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View Poll Results: How much do you support your boyfriend/husband?
Every payday I send him money/put money on the phones.. 125 43.40%
Once a month I send him money/put money on the phones.. 50 17.36%
When I can I send him money/put money on the phones.. 95 32.99%
I don't send him money/put money on the phones.. 18 6.25%
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Old 11-06-2010, 11:21 PM
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Ok so what type of girlfriend/spouse are you?

I'm what I would like say is VERY STERN because I dont send him money, I used to put money on our phones but recently have not been, I dont do any type of favor for him or his "homies" and I have him on a one strike your out concept when it comes to our relationship.

Let me touch base on these so I dont sound like a total b*&^h but as for the money part the way I see it is I didn't contribute in any way shape or form to him getting locked up. I'm out here holding it down for my two children so that they have a roof over their heads and food on the table. I have daycare expenses on top of school tutition for my oldest so I dont feel that I should have to take away from them to send him money. He get three meals a day, pays $3/mth for electric and clothing is provided for him and I'll be honest we've had to hit up the local food bank once because I just have a very tight budget. As for the phone well we all know how expensive that can get and really quick at that so I just cant afford to put money on there. As for the favors go I dont do any sort of three way calls or anything of that nature he asked once and I couldnt believe he wanted me to allow his homie to use our call. Shoot those darn calls are expensive and I'll be damned if I'm paying for him to chit chat with his lady. Now as for the one strike your out deal well this is his second bid in state DOC and we had our fair share of bumps in the road while he was still out on the streets so I'm literally giving him his last chance. I told him he is not allowed to get into ANY trouble while he's in there except for fighting well because I would never tell him not to defend himself.

I wanted to see how many of you ladies out there are totally hooking your man up with money, phone calls and anything else he requests. Trust me if I made more money I wouldn't be so tight with our money but hey I will give what money I do have left over to my kids before I will him because it's not their fault he chose to make the decisions that he did.
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Old 11-06-2010, 11:27 PM
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I'm the type of wife that has my husband's back until he can take care of his self. I am also taking care of 2 kids and have a bunch of bills. I don't make nearly enough to cover everything, however, I do send my husband $100 a month and he makes it work. I am all he has, most of his family acts as though he's dead, but I love my husband so much and I couldn't live with myself if I didnt' have his back. He's not a bad person, he just mad a big mistake. This is his 1st and last time in prison, and I plan on being there for him til the end.
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I put money on his books only once a month with is actually also my only payday. I only provide minimum fundage however ($30). I also have children and a house to provide for.
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I send a money order when I can, letters poems songs and bullshit but NEVER SEND CANS OF TUNA .....5CANS OF TUNA AND YOUR MAN WILL HAVE A NEW "HOMIE'/LOVER/FRIEND............word NOT ME
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I give him as much love and support and positivity as he can possibly stand
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I send Dric a lil bit every pay check (for stamps, envelopes, paper, food), I keep money on the phone account (I hate when I can't hear his voice), and I write him damn near every day (I think I missed 3 days).

I don't want him to EVER go back but I don't want him to suffer in there, either.

And actually, I just sent him a larger than normal money order so he could get some shoes (the ones the state issued are nearly falling apart - and who wants their feet in shoes someone else wore! ICK!) and a radio.

I'd love to be able to send more then I do but I still have my own bills to pay plus school tuition. He understands that. And he never asks for money and he's always telling me if I don't have it, don't send it. But I usually send a lil something even if it means I have to go without something. I don't NEED that Starbucks but he needs to eat!
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Ok so what type of girlfriend/spouse are you?

I'm what I would like say is VERY STERN because I dont send him money, I used to put money on our phones but recently have not been, I dont do any type of favor for him or his "homies" and I have him on a one strike your out concept when it comes to our relationship.

Let me touch base on these so I dont sound like a total b*&^h but as for the money part the way I see it is I didn't contribute in any way shape or form to him getting locked up. I'm out here holding it down for my two children so that they have a roof over their heads and food on the table. I have daycare expenses on top of school tutition for my oldest so I dont feel that I should have to take away from them to send him money. He get three meals a day, pays $3/mth for electric and clothing is provided for him and I'll be honest we've had to hit up the local food bank once because I just have a very tight budget. As for the phone well we all know how expensive that can get and really quick at that so I just cant afford to put money on there. As for the favors go I dont do any sort of three way calls or anything of that nature he asked once and I couldnt believe he wanted me to allow his homie to use our call. Shoot those darn calls are expensive and I'll be damned if I'm paying for him to chit chat with his lady. Now as for the one strike your out deal well this is his second bid in state DOC and we had our fair share of bumps in the road while he was still out on the streets so I'm literally giving him his last chance. I told him he is not allowed to get into ANY trouble while he's in there except for fighting well because I would never tell him not to defend himself.

