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Old 09-23-2017, 05:08 AM
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Default Today is the 3rd anniversary

My Dad passed away 3 years ago now. These anniversary dates are tough. They put me in a funk. I know it's part of the grieving process and perfectly healthy to go through it, but still...

Today will be a day of navel gazing, I'm guessing.
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Make today a day of self indulgence ,you do what you need to do to look after yourself.
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Bring up the happier memories. The sad ones will bring themselves up.

Breathe deeply and gently, like a sigh, and just let yourself feel what's honest. Tomorrow will not be an anniversary, and it all will have passed.
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My mum passed 8 years ago and there's not a day goes by when I don't think of her. Remember the happy times with him and cry or smile whatever you need to do to get through the day
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Three years? I remember when it happened. Yes, it's still very fresh, and you will always remember. You know what it's all about, but it doesn't make it any easier.

It's been 11 years since my mother left us. I seem to have consciously pushed the exact date out of my mind, but my subconscious always seems to remind me. I'll get into a funk and wonder why, and then it hits me.

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We're in the same boat, my father passed away 3 years ago this November. I was with him when he died.
Sometimes it hits me like a ton or bricks and sometimes I'm smiling. But bottom line: I miss him like crazy, it was so far the hardest I had to experience.
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My parents both died in 2007..my mom in February and dad in November..it still sucks! I still want to call... It still feels like yesterday. You are not alone. It's a tough day for you..sending virtual hugs..
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Three years? I remember when it happened.
That's how it feels to me as well. There's a lot of conflict wrapped up in it. A wise woman told me that grieving is not an "or" statement, but an "and" statement. I miss him AND I don't miss dealing with the drama. I'm sad AND I'm really glad I don't have to go through him transitioning out as an 82 year old. There are a lot of those conflicting ANDs.

I think the conflicted emotions are a big part of why yesterday is going to be a tough day for me for several more years.
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I'm so sorry for all your going thru, I totally understand the conflicting feelings. I have those also. Now with my mom she died on a cruise and it was a total shock I still can't believe it. My father died of congestive heart failure a long slow death. My husband was so sick I couldn't even think recovery. I don't think death ever effects us the same each person we lose it take a part of you with them, but you always keep a part of them.
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