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Old 05-04-2011, 06:00 PM
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I got out of N.W.C.X.in Feb.No the CO aren't bad.But the old wardon was.But he is know longer there.Bless his Hart.lol
Someone did a good job getting him out of N.W.C.X.
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Old 05-05-2011, 08:05 AM
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There are good and bad in any work field.My son has bend in prison.And there is 1 femail that realy help our family.And she was realy good.She will be well blessed.I hope one day to meet her.

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Old 06-01-2011, 01:34 PM
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I am so happy to read some of these post. I am surrendering in a few weeks to a camp in Florida (Coleman) and I have been very nervous about how I might be treated by the COs. I have never been in trouble in my life and have no problem following rules. I know I will be nothing but respectful and hope that the COs and everyone there will see that I just want to do my time and return home safe to my husband and children. Thank you all for sharing.
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Old 06-03-2011, 05:31 PM
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As some others have mentioned, I think there are good and bad COs. My husband has had problems with very few of them; many take the time to treat the guys like humans, which I am quite thankful for. In visits, I have encountered both the good and the bad. To those who will allow us to visit a little longer when others aren't coming to visit - THANK YOU! :-)
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Old 06-14-2011, 08:17 AM
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Not all COs are bad, just as all humans are not bad. Unfortunately, in texes prison experience, the majority, eventually, become hardened to human fallibility. Mostly, I suppose due to the excessive exposure to offenders trying to "play" them. I cannot count the times I saw this happen. Yes, some are power hungry to compensate for the powerlessness so many of us humans feel in our lives, but, there are those who have influenced me, as an ex-offender, and many others with their compassion. They don't make the news or make a name for themselves, but they made and make my and countless other offenders' lives liveable and hopeful and worth not giving up on. Thank you to all of those that retain compassion and open minds.
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Old 01-03-2012, 03:29 PM
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Originally Posted by Itamedthelion View Post
we are all human and need to be treated as such, i used to be a co and i was an awesome co, i was even told to not smile by my bosses. Can you believe that???

for some one who was so sexually harrassed while i worked there (i could be living off of the state pretty fatly)
they sure did treat me nastiliy
miss lady where did you get that dragon and pheonix saying from???!!! I LOVE IT??!! being that my husband put a pheonix on me and i had a dragon on me previously, those two are us. TOGETHER FOREVER!!!! even though his p.o.'s a punk!
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I really can't say that any of the COs at RCC are bad, when I first started visiting I thought that they all acted cocky, but since then they are all nice and friendly. I think since I had never been to a prison I just wasnt sure of what to expect! The COs as I drive in are extremely nice, makes you feel welcome!
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Old 12-31-2012, 09:09 AM
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When my loved one had a major medical issue recently,the co's responded quickly and got him the help he needed to save his life.He comes home in three years and that is because they did their jobs.I'm very thankful to them and the medical staff too.
When he need something to read,they have on accassion even given him a book to read.That is a big thing if your locked in shu 24-7/365.
My love says they treat him decently and he has no complaints.That is nice to hear and eases my stress level so much!
A huge thank you to all the co's who treat our loved ones as people who have family and friends who love them.
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We had quite a few bad CO's where I was at and then there were a few good ones. One in particular was a Lt. who would go out of his way to ask about you. You were still an offender, but he treated you with respect, and you gave it back. A few years after my release and I am honored to be able to call him a brother in Christ and we are in a ministry group together, he was a blessing then and he is a blessing now when I need a phone call that helps me to redirect to where I should go.
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This looks like an old thread, but I've had more than one unexpectedly helpful interaction with prison staff.

First, the staff member who deals with phones and visitation took a lot of time with me when I called her from Minnesota and told her that all my information was at home in Indiana. My guy had just been transferred from county and I hadn't talked to him since the transfer. The day after she gave me all the info it would turn out that I needed, I got a call. It was my guy calling from the chaplains office. He'd been in before, so he was freaking out about what could have happened to make them let him call. I reassured him nothing was wrong but that I had called the previous day and told them that he would be lost without hearing from me and I wished he could just know that I knew he was ok. He was sure someone had died. I'd love to give her the credit she deserves, but I'm a former bell system employee and I treat privacy like gold. I am going to call her when he's out (soon) and thank her for her help.

