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View Poll Results: Are you faithful to your man?
yes 1,442 92.50%
no 63 4.04%
would rather not say 54 3.46%
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Old 01-14-2018, 01:55 PM
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Listen, I am a physical person.. it’s who I am, always have been. I’m not a long distance relationship kind of gal, I screw it up. The first couple years he was in, I knew he was the one but I don’t think I was mature enough to be faithful. I’ve always been a little selfish. We always kept talking throughout all my relationships. He didn’t want me to be alone and I love being in a relationship. Flash forward, him and i are now married and I have NEVER been more faithful and honest in my entire life. Sometimes I’m physically lonely, and when I am - I send him a message (tablet), take a bath, and avoid men like the plague until my urge passes. At this point? The thought of any other man touching me besides my husband? Makes me want to vomit. Lol I’m waking up every day excited it’s one day closer to him coming home. BUT I don’t judge others - this isn’t a life I’d recommend to people lol
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I'm deeply in love with minez and i truly do not want to lose him and if it ever came down to it I am done with relationships cause I put my all in US.
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Question. How do you stay faithful to your man when hes going to be gone a LONG time. What can you do? It bothers me bc I dont know if I can but I dont want to ruin my marriage and cheating is one way to throw it right out the window. What do you women do that have to wait for 20 yrs or so. Mine is only 2 yrs but I dont think that I can wait for him to come home!
Then u must not love him.... How can u cheat on someone u love?
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Old 02-18-2018, 08:36 PM
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JMO but I feel like two yrs is nothing. I’ve been single for longer stretches than that and each time I was “celibate”. That has more to do with the fact that I have never been the type to be in to casual encounters. Sex to me is a very intimate act which I will not partake in unless I have strong feelings for the person and am in an established relationship. So for me cheating on my love is not even an option or thought. I side with those that say if you can cheat then the love and bound isn’t what you think it is. I’ve been cheated on in the past and it is truly devastating. I’m not judging you for asking, I would just advise that if you really love him and are telling him you are going to do this time with him, think long and hard before you act. My man has done 17 yrs. At the 7 yr mark he broke up with his then gf because he found out she was cheating. It rocked him and almost got him more time. Your actions with have consequences so consider that as well. He’s told me stories about women cheating on their inmates and getting pregnant and it destroys the guy cause he never saw it coming. I would wait a million yrs for this man! If you think you can’t hang in there I would say consider ending things.... it’s better than cheating. 20 yrs is a long time and if you cheat once, then what happens in another couple yrs, etc. Is it worth the hurt and guilt? These are just my thoughts. I wish you the best of luck.
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Tempted to invite my ex over...rough night 2nite.

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Old 03-05-2018, 08:09 PM
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Just told him in a letter I'm too passionate to wait years and can’t resist the dating offers i get forever. He's up for possibe parole thus summer and will know in May. We will reevaluate then. I'm not getting any younger and I'm starting to think he's playing me anyway. TONS of red flags.
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Old 03-07-2018, 08:47 PM
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Just told him in a letter I'm too passionate to wait years and can’t resist the dating offers i get forever. He's up for possibe parole thus summer and will know in May. We will reevaluate then. I'm not getting any younger and I'm starting to think he's playing me anyway. TONS of red flags.
Your to passionate to wait till summer? Or you think you can't stay faithful??
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Like others have said here, just the thought of someone else touching me makes me sick to my stomach, it just doesn't feel right, even imagining my favorite actor, Tom Hardy touching me doesn't feel right lol so I must be in love lol! Just knowing that in mid may my bf will be home and cuddling in bed makes me want to somehow push time forward quicker. At night when I feel lonely and terribly miss him cuddling up to me, I spray a little of his deodorant on his pillow, and put the pillow behind me before I got to sleep at night, close my eyes and I feel content with imagining that it is him behind me.
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Can’t even stand the thought of being with someone else. If you really love and care about the person I don’t think you would really want to.
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Tempted to invite my ex over...rough night 2nite.
If you are that tempted maybe you need to let go of him first and then move on with your physical needs so you can be passionate all you want.
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Question. How do you stay faithful to your man when hes going to be gone a LONG time. What can you do? It bothers me bc I dont know if I can but I dont want to ruin my marriage and cheating is one way to throw it right out the window. What do you women do that have to wait for 20 yrs or so. Mine is only 2 yrs but I dont think that I can wait for him to come home!


