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Old 01-13-2019, 05:04 PM
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I'm curious has anyone thought of marrying their MWI, so that once they get out on parole they are able to parole to you ? We have talked about getting married but I'm just curious would they deny him coming home to me if we aren't married. Anyone have any stories or any advice ?
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I'm curious has anyone thought of marrying their MWI, so that once they get out on parole they are able to parole to you ? We have talked about getting married but I'm just curious would they deny him coming home to me if we aren't married. Anyone have any stories or any advice ?
My ex was able to parole to me before we were married. It all depends on state laws and his PO.
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We married in prison but it had nothing to do with parole. That falls on the list of reasons NOT to marry-- like gaining privileged information from the facility, family visits, and parole/transfer of custody. Marriage doesn't guarantee any of it.
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They wouldn’t prevent him coming out on parole to you because you aren’t married. I have read that members of the parole board look favourably on marriage but that seems most hear-say and anecdotal evidence! Being married certainly won’t hurt and if it helps then it’s a bonus!

We are MWI and are marrying in 4 weeks �� I can’t wait!! He won’t parole to me as I am not in USA. He will parole to his Dads house where I will be until we decide on our next steps together!
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A lot of people thought I married my husband for conjugal visits and could not understand that Texas dont allow conjugal and I married him to be spiritually bonded to him because I loved him. I agree with above posts. It can't hurt, but dont let that be the reason you marry.
I haven't read your back story, but I want to caution you. Be serious and firm in your decision and the reasons for said decision.
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I believe I'm one of the very few that won't marry while he's still in prison. I want him to come home first and get adjusted and give him the time for that.
As much as I love my man and as crazy as he drives me sometimes (in a good and bad way), he needs to have a smell at freedom first. If he wants that or not is to be seen.
It could be my particular situation since he's been in for a quarter of a century and why should he or we in this case commit to something we've never experienced together before? Love does not conquer all but it can certainly help. So one step at a time.
He has a family (as in Mom & Dad & sister & aunts & uncles & cousins) to come home to so no need for me to move there for his or before his release.
But again, that's only my situation and how I'd deal with it.
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We married in December , because we wanted to commit to each other. Our marriage won't help his parole or clemency application. if necessary I will buy a property in Colorado and he can parole there. Who knows we have lots of irons in fire to expediate his early release.
Those irons would still be there if we weren't married.
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I would totally marry him, simply because I love him.
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Thank you all for the advice, I love him so marrying him will happen either way. I just wasn't sure if they wouldn't let him parole to me since we aren't married and I'm in another state. We agreed to marry after he gets out and gets adjusted. I've only ever had to deal with parole with my brother and dad and that's way different.
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I think he has to parole to his home state.
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He can put in a request to be transferred to my state,
Its just a matter of them approving him or not that's all. He has to write them a year before he sees parole to ask.
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