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Old 04-01-2019, 08:03 AM
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All the stuff he has been through can make up a book. I had a hard night tonight and did a lot of crying because I miss him terribly. I can't seem to let go, I am always waiting for my phone to ring and having him on the other side saying Hi Baby! I know deep in my heart that he will not be coming home but I still hope, is that bad?
I think that hope is natural and normal. Wanting to do something to get him help and prevent anyone from getting harmed is also normal. Considering what all has happened to him in prison to cause this situation I would be raging against the system and calling everyone from the justice system to the medical system to the newspapers and officials in the town he was last in, along with any of the legal organizations that sue the prisons, such as the ACLU. You have his power of attorney (if "durable" it works even when he is incompetent) and you were also harmed by what the prison system did to him.
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No having hope isnt a bad thing.
I would caution you tho.......be careful. For YOU.
I'd try to move on if you can. Not to say he wont reach out at some point or things could go back to semi normal. But dont hold your breath either.
I know that does not make much sense but I had to do something similar with my first hubby. He was an addict. I left him because I couldnt deal with him and I had a newborn. I hope for over a year, maybe more that he would *change* get clean and be a family. I was lucky and had my folks to fall back on.
I think it took me like 3 years total to finally get my divorce. He didnt change for years.

He now lives around the corner from me (that I didnt know about for a long while lol)
and we are good friends now. lt took him a long time to overcome his addiction. I still worry about him, that he will slide back into addiction. He has severe physical issues from in part being a drug user.
Im also very good friends with his lady. Their daughters call me Auntie. lol
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All the stuff he has been through can make up a book. I had a hard night tonight and did a lot of crying because I miss him terribly. I can't seem to let go, I am always waiting for my phone to ring and having him on the other side saying Hi Baby! I know deep in my heart that he will not be coming home but I still hope, is that bad?
My situation is totally different when I was going through all of this transition (years ago). I had so many bad/hard nights where I would just be beating myself up over it and crying my eyes till red. I'd cried so much my entire body ached badly. I missed him and thought about him. Would wait by my phone to see if he would call me and took cat naps just in case he did call. It take time for it gets better and you'll go through so many changes all together.

What your feeling will be like that because you still love him! So, your going to hope for so many things to happen and no it's not bad. Your going to have these moments it's fresh. But as time goes on your mind, heart and soul will slowly start changing and feeling something totally different. You'll miss him less and not think of him much at all. It's all apart of healing from a heart break. Take care of yourself and take it a step/day at a time. You'll have your ups and downs. But you'll get through all of this with time hun.
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This is such a sad situation, my heart goes out to you.
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No sweetie, that isn't bad at all.
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Awww so sorry to hear that. Hopefully you are taking it day by day and are making it through this okay. Also hope that he is doing well and will eventually get the help that he needs. I know it must be so hard not knowing where he is even though the situation didn't turn out how you wanted it to. Stay strong.
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Update..Received a call from him last week, he finally hit rock bottom out on the streets and asked for help so we finally got him the help he needs. He looks horrible and has done some stupid stuff but at least he is off the streets. Hopefully they can get him on the right track and eventually come home. I guess only time will tell how damaged he is, it's going to take alot to get him back but I will be there for him as I was the past 13 yrs. Thank you all for your kind and caring words..

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I am glad to hear that he is safe. Make sure you look after yourself.Supporting him is important but you are important also.
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Update..Received a call from him last week, he finally hit rock bottom out on the streets and asked for help so we finally got him the help he needs. He looks horrible and has done some stupid stuff but at least he is off the streets. Hopefully they can get him on the right track and eventually come home. I guess only time will tell how damaged he is, it's going to take alot to get him back but I will be there for him as I was the past 13 yrs. Thank you all for your kind and caring words..
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All the stuff he has been through can make up a book. I had a hard night tonight and did a lot of crying because I miss him terribly. I can't seem to let go, I am always waiting for my phone to ring and having him on the other side saying Hi Baby! I know deep in my heart that he will not be coming home but I still hope, is that bad?
That's not bad, that's love. And with all do respect, maybe a little guilt. Just pray that he finally found or will get some help... And maybe he'll call when you least expect it. Keep your head up!
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Wow! I read your updates along with the original reply. I feel for both of you all. I am glad that he walked away from you and didn't make your life a living hell. Of course the ideal is for him to be there with you, and healthy; but since he's not, at least he left. I'm glad you are here to talk about it. The prison system did a number on him. Shame on everyone who heard the call of help but did not answer. Your husband was diagnosed with PTSD BEFORE his release, and he was just sent out in the world, to go to a halfway house and start parole; no mental treatment. I can only pray at this time that more help with come for those inside the prison. I'm going to keep praying. God sees all. Why so much has to happen in this world, I don't know, but I trust that He cares about humanity. I will pray for your husband as well. Like someone said, oftentimes, it takes a REALLY drastic crime for someone to do before everyone wakes the heck up!! I will hope this is not the case.

I know you feel lost without him; you will heal from this. Take it one day at a time. Better yet, take it one step at a time, one minute at a time. Trust in God, He is your only constant right now. If you don't know Him, go to a church, find a friend who does.

Take care and keep us posted.
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