I stay faithful because I love him. No question about it. I work and stay busy on what we need as a foundation to keep building until he is released. With that on my mind 100%. I don't need to even worry or think about it. My eyes only see him as I look ahead to our future. It's clear as day for me. Good luck to you.
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What can you do to stay faithful to your man?? You stay faithful!! Not to sound rude but how or why did you get married?? This is not your boyfriend but your HUSBAND. You don't know if you can remain faithful?! For 2 years?! Only 2 years?! Apparently, you married for sex and not love. When you truly love someone you're not thinking about relations with another person. Real relationships are not to be based on sex but rather on love. Your husband is in prison and all you can think about is sex?? There are so many other things you could do: college, pick up a trade, culinary classes, join the gym, get a second job, church group, volunteer, etc. Making us women look bad, no wonder this men get nervous in their thoughts. Acting like sex addicts... we are women not men.

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It’s not hard for me being that I’ve been abstinent before. When he first got locked up, at the end of every conversation he’s like “Hold it down”. I take one day at a time and try to keep my mind on other things! It’s rough but that’s my baby!! I don’t want to lay up with just anybody. My lady parts are special and I treasure it!
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my husband is currently in a half way house in toledo. Him and i have been together for 8 years married going on 4 of them. Me and him were so in love for so many years until he became a herion addict and our lives went in a down hill spiral. Now i am not judging because i myself served 2 years in prison for a crime related to my drug addiction. I tried to be as understanding as possible. For many years i did this, he then went to a treatment facility for 6 months. then he got out of there and was out maybe 6 months and was heading to prison. He got sentenced to 1 year in prison. After he left i fell into a very deep depression and relapsed myself. I was in a dark place and i needed him more than anything in the world. But he was to busy telling me that he needed money on his books and he needed me to send a money gram so he could have smokes. It was always been about him, its like i never get to have a break down because no one is there to pick me up. Well i broke down and my husbands child hood friend who i also have been friends with for 14 years was there to pick me up. I cheated on my husband with him and i also fell in love with him. I recently asked my husband for a divorce. He refuses to let me go and be happy with this guy. A part of me still holds on to my husband but i dont know y or what to do about it. Anyone have any advice.....
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my husband is currently in a half way house in toledo. Him and i have been together for 8 years married going on 4 of them. Me and him were so in love for so many years until he became a herion addict and our lives went in a down hill spiral. Now i am not judging because i myself served 2 years in prison for a crime related to my drug addiction. I tried to be as understanding as possible. For many years i did this, he then went to a treatment facility for 6 months. then he got out of there and was out maybe 6 months and was heading to prison. He got sentenced to 1 year in prison. After he left i fell into a very deep depression and relapsed myself. I was in a dark place and i needed him more than anything in the world. But he was to busy telling me that he needed money on his books and he needed me to send a money gram so he could have smokes. It was always been about him, its like i never get to have a break down because no one is there to pick me up. Well i broke down and my husbands child hood friend who i also have been friends with for 14 years was there to pick me up. I cheated on my husband with him and i also fell in love with him. I recently asked my husband for a divorce. He refuses to let me go and be happy with this guy. A part of me still holds on to my husband but i dont know y or what to do about it. Anyone have any advice.....
I can’t even imagine going through what you’ve written here and assume it was 100x worse than what you describe here. Find a way to forgive yourself and if you are happy with this man move on with no guilt. Life is too short for regrets.
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It was always been about him, its like i never get to have a break down because no one is there to pick me up. Well i broke down and my husbands child hood friend who i also have been friends with for 14 years was there to pick me up. I cheated on my husband with him and i also fell in love with him. I recently asked my husband for a divorce. He refuses to let me go and be happy with this guy. A part of me still holds on to my husband but i dont know y or what to do about it. Anyone have any advice.....
It sounds to me that your husband & you probably are better off going your separate ways, even from just the mutual addiction point of view. It is a very personal decision but I would say since you've already started the divorce and feel you have found someone who has your back, go for it. Your happiness is important, please don't feel guilty about this. Good luck to you!
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