself & we're getting married on VDAY
Happy Anniversary, a little early
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Old 11-25-2019, 11:04 PM
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Hello! My name is Taylor. I met my guy a little under a month ago through a pen pal ad and we started emailing through JPay. I honestly messaged him just looking for friends but I finally admitted to myself today that I have pretty strong feelings for this boy. In about two weeks there have been almost 50 emails between us and 4 phone calls. He’s told me a few times that he’s catching feelings for me and how important I’ve become to him. I have to admit I was hesitant because you always hear about cons but he’s told me a handful of times that he doesn’t want my money just my companionship. I was getting anxious today and couldn’t take my nap (I work overnights) because I hadn’t heard from him today but then my phone rang. He asked his friend to call me because he’s in the hole. I guess that has to mean something if he cares enough to have his friend call me so I don’t worry. I’m still kind of reeling because this is my first time dealing with this and I don’t know fully what happened. I wrote him a couple letters already and they will hopefully make it to him. I think I found this site just in time. I feel like it’s definitely gonna help me through this.

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Old 11-26-2019, 02:01 AM
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Hello! My name is Taylor. I met my guy a little under a month ago through a pen pal ad and we started emailing through JPay. I honestly messaged him just looking for friends but I finally admitted to myself today that I have pretty strong feelings for this boy. In about two weeks there have been almost 50 emails between us and 4 phone calls. Heís told me a few times that heís catching feelings for me and how important Iíve become to him. I have to admit I was hesitant because you always hear about cons but heís told me a handful of times that he doesnít want my money just my companionship. I was getting anxious today and couldnít take my nap (I work overnights) because I hadnít heard from him today but then my phone rang. He asked his friend to call me because heís in the hole. I guess that has to mean something if he cares enough to have his friend call me so I donít worry. Iím still kind of reeling because this is my first time dealing with this and I donít know fully what happened. I wrote him a couple letters already and they will hopefully make it to him. I think I found this site just in time. I feel like itís definitely gonna help me through this.


Welcome! I already know people on here will tell you to slow down this relationship but IĎll just say enjoy the ride and listen to your gut feeling.
Dealing with the hole can be stressful but keep them letters coming, theyĎll mean a lot to him. My LO is also in the hole atm and thinking that I wonít get to speak to him until 2020 just sucks. DonĎt trip and keep yourself busy.
I think itís sweet that he had his buddy call you.
You can wait for his letter or call his case manager to find out more. Depending on which state heís in you might even see online what landed him in the hole.
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Old 11-26-2019, 02:30 AM
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Welcome! I already know people on here will tell you to slow down this relationship but IĎll just say enjoy the ride and listen to your gut feeling.
Dealing with the hole can be stressful but keep them letters coming, theyĎll mean a lot to him. My LO is also in the hole atm and thinking that I wonít get to speak to him until 2020 just sucks. DonĎt trip and keep yourself busy.
I think itís sweet that he had his buddy call you.
You can wait for his letter or call his case manager to find out more. Depending on which state heís in you might even see online what landed him in the hole.
Thank you for the kind words. Iím definitely not rushing into marriage or anything like that any time soon and Iím still being cautious and getting to know him. Heís in Kentucky do you know how I would go about seeing if I can find out online?
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Heís in Kentucky do you know how I would go about seeing if I can find out online?

Type _Kentucky offender search_ into google and with his name and DOC number you might find something out. I havenít had to deal with the state of Kentucky, but maybe someone who knows more will chime in.
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Type _Kentucky offender search_ into google and with his name and DOC number you might find something out. I havenít had to deal with the state of Kentucky, but maybe someone who knows more will chime in.
No luck. I guess Iíll just wait for a letter from him. I hope your LO gets out of the hole soon too!
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Thank you! Itís already comforting knowing I am not the only one going through this. Stay strong!
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Hello, folks!

I’ve been lurking for a while but I recently decided it was time to post and try to get active in the community.

So....I found my first penpal on WriteaPrisoner back in June of 2019! He’s the only person that’s incarcerated I’ve ever written to and we just immediately clicked. We’ve been writing for close to seven months and it’s been such an awesome experience. He finally asked to call in November and we’ve had a phone conversation once every weekend since. I, like many others, expected it to be a way to reach out and possibly make a new friend — but I definitely have a huge crush (that I’ve not admitted to, haha).
He’s in a minimum security facility for a DWI with death and is on year 4 of a 6 year sentence. In June of this year he’ll be transitioning to a halfway house, and June of 2021 he’ll be entering house arrest for a year. We both live in the states and are close to the same age. He’s absolutely hilarious, super dorky, and is a prideful person that’s made it clear he has no expectations monetarily or otherwise. He’s never openly “hit on me” or ever admitted to feelings, but there’s certainly subtle flirtation — which is basically my love language. I would never want to jeopardize our communication by inserting this layer into the mix, and I so value the friendship that’s grown in these months. I’m basically at a point where I feel we’re both avoiding saying the inevitable, but I’m just the kind of person that would take it to my grave rather than have that courage. I hope these forums might help me find it!

Anywho — Nice to meet you all!

