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Old 01-11-2007, 08:24 PM
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Which do you prefer?? And why??


For some reason, baby has it stuck in his head that we are no longer using protection when he comes home. Lately, he speaks of going "bare" and I'm like WTH??? The last time I trusted a man on that level...I ended up with a STD. Luckily it was cureable, but I vowed that I would never take myself through that again. It took a toll on me emotionally. I've never mentioned the STD thing to baby, and I'm sort of afraid to because I don't want him to see me in another light.


Does whether you have (un)protected sex with a man or not equate to how much you care for him? If your man expected that from you...what would you do?


How in the world do I handle this????

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Old 01-11-2007, 08:29 PM
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I NEVER had unprotected sex until my man and I started to try for children. He's been the only one to go in "bare".
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Old 01-11-2007, 08:41 PM
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do you plan on marrying him and having kids?
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Old 01-11-2007, 08:56 PM
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I already have a toddler by the fool who gave me the STD. He has two kids by a chick.

So do I plan to marry him and have his babies??

I sure would like to. I'd love to. Eventually.
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I already have a toddler by the fool who gave me the STD. He has two kids by a chick.

So do I plan to marry him and have his babies??

I sure would like to. I'd love to. Eventually.
You crack me up with that have a toddler by the fool!
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Old 11-11-2007, 09:50 PM
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I NEVER had unprotected sex until my man and I started to try for children. He's been the only one to go in "bare".
the same with me..This is what im doing when my honey comes out in Sep 08 im taking him straight to the clinic and we are getting check ups so that he wouldnt feel like im insulting him..you should try that...if you still feel apprehensive then tell him you dont want to have unprotected sex and he HAS to respect that
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I didn't vote because with my man after 12 years we don't use protection. When he comes home he will be tested and then we will continue "bare". If it were anyone else I defiantly would protect myself!!!
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I didn't vote because with my man after 12 years we don't use protection. When he comes home he will be tested and then we will continue "bare". If it were anyone else I defiantly would protect myself!!!
i agree he is getting tested when my man gets out
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Please remember ladies that it can take 3-6 months after exposure to return an HIV positive result on an STD test. Even though running into the clinic on the way home seems like a damn good idea [and i've thought about it too!], it might not exactly be accurate.
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I didn't vote because with my man after 12 years we don't use protection. When he comes home he will be tested and then we will continue "bare". If it were anyone else I defiantly would protect myself!!!
Well my man is my husband and the father of my 2 children..So using protection is a little far fetched for us. I know he mentioned that he was tested 7 months ago when he went in and will be tested prior to his release in one month. Pretty positive he's not into men. But I will look at his results anyway..
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Unprotected. He doesn't want me on the pill (frankly nor do I want to be on it) and he only goes in bare... both our decision. Our motto is....if god wants us to have babies, then so be it, otherwise we do the "pull out" or "other ways" of prevention. As far as STD's go, there is no reason for us to be worried about that.
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My son is the one in prison, so this doesn't apply to me. But, there is no way I would have unprotected sex with anyone I would not want to get pg. without knowing that the relationship would work before I worried about bringing a baby into this world to end up raising alone. Children are innocent. Just my opinion
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Well considering I had a hysterectomy 2 years ago we won't have the worry of pregnancy (besides we will be 51 when he gets out). PLUS, we have both been tested, he will continue to be tested until he gets out because he has Hep C, so he has them test him for everything every 6 months when he has his Hep C tests. So.........when he gets out it will be unprotected all the way! I hate the feeling of condoms!!!
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Well with my man and I we have never used anything, I git my tubes tied after I had my last child so that is protection enough for me.
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Well with my man and I we have never used anything, I git my tubes tied after I had my last child so that is protection enough for me.
thats not actually 100% fool proof....i have a 15 year old brother who is here and my father was fixed.....lets just say not anymore.......so becareful.....
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Well with my man and I we have never used anything, I git my tubes tied after I had my last child so that is protection enough for me.
thats one of my reasons too but my main reason is i am allergic to latex
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Shittttt we havin babies when he comes home bring on the bareback! LOL
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Shittttt we havin babies when he comes home bring on the bareback! LOL
That's us too! We'll be married when he comes home. I'm 26 and not getting any younger. I have a great job and my own house. So kids, here we come!
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LMAo... Thats what i'm talkin about!!!1
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Me too!!!! Lol. I wont it all,... Naket head all the way!!!!!!
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Which do you prefer?? And why??


I prefer unprotected sex. The reason why, is I've been with my b/f for a long time. When we first started seeing each other we used protection.

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Does whether you have (un)protected sex with a man or not equate to how much you care for him? If your man expected that from you...what would you do?


How in the world do I handle this????


I don't believe using protection or not has anything to do with how much you care for the man.

I'd just explain to him you feel better using protection. I don't believe you need to go into the details of once having an std, not unless you are still infected, then I'd say, tell him.
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It is a personal choice. I used protection with my man before he went in and I will not when he gets out. I worry about what I have done over the 10 years before I worry about him.
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For everyone that is set on not bagging when their man gets out - Don't be foolish - Protect yourself and make him test first!
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