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Old 10-28-2010, 11:21 AM
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Does your Bf/Husband have or show remorse for the crime he commited to be in prison for?

I know some have innocent loved ones but i'm interested in the ones that admit to guilt.
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For me R has remorse and we are trying to work through his guilt of the crimes commited
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Billy had remorse. He asked forgiveness of his victims family members. I know for a fact if he couldve traded places with them he would have. With life unfortunately you must live nd deal with decisions made and you dont get take backs. Billy wasnt a bad operson just a horrible decision maker and yes he had alot of remorse for his crimes.
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NO Way & I don't expect him to have remorse for something he did not do. The only remorse he has is that he is not here to protect me & our son from the escalating harassment & violence being directed at us from so called Victims & their "partners in crime" as they so boldly state on various sites.
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my man's crime was spur of the moment, hot headed, he was on drugs and just snapped. he has remorse because he didn't mean to do it and also because he sees the consequences. he's paid with his life basically.

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Ray pled guilty, took a 20 year no parole sentence for what he did. Had he of went to trial he could have gotten 50 years. He IS remorseful, he lives with what he did every day of his life. I told him after 17 years he needs to stop beating himself up for it, he is paying a heavy price for a bad decision.
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My babe has remorse for what he did. Obviously he knew that what he was doing was wrong but he is young and didn't really realize what he was doing would affect so many people. He tells me all the time that he is so sorry for what he has done and what he is going to do to better himself when he comes home. He is in a Boot Camp right now and they take a lot of classes like "criminal thinking" he said that these classes have helped him a lot. When he was in his last prison he began writing letters to all his victims apologizing for what what he has done and is planning on sending them out when he gets home after getting approved from his p.o of course.
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Yes he does though sometimes I do wonder if it is more that he is sorry he got caught and is sorry for the crap I have to go through on my own...as opposed to the fact he is really sorry for his crime...but he is working towards it.
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Ray pled guilty, took a 20 year no parole sentence for what he did. Had he of went to trial he could have gotten 50 years. He IS remorseful, he lives with what he did every day of his life. I told him after 17 years he needs to stop beating himself up for it, he is paying a heavy price for a bad decision.
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Hmmm. I hate to say this but I dont think my husband is remorse. I think he feels bad about what he done to our family and upset of what he has done to his life. He was on drugs when it happened but remorse. I think he is more upset that he got caught. He wishes he could go home but he didnt literally hurt anybody or even seen the people. He took a plea sentence and will have to pay back fines. I dont see remorse and that is why he cant write that letter to the judge of a sentence modification and I wont do it for him even though I want him to come home.
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My man has had remorse from the beginning, but I don't think getting bailed out and drug court allowed him to feel that remorse toward anything other than getting busted with drugs (poss--he get intent to distribute for weight-which wasn't much!). Since he has failed drug court and got sentenced with 5 years in prison I know he now has remorse that he talks about and actively feels. He never realized before this how much it would not only affect me, but also the rest of his family. The impact it has had on all of our lives is significant, and I don't believe that when he was in his active addiction he thought about anything other than himself.
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Yeah, he definitely feels remorse for what he did. As soon as he got arrested, he said that he wasn't going to try to squirm out of it like he has done in the past (i.e., going to court and hoping the victim wouldn't show up). He told the public defender that he was guilty and to just work him out the best deal possible. I think this is the first time he hasn't tried to avoid taking responsibility for his actions.

He also had to take a victim impact class, and he actually seemed to understand that he traumatized the victim in this case. I do think he feels bad, yes.
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Yes marc had remorse for what he was in for(walking off work release)and has remorse now for the lifestyle he is living.Unfortunately,i think you need more than remorse to make it successfully in this life.you have to wake up every morning bound and determined to do whatever it takes to do the right thing,no matter how hard that is.He is not there yet.