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Hello, I just created my new user profile & this is officially my 1st post. How I met my guy is pretty funny (& ironic) I was on a dating website POF & I could not believe the message in my inbox! A picture of what looked like a male, the head/face cropped off and in what looked to be a prison cell!! His message said something about not judging him and to please listen to his story...lmfao!!! I thought: ďIs this guy serious!? As if! So, days later I was showing my friend/co-worker this message and we had a good laugh. She said ďCome on! Reply to his message for ďfunĒ and letís just see what he says!! Giggling like school girls we typed a reply..... over the next 4 years he would become my friend, lover & I believe my soulmate <3
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That's funny cause that's how I met my LO on pof. He had a cell phone also & we've been talking ever since. Hopefully everything goes good with your relationship
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Aww... thank you, same to you. So have you visited your guy yet? Tell me more!!
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I’m new to this site and it’s been a big help to read some of the posts here. I’m a guy and I have a boyfriend in prison. I met him on the ‘Write A Prisoner’ site. I’ve always been interested in helping people who may not otherwise receive help (like inmates). I chose to write to him because his profile was one of the few that wasn’t ‘looking for that special someone’ and he didn’t seem to want a romance of any kind. At the time, I was already in a relationship for two years — I was very unhappy in this relationship but I was not looking to date an inmate not at all.

Me and my pen pal bonded very quickly. I told him things that I would never normally tell a person I just met. I figured that he was just a person far away who I met on the Internet. I thought we’d exchange a few messages over the course of a few weeks and that would be it. I figured there’s no harm in telling him some of my ‘secrets’ since he’d be the last person in the world to judge me and it wasn’t like I knew him in real life.

At first I would send one message to him a day, usually in the morning, then he’d get back to me later that day. After about a week, he mentioned possibly talking on the phone, and we did so briefly. After that, our JPay email frequency increased. There was some light flirting involved and I started feeling guilty because I already had a boyfriend (and I told him so). We started talking about meeting up after his release and I never really thought about whether that would really happen or not. His release was so far away and it just felt like it was fantasy talk anyway. I was in a bad relationship, what did it matter if I did some harmless flirting with an inmate a few states away?

After a few weeks, out of the blue, he started talking about us being together as a couple when he gets out and moving together and be started calling me ‘baby’. He was like ‘Yep, I’m the one to say it first but you know you feel it too, BABY.’ I told him that he couldn’t possibly think we would be together as a couple. I had a boyfriend and he was surely just getting caught up in a fantasy because of his lack of options, right? Over the next week, he convinced me that his feelings for me were real and I had to admit to myself that yeah, I was feeling the same things he was. Falling for him, the kind of guy he was — fun and open minded and respectful of me and my thoughts and feelings — made me realize everything I was missing by staying in my relationship with my boyfriend. Over the course of the next month, I found a way to break up with my boyfriend and started dating my ‘pen pal’.

I was skeptical as hell at first — Was this for real? Was he just going to change his mind one day or stop talking to me out of the blue? Did I really agree to bring the boyfriend of a guy I’ve never met? How the hell are we gonna make this work? But over time, I learned to just enjoy what I was feeling and I learned to trust him more and more. Now I can’t imagine my life without him and I trust him completely (it helps that he has gone out of his way to prove his honesty and loyalty to me).

So yeah, that’s it. I am totally in love with a guy in prison who I met online. He is planning to be paroled to my house when he gets out and he’s the best thing in my life. Even if it doesn’t work out in the end, I’d never have any regrets. He gave me my life back by making me realize how unfulfilled I was with my ex-boyfriend. I feel like a whole new person now. I’m not with a controlling, jealous man who doesn’t appreciate me and who wants to change me. So I feel like I already won. And it’s just icing on the cake to have the best man I’ve ever met in my life as my current boyfriend, and our future is full of endless possibilities.
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Hi, Iím new to this entirely. I met this guy through my friend. We started as pen pals, then I started visiting. Months later we realized that we have feelings for each other. I have no idea when he gets out, possibly in under 2 years. Right now I am trying to figure out life while heís there. Iíve enjoyed reading your posts! It looks like there is another where I can post my questions about dealing with this. I will do that.
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Hey everyone! So I'm from the UK, been writing to my guy in Roederer since January and we've spoken everyday via jpay since getting in touch via WAP. He calls me once a week which is amazing ❤️ I'm 36 he's 38 and he's 4 years into a 10 year sentence so he's got a way to go yet but recently things turned romantic and I have to say I have very strong feelings which I've been fighting because of the stigma of prison relationships, especially given the distance between us ��. I'm just looking forward to speaking to people in the same position as me who've been there and can offer any pearls of wisdom! Well that's about it really but but its lovely to find somewhere that I can chat to people! Thanks ��
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hey so im rebecca. i met my guy 10 years ago outside of jail/prison. we dated when we were younger. and he did something wrong (i wont say) and he ended up getting 20 years. we stopped talking but i never forgot about him. 9 years later after i was like okay time to stop wondering about him and time to reach out to him so i did and we been talking ever since. hes almost at his 10 year mark and has 10 more to go. we tried to date but i ended it quikly and then we slowed down on talking and now we talk all the time. he has me smitten and i cant help myself. we talk like we are together but its hard to be with someone who has so much more time ahead of him. im in a cross roads with my heart and i just know that if we continue on the right path and continue talking like we do i know itll be okay and who knows where life will take us.
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