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Remembering Those That Passed While In Prison This forum is for all those - family, friends, spouses, wives, husbands, significant others, brothers, sisters, parents, and children - who lost a loved one or friend while incarcerated.

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Old 03-11-2016, 08:40 PM
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Hi everyone. Its been 3 yrs since my brother passed away and this passed monday my family had another terrible death to deal with. We had to bury Franks oldest son who was only 20 yrs old was shot on valentines day, 2 days before franks 3 yr death day and 1 week before franks bday. 2 days after his son Christian died, his girlfriend went into labor and had a baby boy. He looks just like his dad. Its so scary the resemblance. The worst part of the funeral was seeing franks grave dug open and his son being lowered to be buried on top of him. The feeling of dejavu was eery.

Sadly, Christian took his dads death so horribly that he went downhill right after it happened and he just never had a chance to recover from it. I truly hope that they have found each other.
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I don't know what to say other than I'm so sorry! This is heartbreaking to hear. I'm sure his dads voice was the first he heard.
I remember hearing once that once you leave this world and into afterlife, heaven, there is no pain or any of the negative emotions. Not even feeling sorry. They don't exist. It's only light and love and all the positive emotions. I liked thinking of that because I didn't like thinking someone who was gone could feel any sorrow or regret for missing anything. Such as the birth of his son. I believe he sees only the happiness of him.
Take care of yourself and each other.
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I'm so terribly sorry to hear this. I remember your brother's case well. The whole thing was heartbreaking, and now THIS! You and your family have my prayers and well wishes.
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Condolences on your losses. I hope they both have found peace. The unexpected death of a young person is even more difficult to understand.
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Yes i actually just went back to read my original post of franks ordeal and cried my eyeballs out. I wasnt able to get through it. Its still too fresh in my mind even though its been 3 years. I clicked on views and cant beleive its still the number 1 viewed post in emergency forum by over 13000. Thats amazing. I hope someone thats viewed that post was able to learn something in their own situation. Even though it ended bad i learned so much. Especially how to be an advocate for someone else who cant speak up for themselves. I really did come out of my quiet shell when talking to those ugly police officers and hospital staff. I owe it to the support of this group and the people in it. The real world just doesnt understand what its like to have family as inmates unless theyve gone through it.

Only1love became my everyday support. We became good friends. I still say it till this day that she was franks guardian angel. I was so sad when she passed away. I never got to meet her but i felt so much closer to her than some of my own family. I hope that frank and her were able to finaly meet.
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I am so very sorry for your loss.....words, tears, hugs...it just doesn't seem to be enough support to give. I am so very sorry for your loss. May you find peace. They already did.
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I followed yours & Frank's thread...it broke my heart terribly. My condolences on the loss of Frank's son Another heartbreak for you & your family.

I am also taken aback by only1love's passing....she had been a valued member here since 2008
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