Next, he's my same sex partner. He listed me as SO I guess and when I made my first visit I read the half-sheet printout they give you at the reception desk that you give to the CO watching over the visitation room. While I was waiting to be patted down, I read it and I was listed as his "wife". Ok, no problem, but I didn't realize what the paper was for.

I got in and handed it to the guy at the desk. At that point I thought about "wife". He started reading down the sheet and he sort of paused. He finished reading, took a look at me, stammered a little and said "you know i'm pretty lenient, but try to not push it too far or i'll have to say something". I'd already been told by Josh to not push it at all ,which was my plan.

I was very surprised that this guy, clearly not all that comfortable with the situation, handled it like that.

And that first visit after I was handed the "wife" paper I was going through the metal detector. It kept going off. The woman at the desk where I got the paper came back and asked what was happening. The officer running the machinery told her and the one from the desk had her turn on the height sectors one at a time (i didn't know they had this - at airport the just wave me through). It was something at head height. I figured a dental thing, i have a bunch of old root canals. That's what they thought too. So the first woman took over and waved me through for what ended up being four times. It kept going off till after the 3rd time when I said to her it was probably teeth. She said she couldn't make an exception, but I saw her hand waving something to the officer in the control booth. She then waved me through a fourth time and it did not go off. And she said 'you're in'.

Now I don't imagine they're all that nice, especially when I'm not around, but I didn't expect this sort of treatment so frequently. I did see one incident and was part of another very small one. First visit a guy and woman were apparently overdoing the goodbye hug and apparently there's a rule no touching the waist. They got severely yelled at like it was the end of the world. No consequences beyond that unless they were later. And Josh once put his foot about a foot across the line, not in my direction and got a quick yell from the co to get it back across.
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Thank you to the CO who was willing to listen and help me out last weekend. We're not inherently on opposite sides and it's much appreciated when we can be reasonable in our communication.
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I have been around some COs during visit who were pickier about rules or made things more complicated than other COs, but none of them were ever really a problem. But, a few have been very kind to me over the years.

When I traveled 800 miles RT, one told my son he should be thankful his mom loves him enough to travel that far. Another one told him how lucky he was. They were really being complimentary to me. Those same COs made sure things went smoothly for my daughter when she visited one Christmas weekend without me but with her 4 month old baby girl. I forgot to take my lip gloss out of my pocket but instead of having to go back to the car, they just held it for me.

In the current location, I called because of the stories I was getting about "the pole". When I asked about it and told the visitation CO the stories I had heard, he laughed goodnaturedly and then explained to me how it was just a metal detector. The two that are usually present during visitation remember me and ask if I have been to any good concerts (they were at the same concert I was at last fall and recognized me). They told me they think my son is one of those who are going to "make it" and that he's a good person, respectful of everyone. I forgot to take my key fob off the keyring with the emergency penlight and they held it for me rather than me having to throw it away.

I know that inmates and guards have a different relationship than I do as a visitor. But, I am thankful that my experiences have all been positive allowing for one less stress in this whole process.
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I'm grateful to the CO that allow my love to use the phone to call me and his family before going to work. I was able to speak to him twice this week and that meant a lot to him/for me as well. My love is going through a lot right now and for him to just vent to me/hear my voice really brings peace to him.
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My son was released 2 weeks ago. As I was waiting in the parking lot, one of the COs who had been at many of my visits during the last year saw me waiting. He came over and wished us luck and commented that he thought my son would do well.
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My son was released 2 weeks ago. As I was waiting in the parking lot, one of the COs who had been at many of my visits during the last year saw me waiting. He came over and wished us luck and commented that he thought my son would do well.
Awwww that is so awesome he would take the time to do that!!!
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