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Old 09-19-2010, 10:53 AM
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I recently read that creating traditions is a sure way to keep a couple connected. What traditions do you share? Have you started doing something since he's been locked up that you will continue to do when he's home? Looking for some ideas.
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Old 09-19-2010, 11:31 AM
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Hmmmmmm....what an interesting idea. There are websites that list all sorts of interesting observances.

For example, today is International Talk-Like-A-Pirate Day (aaaaarrrrrrggggg matey). You can build all sorts of tradition with that. Or it is also Wife Appriciation Day, so go figure! Or the 24th is Love Note Day. Or World Smile Day on 10/1.


But seriously, there are all sorts of "days" that you could build some serious connections and traditions around, and I agree, they do bring people closer.

This is such a great idea! Here's the link to a great site www.brownielocks.com

Let me research, the list is HUGE so it is going to take a while to decide exactlly what to do. But I think your idea is wonderful so, let me run with it and I'll get back to you =)

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Well this might sound kind of cheesy but since he has been locked up we celebrate our anniversary every month..

ex: our anniversary is August 22 .. but since he has been locked up we dont go buy years we go buy months .. so this month would be our 25th month anniversary.

Its a way for us to have something to look forward to every month. I love it. We send each other a card and do something special.

I think when we are home we will continue the month thing because it just makes us realize not to take any month, week, day or second for granteed.
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That's a great idea too! I am a big believer in finding the joy in the little things, but you totally need stuff to look forward too, to keep you going.

Something else we do is celebrate the day we met, which is coming up actually...
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No traditions. It's a good idea and something I'm going to mention in his next letter.
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I guess our first tradition is that I try to make sure I visit on special days, for instance his birthday, my birthday, what we consider our "anniversary" (until we actually get one!) and that type of thing.

Second, we started this about 3 years ago. For each others birthday we write each other a very serious, very important letter. It is all about THEM, no news, no arguments, no "this is what is happeniing in my life" stuff. My letter will be coming this week. In it Ray tells me how much he loves me, how I make him feel, how proud he is of me, what makes him fall in love with me everytime he sees me....etc. The letters are different each year because things change each year. Yes, in some cases they are the same, but for the most part it gives us each time to reflect on the last 16+ years and all the changes we have both been through. We will continue to do this even after he is released.
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This is very silly but we made a tradition for Christmas and the other holidays that visitations fall on the we have dinner out of the vending machine,its something we both want to keep doing when he is out to remind ourselves of how far we have came,we have served 14 years of a 25 year sentence.
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nothing really before he was locked up we would write little notes to each other and stick them on the calendar...like love you miss you while I"m working ect...now we write long notes to each other..We will probably keep that up when he is home.
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As a member of AA, we give out medallions for periods of sobriety. One day, one month, 3,6, and 9 months and a year and multiple years. Every 3 months hat my man is in, I take a medallion as a milestone to see how far we have come together in this ordeal and it may sound cheesy to some of you , but it really helps me to keep pushing forward.
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Old 12-27-2010, 08:33 PM
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Ok...This hasn't happened yet but, for over 9 months...all we could do was write...No calls and no visits. He was all the way up in the panhandle so, because of timing, I never got a letter on Tuesday...I HATED TUESDAYS!!! So, now he makes sure he calls me every Tuesday night...And, when he gets home, he said Tuesday will always be a day he does something special for me...I can't wait...He said he will call it "Elizabethsday" instead of Tuesday...LOL
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