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Old 07-09-2018, 08:33 PM
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How do you deal with those days that feel extra lonely? Not in a physical way just emotionally I guess. Well maybe physically as in a hug or a kiss sometimes? Because I'm feeling pretty shitty and alone at the moment
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I've learned to just shut it off I know there's nothing I can do about it so I've just gotten used to the fact that I'm not going to be getting it so I just deal with it. Most of the time I get a pen and paper and write him a letter or I send him an email. It helps me emotionally and physically. I hope you have a better night
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Old 07-09-2018, 09:21 PM
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Thank u I hope I have a better night also
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I've learned to just shut it off I know there's nothing I can do about it so I've just gotten used to the fact that I'm not going to be getting it so I just deal with it. Most of the time I get a pen and paper and write him a letter or I sent him an email. It helps me emotionally and physically. I hope you have a better night
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I don't have an answer either, but I agree with your hope that tonight will be better. My wife got a dog, and stayed in close contact with our family, which helped somewhat.
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I had a natural answer - I'm a good loner. Being alone isn't the same as being lonely, and I just had to note the differences.
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Same here, I'm good at being alone and I seldom feel lonely. I do a little after a weekend of visits because they are so rare and I want to be with him on the outside but... patience and perseverance.
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I'm okay with it mostly but some days(such as today) it just feels extra hard and I guess I TV has to do with not having much distraction besides our son. I just have no friends so I dont have anyone to talk to .
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I know it's easier said than done but could you maybe "make" friends with for example having play-dates for your son and invite the Mom? Just be honest about your situation but don't tell too much. Shit happens and if you are straight forward some might stick. I know it's hard out there... Don't let anyone judge you because your man is in prison!!!! Nobody is perfect!!
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I know it's easier said than done but could you maybe "make" friends with for example having play-dates for your son and invite the Mom? Just be honest about your situation but don't tell too much. Shit happens and if you are straight forward some might stick. I know it's hard out there... Don't let anyone judge you because your man is in prison!!!! Nobody is perfect!!
Yeah I've tried making a couple friends but once I mention my husbands in prison they become distant so i guess i stopped trying
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I've had too many days like yours, the only solution that seems to help me get through it - I tell myself to just get through the next hour, then the next and so on. I know it sounds trivial, but it helps me to break down the day into parts. I've also been listening to audible, I can't seem to concentrate on reading right now. Having the book read to me though helps the minutes go by. I hope I've helped in some way. I do understand, sending you a hug.
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I work as much as I can to be honest. I feel productive and I'm around people. The days I'm home feel long. I started making projects in the house for those days. Decluttering is always fun and you feel accomplished afterwards.

I watch movies, read books, and I'll BS with a friend or 2 that I trust. We don't talk too much about all this stuff. Nor worldly events and their lives. Lots of politics.

My boys keep me busy. I'm a chauffeur for them now. When I need hugs and love, I cuddle up on them.
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Netflix and chill had become my best friend! I love movies, I read often, workout, spend time with my nephew and of course work and trying to do overtime when I can
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Netflix and chill had become my best friend! I love movies, I read often, workout, spend time with my nephew and of course work and trying to do overtime when I can
I try to workout but after a week I stop lol
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I try to workout but after a week I stop lol
When I go visit my husband and stay for the weekend, if I'm bored/lonely, I will often go see a movie by myself. Unlike some of my friends who won't do anything alone, I really don't mind it.

You can also just go sit at a starbucks and hang out just to get out of the house.

I tend to use the time when I'm not working, like this summer, to just try to find a project in the house to keep myself busy. Sometimes when my kids are at their dad's it is extra lonely/quiet, but I will try to call a friend or sometimes just find something to clean up or catch up on other stuff. I was previously divorced, so I know what it's like to be alone. Sometimes it's ok, but on occasion it is lonely. The key is try something to keep yourself busy. Even if it's just reading a book, joining a club, taking a class, doing something at your park district, whatever. Find something that is your own, for you. It will help also for when he is home, so that you have something that is just yours.
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I try to workout but after a week I stop lol
I get it lol Im off and on but when I go its so helpful I get to relieve stress and I have more energy. I just need to be consistent and loose this belly fat
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