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Old 07-26-2017, 04:51 PM
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Well as you know everyone has an opinion and when you post on a public site you might not always here what you want to here and if we agree or not your going to do what's best for you.
IMO why would you want to bring a child into this life??? I never wanted to be the wife of a prisoner I would never make a child suffer with the absence of his or her parent by choice. My daughter who was 17 almost lost it I couldn't imagine chosing this life for any child. Ugh. I agree it's selfish and wrong. Children deserve to be able to run and play and enjoy time and do things with their parents what kind of life is a visit in a visiting room. I just think it's wrong to bring a child up in a world full of prison visits and timed phone calls. You may not like my response but it is what it is.
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Ok... i agree with what you are writing about. But we all take risks everyday.. driving, seat belt or no seat belt... using the phone while driving, crossing the street, sending our kids to school. If you are kayaking, or hiking in beautiful weather and then in a matter of seconds it starts thundering, lighting and raining, then it is our responsibility to come up with a solution to the unpredictable, uncontrollable weather.
So my point is... it is our choices, and what solutions we come up with for our choices that are controlled and our uncontrollable choices is how we need to live pur lives.. the only 3 things that are for certain in our lives are... birth, death and taxes, everything else is our lives are unpredictable.
You're the only one qualified to decide what constitutes an acceptable level of risk for you. The risk/reward model seems pretty straightforward in your case. The greater the potential reward, the greater the potential risk.
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It is your choice not to have children and other peoples choice to have children.
And once again, i am sorry that you personally do not have a support system of friends and family in your life. Now that is heart breaking
1. never assume not having children was a matter of choice

2. a lack of support system is what you get when your brother is in prison and you, by virtue of your profession, hang around with criminals and attorneys all day
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1. never assume not having children was a matter of choice

2. a lack of support system is what you get when your brother is in prison and you, by virtue of your profession, hang around with criminals and attorneys all day
I absolutely meant no disrespect at all.
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Why not? Seems you have put a lot of thought and consideration into this matter..True, there will be MANY obstacles and challenges to overcome, and very unique challenges at that, but many joys and blessings too...if it's meant to be, it'll be...
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