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Old 11-16-2002, 06:35 PM
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Default I feel so guilty

When I sit in the comfort of my home, and sleep in my warm bed, and cook my favorite meals that my son has lost these freedoms. I feel so guilty to have these comforts, i don't understand why i feel this way, do you all go through this?
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Old 11-16-2002, 07:33 PM
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To be brutally honest, I try not to think of these things... It is hard to think this way and not feel guilty about what we do have.

I do believe that God made us resilient beings and that we do adjust to our surroundings... this is horrible to think but it is their reality and I know that they come to accept and appreciate what they do have - even if it is not much.

I feel the most guilt when I am doing something fun with others and then find myself laughing and carrying on like life is good. This affects me more than 'comforts' so to speak.

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Old 11-16-2002, 07:46 PM
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I have yet to smile or laugh so I haven't experienced that yet,
this is the single most devistaing thing that has happened in my life to this point, and it's just starting, allot to deal with coming up, trial, sentencing, I'm not sure how to survive this............
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Old 11-16-2002, 09:24 PM
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we totally understand what your feeling. we work with families trying to bring, if possible, peace among those who lost baisis with their families. when i found out that michael was lock up with life out parole, his family had all sorts of feelings that caused them not to go see michael. accepting the things we cant change is alwasy the hardest. i try to keep my mind busy and you will have days that are good, and days that are not,
oh, michael is someone i grew up with, i knew him since i was 5. our famlies were real close, one day i wil share with yall, it is still to hard to do so..
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Old 11-16-2002, 11:40 PM
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Thanks lulu would likr to hear more from you, I have been involved in the "Kairos" prison ministery and have have gone into prison for a four day ministery several times..........

I never in my life thought i would have a family member involved, my son could quite possibly share your friends fate....

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Old 11-17-2002, 01:22 AM
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I feel guilty as well - as my family makes preparations for Thanksgiving, I feel guilty. Christmas is coming - I feel guilty. Then I ask myself if I were in my husband's shoes, would I want him to be miserable. No, I would not. If you and your son's situations were reversed, would you want him feeling guilty for not being in prison?
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Old 11-17-2002, 07:43 AM
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Phil
there are so many things, in today's world we can feel guilty about !!! And of course, I understand very well you feel guilty about your son being in prison, especially when many of us are now preparing Thanksgiving or X-mas etc...
I think Monica gave you good advice. Besides, your son probably doesn't expect you to feel guilty, he certainly expects you to be supportive, loving and caring. And you are !!
All the best Phil, and remember we're here for you and your son too.
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I KNOW I THINK THAT WAY SOMETIMES. BUT WHO DOESNT. I JUST TRY TO KEEP MOVING. BUT SOMETIMES IT BRINGS TEARS TO MY EYES. I KNOW HOW YOU ARE FEELING. I GO THROUGH IT AS WELL. JUST KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND IT WILL BE OVER SOON...
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when I smell the rain in the air or see a beautiful sunset I think about the things that I enjoy that all my loved ones in prison can't. And I too feel guilty. But then I think of the time
passing and that soon they will be enjoying all that they have missed. It makes me feel better to know that it is not always
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I feel sad that Ron cannot experience these things but I do not feel guilty. I am not responsible for this situation. All I can do is give my love and support now and when he comes home.
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