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Old 10-28-2003, 05:43 PM
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Default Does anyone ever get an apology for murder?

I would just like to know ,our son was murdered ,the mans in prison for 25 to 60 second degree.He's comming up for a parole hearing in 2009,God willing I will be there .I and his dad and brothers and sisters are still heart broken,I just often wondered what it would be like to hear him say I'm Sorry,would it make a difference? ,some body please
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Old 05-11-2019, 05:45 PM
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Your son is dead. You don't need to be being vindictive and trying to get an apology. You are not going to get an apology and you need to move on with your life and leave this man be. You are not the law and you have no authority. Your son is dead, move on and leave this man alone. Why do you need to be at his parole hearing? Mind your own
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Old 05-11-2019, 05:57 PM
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Your son is dead. You don't need to be being vindictive and trying to get an apology. You are not going to get an apology and you need to move on with your life and leave this man be. You are not the law and you have no authority. Your son is dead, move on and leave this man alone. Why do you need to be at his parole hearing? Mind your own
Iíve been at PTO a long, long time and I think this is the coldest, most harsh & useless reply Iíve ever read.

And Iím responding as a former inmate.
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veramunson, first, please accept my heartfelt condolences on the death of your son.

I'm not sure that a parent ever really "gets over" something like this, but hopefully one can find a sorta peace and/or closure....and even learn to, if not forgive, at least to hold no ill thoughts.


It took me years, 35 - 40 years to learn to not hate the men that kidnapped, raped, murdered, and buried in a cornfield my best friend. I was 16; she had just turned 17. But it happened. I can't say that I don't hate them, but I can say that I no longer wish KY had the death penalty. And I've stopped actively opposing their parole. Actually, I wish NO state had the death penalty. I also believe in 2nd chances.



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Iíve been at PTO a long, long time and I think this is the coldest, most harsh & useless reply Iíve ever read.

And Iím responding as a former inmate.
Totally agree with you Safran. That response was completely unnecessary, insensitive and inappropriate.

Maybe the person who murdered their child shows remorse now but didnít before and if he did would apologize. Maybe not. They asked a simple question. To speak to the victims family in that manner is completely uncalled for.
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For the abusive poster - there are plenty of prisons and correction systems that offer restorative justice programs wherein the victim or family of the victim can meet in a controlled environment with the offender. Both the victim/family and the offender can express the causes and impact of the crime. Further, an apology and actual, heartfelt remorse is commonly expressed by the offender.

In other words, you are wrong.

If the OP gets this, I hope the family is able to avail themselves of such a program and the offender is amenable. I hope that such an experience really helps you to heal.
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I’m kinda glad this thread is 16 years old and the OP won’t likely have to read that first response.
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