The anniversary dates

**GingerM** · #1 09-26-2020, 07:57 AM

It's been 6 years and 3 days since my Dad died at the Oregon Pen.

While it doesn't have that gut-wrenching sucker punch that it used to, the day is still a difficult one for me.

There are so many things I wish had been different. There's no changing the past, and had my Dad been born as a Millennial, he probably wouldn't have ended up in prison because he wouldn't have had to hide being gay.

I don't really miss him anymore, but I do still love him, and I still feel the loss. Anniversary dates suck.

**sidewalker** · #2 09-26-2020, 09:14 AM

Yes they do. wow, 3 years already.

**GingerM** · #3 09-30-2020, 09:38 AM

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wow, 3 years already

6 years. It feels like a lot less than that though.

**sidewalker** · #4 10-02-2020, 06:56 AM

sorry about that. I mis read the 3 days. duh.

I cant believe its 6 years! It sure does not seem like it.

**patchouli** · #5 10-02-2020, 08:27 PM

Ginger, I'm glad the pain isn't as sharp. It will eventually become more of a sadness that waxes and wanes between bouts of happier memories.

**GingerM** · #6 10-03-2020, 08:08 AM

Most of the time, I don't notice it anymore. But on those anniversary days - it comes back. Sometimes with a time delay

Given that he died of cancer, which he would have died of whether he was in prison or not, I'm glad that he got to "steal" 7 years back from DOC. But it's still a hard day. And there are always all those unanswered questions. I've gotten better at accepting that I will never have the answers to them, but they're still there.