I don't mean to detract from your thread,Gina.It's a very good one.I'm just saying for MYSELF and my situation,it can be very sad to watch someone make poor choice after poor choice,all the while them saying they are miserable in the lifestyle yet seem to lack the strength to get out of it.Sometimes i think remorse is not enough to change a persons mindset and as we all know the mind plays a very powerful part in our decision making.

OF COURSE though remorse is good.And it sure beats someone loudly proclaiming their innocence when you both know they are far from innocent.
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My babe regrets what he did, he should have been smarter about things, one step ahead, and not so much of a risk taker- but, hey, you can't live on regrets- all you can do is do right the next time around if the situation was to arise again.
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Yes, I know my man feels remorse for what happened and how things turned out to end in tragedy
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@Beth I think remorse with willingness to change their lifestyle and thinking would be what I'm looking for. Sure we can feel bad but we must show how we have changed to not repeat over and over again. Easier said than done. I'm not just talking about our men. Myself too.
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Does your Bf/Husband have or show remorse for the crime he commited to be in prison for?

I know some have innocent loved ones but i'm interested in the ones that admit to guilt.
I did't have a BF/Husband in prison, I had 2 sons that were arrested and sent to prison for most of thier lives. Yes, they have remorse. But they tried not to show it. Once they go to prison, they cannot show weakness, Only in thier letters to you can they tell you the depths of the souls. What you have to show him is forgivness, and unconditional love,encourgement, and show him that you have faith in him,that, when he comes home you know in your heart that he will not fall back in his old ways. Does he have remorse, of course he does,Maybe you don't really understand what he must go through just to get by day-by-day,Not only with the prisoners,but with the prison staff.Every single day is a struggle that he must go through. So yes! He does have remorse.
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My man has remorse... I think he has dealt with a lot of his remorse internally though...something he cannot make visible to other prisoners. He has made me aware that his life was changed with a simple few seconds of total arrogance. He is so unlike the person he was before. Back then, he was young and impulsive. I believe that he had no real understanding of how certain choices may lead to life-long consequences. Hopefully, his debt to society will be paid in 20 months if the parole board grants him his freedom.
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I think G feels remorse but he wasn't the one who did the actual shooting (his brother did) and since he wouldn't testify against his brother he was charged too. It was a case of self defense and he always says "it was either us or them" it is sad someone lost their life.

I just hope when he is realeased he doesn't go back to his old lifeste, his kids need him and so do I
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Yes he is very remorseful oneday he was talking and he was like I just wish I could tell the judge sorry, it was so sincere that it brought tears to my eyes.
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The right answer would be Yes he does but the honest answer is No I don't think he does. He regrets getting caught. His crime is so complex non violent offender.
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Does your Bf/Husband have or show remorse for the crime he commited to be in prison for?

I know some have innocent loved ones but i'm interested in the ones that admit to guilt.
he admits to being guilty but neither one of us will ever show remorse for what happened with those people. in my opinion, they chose to live as active criminals, so they forfeited their right to cry to the police when their behavior came back to bite them in the ass.
everyone knows they called 911 on my husband and what the situation was. the guy cant show his face in certain neighborhoods now because his reputation follows him.

edit: this is just my opinion, i know im still bitter about what happened.
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YES he does. He constantly says he deserves the punishment he was handed.
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Does your Bf/Husband have or show remorse for the crime he commited to be in prison for?

I know some have innocent loved ones but i'm interested in the ones that admit to guilt.
No, they blame everybody else, the cops, the judge the snitches it's everybody's fault but theirs. So IMO he's right were he should be.
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Although my man admits to being guilty and knows he did wrong he doesn't necessarily feel bad for it. In his eyes he was doing what he had to do at the time to serve. The only regret he has is that he didn't come to me before going back to his old hood in El Centro... because he knows the second he looked at me it would've stopped him in his tracks and he would've calmed down. He admitted it to me this past visit that he should've just came and held me... then he wouldn't be locked up. I was so angry, but held it inside because I was more happy to just be able to see him.
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