I wanted to see how many of you ladies out there are totally hooking your man up with money, phone calls and anything else he requests. Trust me if I made more money I wouldn't be so tight with our money but hey I will give what money I do have left over to my kids before I will him because it's not their fault he chose to make the decisions that he did.



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I have sent him money, but not a lot and not often at all. I'm trying to get my schooling paid for and i'm also trying to save whatever extra money I do get. I send him; paper, stamps, envelopes, drawing paper and that's about it. I wouldn't want him to not write, so now he doesn't have any excuse.
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I very rarely send Ray money. I would have to say in the almost 17 years we have been together, I MIGHT have sent him a total of $100. He works 5 days a week. He makes the only money he has for "extras" I have bought him exactly 1 pair of shoes, and 1 quarterly package. I have contributed to maybe 4 other quarterly packages (maybe $50 total) and I buy stamps that he can ONLY use to write to me. If someone else wants him to write, they can pay for their own stamps. I have, at times, put money on the phones. That is more for ME than it is for him. I visit him every weekend, normally only once. We went 9 years without a visit when he was out of state, so I am going to visit every weekend as long as he is where he is (34 miles away). I love him more than anything, but I am a poor girl, and he knows it.
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I am not rich but I do alright and my knuckle head has restitution, so DOC takes 55% of every penny I put on his books. SO in a way it's good cause we are getting that out of the way; one less thing hanging over our heads when he comes home. So I put money on his books every month ( I only get paid once a month) and then send paper, envelopes, stamps, magazines and such. It actually makes me happy to make sure he has what he needs, makes me feel less helpless about this entire mess we are in, by being able to provide for him.
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well i send him money, and put money on the phone everymonth, but i dont really have any bills, i live with my mom and she pretty much pays my phone and buys our kids whatever they need so im really not strugling, but i could understand you, in your situation with all the bills you have, not wanting to send him money, because if i was really low on cash fuck if my kids are going to suffer so he could have his luxuries. but yeah i put like 150 a month on his commisary but that covers phone/store. but i used to send him 200 but yeah with christmas and our daughters birthday coming up i have to save a bit, but thank god his parents also just put money his account last month so i do not have to worry about having to put more money till mid november.
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Chase won't let me send money for store. He says they take 90% of whatever someone sends him for child support and other things. I use to send him $5 every other week or so for postage because he writes a lot but he told me to stop that too because his family is always sending him money. I do however put money on the phone so he can call me the five days a week he has yard. I do however buy him books online at least once a week.
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Temeron0926: I agree with you: if he wants to write to another person (friend or pen pal) let THEM send him money for stamps/write-outs!! He should appreciate the fact that you send him money so that he can write (don't get me wrong; I'm not saying that he isn't appreciative), but the stamps, pre-paid envelopes or money you send to him for those items (and pen and paper --?) should be used for letters to you and ONLY you!!

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You know what I agree with you on one thing... I didn't have anything to do with him going to prison and did our children but the fact of the matter is he is my husband!! ... And he is my husband regardless of where he is being housed. The moment I agreed to stay and stand with him throughout this bid was the moment that I took on the responsibility to completely have his back. Now do I send him money?YES. Do I make sure he has enough money on the phones to cover 300/400 minutes every single month? YES, why? Because communication is very important for all involved (Me, children, and him). Will I NOT pay my bills or properly provide for the children or myself to send him money? NO, why not? Because he is a man and knows how to bid, and would never allow or accept me doing that, and because I am not disillusioned into believing it is OK to take from the children's care to care for someone else (even my husband). Do I think the Feds provide him with everything he needs? NO, not hardly. Will I continue to send him money and take care of him while he is in there? Heck YES, without a doubt ... why? Because he is my husband and because he has taken care of me and will do so once he is back home; and because I am financially able to (thank God).

Honestly I am a fairly stern person I don't really take any crap from my husband or anyone else for that matter ... But personally speaking I am not going to say this is my husband but I do NOT and will NOT send him money because I didn't put him in jail/prison. Now if I don't have it or can't afford it that's something totally different ... I took vows that included for richer or poorer, through good and bad, in sickness and in health, to death do us part. I feel a couple have to "stand" together in the hard times so they can enjoy the good times together. When I get to the point of feeling that I no longer desire to have my husband's back in every aspect (which include but not limited to providing financial support while he is incarcerated) ... that will be the point that I need to step down as his wife. I mean I would never accept that from him if the situations was reversed. Bottom line we are married and it is our responsibility to support and care for each other, period.

