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Old 09-03-2018, 12:21 PM
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Well it depends on your definition of success, no?

When you’re facing release, a huge fear is you won’t actually enjoy each other’s company of your partner will get out and immediately run off, or any number of things. So simply having your partner come home and stay is one kind of success.

I mean, really, can any of us claim total success until we’re on our deathbed? We can rejoice in all the milestones along the way, though

I get what you’re saying though - there’s definitely a “honeymoon” period before the real adjustments and work come in. Where my husband and I were a year ago is nowhere near where we are now. Month two was probably the hardest of them all, once all of our best behavior started slipping away and things got real.
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Two years!!!! Girl I only wrote mine for ten months and never even met him until the day I picked him up from prison. We been going very strong for 11 months out here. Sometimes you just get lucky. Your a great story! An unsuccessful story can be found under the now that the relationship is over forum . I will marry mine too eventually, but honestly I married that man in my heart through letters starting almost two years ago. Sounds like you are very happy! That is beautiful!!’

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Two years!!!! Girl I only wrote mine for ten months and never even met him until the day I picked him up from prison. We been going very strong for 11 months out here. Sometimes you just get lucky. Your a great story! An unsuccessful story can be found under the now that the relationship is over forum . I will marry mine too eventually, but honestly I married that man in my heart through letters starting almost two years ago. Sounds like you are very happy! That is beautiful!!’
He has been home a little over a month now. Nothing has changed with us except my name. He is the same sweetheart he was before he got out. I went to see him several times before he got out and that was great because it allowed us to have time together... and I eventually took my children to meet him. That was a big one for me because he had to get along with them since we are a package deal. He is working between 50 and 60 hours a week to provide for his family. I know some may say we are in a honeymoon period but we have known each other for over two years now and the man that I met back then is the same man that comes home from work each day. I have seen some of the horror stories... guys can't be faithful, guys that have lied and all of it is coming out after they are home, oh I can go on. We have both agreed that if we have to lie to each other then we don't need to be in a relationship because that isn't a real relationship. We may not like some stuff the other says but at the end of the day we just work so well together. I am truly happier than I've ever been.
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Saying you have a honeymoon period isn’t an insult. Literally every relationship has one - or more than likely none of us would stay for very long lol. It doesn’t mean you wouldn’t be happy afterward...it’s just the natural progression of long term relationships.

It doesn’t mean people think you’re doomed...like I said, there are just different points of “success.” You should most definitely be proud and looking forward to a bright future <3
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Old 10-03-2018, 07:17 AM
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Saying you have a honeymoon period isn’t an insult. Literally every relationship has one - or more than likely none of us would stay for very long lol. It doesn’t mean you wouldn’t be happy afterward...it’s just the natural progression of long term relationships.

It doesn’t mean people think you’re doomed...like I said, there are just different points of “success.” You should most definitely be proud and looking forward to a bright future <3
I agree-
I don't mean to be a debbie downer; but relationships do change over time, especially prison relationships.
Mine was realeased in may, we were together two years, best friends and I thought nothing could come between us.
Everything was great for about 3.5 months- he was perfect and kept all his promises-- then he started slipping and the pressure of being free was getting to him- work, a relationship, bills etc.
He kinda went off the deep end ( no drugs or anything) but he started just acting crazy like he didn't know what he wanted anymore, started pushing me away, then coming back, then pushing away, we had a wedding date, it got cancelled 2 weeks before, then I broke up with him because I couldn't take it anymore- we stopped talking and i had to get on with my life without him.

Then he reached out to me recently and seems like his normal self again and he wants to try again.
I'm not sure if its going to work, but I am going to visit him this month to talk things out in person.

So, I'm saying that this will happen to you- but be prepared for anything.
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Another update... he has been home 2 months today. He is working a lot (he wants us to save up for a house to call our own). He has gotten his permit and goes for his license in a couple weeks. Things aren't always hearts and rainbows but having that expectation is unrealistic. We always talk out our issues... and we just work. We have been married a little over a month and we are truly happy. It just seems to work.
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This success story gives me hope for when my honey gets out! I've been working tirelessly to get a place so his supervised release could get transferred here. I've been trying to do everything I can to create the most positive environment for him to come home to! Congratulations on your happy marriage and I hope it continues to be as wonderful as it sounds. As my mother would say about her marriage to my dad, "It only gets better"
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Yes, because 28 days constitutes a major success story.


Congrats, OP'er. All the best to you both.
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hola chica, and yep. icam... IMHO (in my honest opinion) MISS_A,

to me it es hermosa(its beautiful) and major success, heck even 1 week, imho as we have so many sad stories, and those do not make it ya know, premised on various reasons but the main one is the man is clearly a jerk, a liar,or a loser,or a manipulator narcissistic bum,or a male h-e, a no good cheat, just no good. etc., al., so i think yep its major and i hope it continue to go well for her. I love this... good night fellow pto'ers.

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This success story gives me hope for when my honey gets out! I've been working tirelessly to get a place so his supervised release could get transferred here. I've been trying to do everything I can to create the most positive environment for him to come home to! Congratulations on your happy marriage and I hope it continues to be as wonderful as it sounds.

As my mother would say about her marriage to my dad, "It only gets better"
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yes. your mom is right.
and keep the faith, and hope alive, for you and yours as well ...
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When it's right, its right.(my parents and mi abuela(grandmother nana)always say this, and it's so true.

When' it's right, it's right..." God is so good." good luck to yours, when he is out..." adios.
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Another update... he has been home for almost 10 months...things are great. He works every single day, he is a loving husband, great step father to my children, and honestly feels like the time that he spent in prison was just a bad nightmare. Yes, we have our struggles and not every day is unicorns and rainbows but I know that we have each other and together we can conquer the world. We have moved his grandmother closer to us so we can help her... so don't let any negative stories on here scare you because there are some good ones that come from a bad situation. His parole officer absolutely loves my husband. I haven't written in a while so I decided I would post a quick update.
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Brikliant to see another update from you. So pleased all is going so well. Congrats!!!
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Hi! So happy to hear this!!
My MWI didn’t work out and he’s a scoundrel lol
But I still believe in love and I also don’t want the bad stories to scare people away.
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congratulations!!! so happy to hear this success story! I'm glad its working out for you just how you planned! I cant wait for mine to get out and hope we can have this same success!Thanks for the updates!
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Another update... my husband has been home for just over a year (August 3) and things are tough at times, getting injured at work and stuff, but I am beyond happy to share this adventure with him. Things aren't perfect but they are perfect for us. Today is our one year wedding anniversary and I look back over our last year anniversaries and beyond thankful. Don't let the negative stories discourage you from trying a MWI relationship. It is work and it isn't hearts and rainbows but know that if you compromise things work out. Both parties have to work at the relationship. I hope everyone finds happiness in their relationship
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