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Old 07-15-2018, 03:37 PM
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So a little backstory. I met my boyfriend after he served 12 years in BOP and was on supervised release. He has truly made some incredible strides in his life and we had been living together and living a great life when unfortunately some bad decisions caused a VOP and a 14 month sentence 9 hours away from me. After 3 months in a county jail near me we only had no contact visits, we haven’t seen each other in over 2 months and this weekend I took time off and drive the 9 hours to see him, I was so looking forward to finally getting a hug from him after 6 months of no contact, got a crappy motel in the middle of nowhere - and got to the prison only to get selected for a random ion scanner. I wasn’t doing drugs but there may have been some weed near my jeans and so I can’t blame the scanner and I blame myself but that doesn’t make the heart ache any less. Just venting. This is so damn hard
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Old 07-15-2018, 03:54 PM
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I'm so sorry your visit didn't pan out as planned, especially after so long. You're right, this is a difficult road. I'm sure you know now how important it is to be overly cautious in preparing for a visit and I hope you get the chance again soon.
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I definitely do, very hard lesson learned on my end. Realizing that you are truly in a situation that everything is in the control of the Feds.
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Welcome to Prison Talk. I'm sorry for what happened to your visit, especially since it was because of the notoriously faulty ion drug scanner.
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You live and you learn, but that was huge undertaking to go sour. I was be extremely upset too.

Adopt a clean routine. Freshly cleaned clothes, wash hands like crazy, clean shoes etc.

It is annoying as hell, but being sent home after a lengthy trip is costly and depressing.

Hope next time is better
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Welcome to Prison Talk. I'm sorry for what happened to your visit, especially since it was because of the notoriously faulty ion drug scanner.
Thank you for that - the worse feeling is knowing he is sitting there expecting a visit and I’m RIGHT THERE. And the CO’s treat you like a criminal, I think there would be some different rules if these people went through their loved one being in this situation, but I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. Worst drive home ever
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Welcome to Prison Talk. I'm sorry for what happened to your visit, especially since it was because of the notoriously faulty ion drug scanner.
It doesn’t sound like the scanner was to blame in this situation.


That is unfortunate though, OP. I hope you get to visit soon.
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She says it was the ion scanner in post #1.

The bop stopped using ion scanners a few years ago because they have proven to be extremely inaccurate (false positives). The bop bureaucrats brought them back to uphold my interpretation of the bop's visitation policy statement: that denying visits to 100 innocent people is preferable to allowing even one person who came in contact with drug residue into the visiting room.

It's just collateral damage to them.
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She says it was the ion scanner in post #1.

The bop stopped using ion scanners a few years ago because they have proven to be extremely inaccurate (false positives). The bop bureaucrats brought them back to uphold my interpretation of the bop's visitation policy statement: that denying visits to 100 innocent people is preferable to allowing even one person who came in contact with drug residue into the visiting room.

It's just collateral damage to them.



It is a flawed system and I agree with you, and although I did not do any substance anytime near my visit, I should have been more careful with what I may have come in contact with beforehand - because that is the only think that I can think of that would have set it off. I also had RX meds in the pocket that they scanned to take after I ate breakfast that morning, but who knows - I just knew that no matter what it was I was not able to see him, which broke me.



It is so hard to try and stay positive in this situation - I feel like I don't want to burden him with how sad I am and how hard it is for me when he is the one inside and he's trying to do what he can to keep things positive for himself. I am having a hard time with this for sure.
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It doesn’t sound like the scanner was to blame in this situation.


That is unfortunate though, OP. I hope you get to visit soon.

Thank you for that - I doubt that I will be able to manage to do that trip again anytime soon, that was likely my one opportunity to get to see him during this time, I wanted a hug more than anything, but live and learn and move on, because what else do you do? Hoping the next visit will be to pick up up for HWH sooner rather than later.
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