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I write/send money/visit when I can. Visits are hard to come by because I don't drive but I will pay to talk to my man,which we do everyday.Stamps are 44 cents so it's not the money it's the time it takes to write him though I make sure he has stamps,paper and envelopes to write me.I have sent babe one package and the rest is 30-40$ every other month depending on if I can spare the money, I have a child who comes first.
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Izzo gets ends 4 the jack and store weekly, plus books and magazines (about 6 subscriptions I think, it is hard 2 keep track of his and mine), and USA Today and USA Sports Weekly newspapers. We also look out 4 his old cellie who he was tight with 'cause his family abandoned him. I send JC 100.00 a month and Izzo's mom sends him 50 -Mrs Izzo-
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prodicaldaugter: Very wise words and heartfelt sentiments from a woman who (quite obviously) loves her man and who takes her marriage vows very seriously. Your husband is very lucky to have you standing by his side!!

Good luck to you both through this difficult time and many wishes for a happy future!!

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I put money on my phone so he can call, but I don´t send him money........BECAUSE HE DOESN´T WANT ME TO. I sent twice money to him, and he said, the next time he is going to send it back. His family sends him a little every month and he says he can and will always handle it, because I should use the money on the kids
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No i wasn't there when my husband did the crime but we were in a relationship. To each there own and how they did with there men i do respect it if that is what works for you. From day one i vow to be there for my husband yes i do put money on his books for (emails, phone, and commissary) of my choice it's only after rent, bills and kids are taking care of first. I budget my money not because he is in prison but because that's is just what i do. My husband has sent money orders home to us it's his way of contributing to his family. I do understand that some woman aren't in a situation where they can do for there men like they want to if he's a man he would understand that real love doesn't have a price tag on it and he can't come home to a home that isn't there if all the money is going to him and bills are being neglected.
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I very rarely send Ray money. I would have to say in the almost 17 years we have been together, I MIGHT have sent him a total of $100. He works 5 days a week. He makes the only money he has for "extras" I have bought him exactly 1 pair of shoes, and 1 quarterly package. I have contributed to maybe 4 other quarterly packages (maybe $50 total) and I buy stamps that he can ONLY use to write to me. If someone else wants him to write, they can pay for their own stamps. I have, at times, put money on the phones. That is more for ME than it is for him. I visit him every weekend, normally only once. We went 9 years without a visit when he was out of state, so I am going to visit every weekend as long as he is where he is (34 miles away). I love him more than anything, but I am a poor girl, and he knows it.
I do the same. I send him minimal money. Mostly it's to cover the phone calls because if I didn't hear his voice, I would lose my mind.
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Old 11-07-2010, 07:06 AM
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Well I marked the send/put money on phones every payday...but that isn't com1pletly true b/c I don't send money to his books xcept once or twice a year...but I do put 14 dollars on the phone every payday so he can call me once a week, we have a prepaid account so the money is only being used to call me...

But as for what kinda spouse I am..damn good lol I may not line his pockets, b/c I do see it like you to an extent, I am raising our kids out here I don't pay rent I lose my roof he doesn't get money well they aren't going to kick him out. We are lucky though in that his mom send him money every month and his mamaw has stared sending some as well...so that helps. He has said he can survive without it, but it makes it more comfortable, not that anything they give them in there would make him want to stay in prison but it makes the bid more bearable...but my kids come first...

However emotionally and mentally and I support my man 100%.
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Old 11-07-2010, 07:21 AM
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i may give $25 a month, and it goes to him for "our" phone calls, its cheaper when he buys the pre paid call, as opposed to me. He now is calling me everyday with his own money, and so far in the past 3 months since we have be talking/re connected....i put in $25. He has family that gives him money for canteen and clothing, and he says that when I come to visit it costs money for gas and buying from the VM.....so he only has me pitch in **only** if money is super tight.
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Old 11-07-2010, 07:58 AM
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I do pay for the phone expenses, but I do keep up a home and am putting my y.oungest through college, so he is always offering to send money home to me; sometimes I have to let him because he is a man and it kills him that he can't provide for his family. It is always a balancing act.
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I sent $100 or more, I put $40 on his music account, I send packages, I pay $300 in phones a month.
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