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Old 09-03-2010, 09:59 PM
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Hi everyone...I'm new here...my guy just got transferred from Cali to OK. We've been talking about wanting to get married off and on for some time now. (Actually, for a while, we separated...and, well...that's another whole story in itself). But, now we're back together and want to get married still. I know I have to get on his visitor's list. Other than that...what is the process for an inmate to get married?

Also...since this is a privately ran prison...are the visiting rules the same as the OK DOC?

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Hi there I actually have been waiting to marry my fiance for sometime now but they don't allow you to marry at NFCF nor do they allow FVs soooo it doesn't even matter....my man is tryin to get things changed along with a few other men over there...but still nothing has improved....a few of the other girls are trying to create IFC out there so We'll see...until then welcome to NFCF!
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Awwww...thank you for the news. I know he'll be disappointed by that as well. Hopefully, something will change. Is there any way I, or he, or we can try to help??

Thank you for the warm welcome tho!!
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i had spoke with the chaplain there quite a few times and he said what we have to do is to get the laws changed in order to get married there. i have the list for the senators there i have contacted some of the legislators in my area over here to. which i have called and have not recieved a call back. I told thim that it wasnt fair and cali allows it because i had thought they had to go by cali but they said as far as the marriage goes they dont have to. but if we all get something going they might listen and change things there. [quote=HesMyForever;5639924]Awwww...thank you for the news. I know he'll be disappointed by that as well. Hopefully, something will change.
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DAMN! i'm sooooooo over the cdc! This is ridiculous ...why does AZ have all the rights that Cali does then??? i just want to have an FV already man! :'(
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What if we wanted to do a double-by-proxy marriage? Someone else here on PTO told me that...I think it was Michigan? (I'll have to double check)...does double-by-proxy marriages, meaning neither person has to actually be in Michigan.
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Has anyone gotten an update to see if us ladies can marry our men yet while at northfork. My man send he's been talking to some people in there and that it might happen. I will keep u informed if I hear anything new. I was just wondering if any of u ladies have heard anything about it.
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As far as im aware NF does not allow marriage...... Matter of fact they r on constant lock down and i feel the mistreat the inmates. My baby has went days with no hot water or running water for that matter.. Its B.S and inhumane
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I totally agree with what ur saying in regards of the way they treat our men. I think it's messed up how they r doing them. Thanks for ur response.
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im so sad to hear that we cannot have family visits are even get married at this facility.....do they even get to call???wow hearing that they are on lockdown all the time scares the hell out of me....this is so crazy because me and my bookie is from cali..first he was in az which was so kool now they have shipped him here and by reading your ladies post about not having family visits and always being on lockdown makes me sick to my stomach!!!what phone privider dose the place us, and ladies what can we do to get the laws changed...im wondering if we can get contact visits here?
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We do have contact visits....even when they are on lockdown. The only time they are non-contact is if the inmate is in the hole.

Mainly, it seems to be the Hispanics that are on lockdown so much, unfortunately.

If they are not on lockdown, they do get to use the phone. All I do is send money to m'loves books, and then he puts the money on the phone (via putting in a request during commissary)...and then he calls me. So, I don't think you have to have a GTL acct, etc. 'cuz we sure don't.

You can send money via Western Union online:
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I am marrying my man... who is at NFCF this weekend I went to TX and got the licence and am marrying him by proxy on Saturday, in TX. You have to find a state close to you that recognized marriages by proxy
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I am marrying my man... who is at NFCF this weekend I went to TX and got the licence and am marrying him by proxy on Saturday, in TX. You have to find a state close to you that recognized marriages by proxy
Bonus, right now I'm living in texas. My ol man will be so happy to hear that. Thank u for the info.
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Would be great if I lived anywhere near TX. Sadly, I do not.

Monita....what was the process you went through? If all else fails, I could fly into TX and then drive to OK afterward.....
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Monita....also, what's the total cost for the whole thing? I would really like to know so me and my ol man can do it. Also, like what hesmyforever said, what's the whole process. From start to finish? I would greatly appreciate the ino, if u could post it or pm me it would be much appreciated. Also, I'm so happy for u, and congrats on marrying your love.
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Oh ya, how long does it take to be finalized?

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I don't get why they don't just let us there. They go by cali's rules so it don't make sense that we have to go through the whole marriage by proxy process. Its stupid if u ask me.

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Would be great if I lived anywhere near TX. Sadly, I do not.

Monita....what was the process you went through? If all else fails, I could fly into TX and then drive to OK afterward.....
I filled out my part of the paperwork, and then sent it to him..... he had to sign and have the paperwork notarized in there, YOU ONLY HAVE 30 DAYS FROM THE DATE THAT HE HAS IT NOTARZED TO GET YOUR LICENSE!!!! So tell him to mail it to you ASAP!!! He needs to send you a copy of his ID with his Date Of Birth written on there and NOTARIZE that too!! PLUS you will need a copy of his birth~certificate! I went to Collin Co TX and they were SUPER nice and easy to work with. It was $72.00 for the license and they give it to you there..... then you MUST wait 72 hours but NO LONGER than 30 days from the date of the license to find a Justice of the Peace or Ordained Minister IN TEXAS to preform your ceremony. I am going to the JP and it is costing me $150.00 because I am going on a Saturday.... IF I could have done it during the week it would have been $41.00. I had to priority mail the license and a money order and it had to be there Friday before 5pm...... http://www.co.collin.tx.us/county_cl..._applicant.pdf

there is the link to the paperwork I sent to him. The phone #'s are on there and I went to the one in McKinney. IF you have ANY more questions please don't hesitate to ask!!!!
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Not sure why it posted that 16416161611 times LOL!!! BUT also you will have to name a proxy. AND that person HAS to go to the courthouse with you for the marriage ceremony and "STAND IN" for your incarcerated hubby to be. BUT if you are luck you can be on the phone with your man while the ceremony is taking place so that you can say your vows to him.

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Also for those of you NOT close to OK.... here is a thread that has some info on it for what states do allow!
http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=31818

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Monita....THANK YOU sooooo much! You are awesome. Congrats on your wedding!
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Monita....THANK YOU sooooo much! You are awesome. Congrats on your wedding!
You are very welcome and Thank you!! Tomorrow is the big day!!! YAYAY!!! I can't wait.... yet it is bittersweeet, I have waited 29 years to get married and I never pictured it happening this way what I wouldn't give to be able to look him in the eye as we say "I Do"
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I am marrying my man... who is at NFCF this weekend I went to TX and got the licence and am marrying him by proxy on Saturday, in TX. You have to find a state close to you that recognized marriages by proxy

Hi Monita, I hope everything went super well with your marriage to your honey! I was wondering if you were able to send him in a wedding ring? And does CDCR recognize the proxy for his medical records and stuff like that? Thank you VERY much! Marie
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Wanted to let you ladies know that m'love told me last week that the Chaplain at NFCF has informed him that they (the prison) is working on making it possible for inmates at NFCF to get married! Wooo-hooo!! I don't know how long it will take them to actually get it all set up....but, apparently, it's in the works.
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