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Loving a Long-term Sentenced Offender For those whose loved one is serving 10+ years.

View Poll Results: Could you wait 20 years?
Anything for love 119 53.36%
We can just be friends until he comes home 23 10.31%
NO WAY 27 12.11%
Not sure 54 24.22%
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Old 02-15-2015, 03:33 PM
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My husband has a 20 year sentence. We have been together 6 years, married almost 5. He has 12 more years. I sometimes ask myself if I have the strength to do this...but then I remind myself that I have love that some people never get to experience. He will be home with me one day. Until then, I have to hold on.
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Hi everyone I've been riding with my man 20 years now and I have a year and a 1/2 left till he come home ..it will make a total of 22years flat it was a roller coaster for me ..I'm a strong women and I'm going to keep riding till my baby come home 12/22/16 ...Trust me after a while the time goes by fast ...
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I may wait forever...

Unless something miraculous happens, I think it will be 83 or 84 before he is eligible for parole the first time. :-(
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It's good to see people sticking with their lo! I have been sentenced to 5 years and my wife said she is not going to stick by me! We have been together for 9 years married 6! That's great that there are people who value their love good to see!
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This is my first time doing this. This LOVE caught me off guard. This wasnt suppose to happen. But it did. I dont regret it. I love him. I love the way he makes me feel. The way we have so much in common. Even though he is in there, he offers more love than any man who has ever crossed my path. I thought about it at first. But i asked myself. "can you be without his love?" No. i cant. I love him so much and im thankful that after 13 yrs, he thought of me and asked his sister to try and contact me. We havent been together long. only 5 months, but it seems as if we been together in love for YEARS! He is doing a life sentence with possibility of parole. I think that is like 40yrs? (still new to this). I am going to hold on to our love for as long as i can. I am glad that i am able to read other stories about "long term" relationships and to know i am not alone.
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Old 06-08-2015, 09:23 PM
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I been waiting for 13yr but he comes home in 2019 a long time it's hard but i gets thur it sometime i break down and cry too myself an i tell him how i feel but when he walks out them gates he know how to hold on to me.
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My boo is serving 20yrs I have been with him everyday doing this Bid, we have knocked 10 years out now and we are stronger than every before yes I'm riding it out with my boo.
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I have so much respect for the ladies on here that have stuck by there men. I love my husband dearly but this roller coaster has taken its toll on our relationship. Even though we talked every day and I visited twice a week there is a disconnect right now, I am praying it will get better when he is home, but I also know sometimes people change from experiences and he may never be that same man again, or maybe I am to learn to love this "new" man. It def is not a linear process!!
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My hubby was sentence to 20 years. We've been married for 5 years and together for 8 years. He will be eligible for parole in 2 years. He's been in jail for 7 weeks now. We write each other everyday and continue to pray and trust that God will give us strength to get through this.
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My husband is not now, nor has he ever been incarcerated. If he did get 20 years, I would wait without question though. That's my soulmate. Not saying it wouldn't be excruciating most of the time.
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In my case the question is could I have waited 20 years? I couldn't do life without parole because I wanted to have a relationship that includes real physical contact and a child. In the end life without parole almost cost me my mental health. I guess, I couldn't have waited 20 years for the same reason. To quote Tracy Chapman " A love declared for days to come is as good as none..."
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Been waiting 13. He has no mandatory release date, though he does have parole hearings.
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I can wait and have! My man was sentence to life eligible for parole in 40 down 20yrs. We are now looking into Sentence Reduction Programs, appeals which have not yet exhaled but I thought we had because the first and only appeal was denied because he didn't get it in on time. But yeah I will have rode with him for 20 and will ride 20 more if I have to
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Nope. Not just the time-My husband so far has a 4 year local sentence (3 felonies) but 2 fed felonies still pending that could add another 5-20yrs each. It's my trust in him that has destroyed us. He hid soooo much from me. I could not believe what I was reading in the discovery-but it was all there in black and white. Could not believe how all this pretty much happened in front of my face without noticing it. And the almost Million dollars in restitution. I can't. Not my circus, Not my monkeys. It breaks my heart that it is going to end this way but I have to save myself, because no one else is going to do it for me.
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I've waited 23 years for my wife, with 33 still to go.
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Omnia vincit amor - Love conquers all. I don't know if he ever will be released, but I know that I will always love him.
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Omnia vincit amor - Love conquers all. I don't know if he ever will be released, but I know that I will always love him.
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20 years is a long time to put your life on hold.. I dont see how some women do it. Some men dont change, and then they come out to be with someone else, God could have someone else for you. Women must realize their worth.
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20 years is a long time to put your life on hold.. I dont see how some women do it. Some men dont change, and then they come out to be with someone else, God could have someone else for you. Women must realize their worth.
The only way to do this is to not look at it as putting your life on hold. I do everything I want to do so I won't have any regrets IF WE decide to go our separate ways once he comes home. One day at a time people. One day at a time.
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more like 7,300 days.....good luck hope it works out
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more like 7,300 days.....good luck hope it works out
Thanks, but more than half it probably won't.
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I myself would not. But I wont have to.
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I did over 10 years with my Ex. When he got out he betrayed me in every way. I was so hurt... I stayed single for 15 years. But now God has brought me another Man to love . He has done 23 years by himself he has 100 years. I feel happy.
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We met 20 years ago, I never thought about waiting for him, perhaps it was just the way we met - we just wrote to one another and kept writing... it was our way of living life. When I got out of jail, he was already embedded into me. I've lived life with him, even when I wasn't in contact with him for years at a time - who he is, as a man has had a profound impact on the woman I was evolving into. I love him madly, I'm not waiting for him, as much as I'm living this life with him.
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