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View Poll Results: How do you feel about strip clubs?
I can't stand them and my man better never go to one. 433 31.49%
I don't like them, but I'm not gonna stop him from going. 265 19.27%
I don't really have an opinion either way. 167 12.15%
I like strip clubs. I even go to them with my man. 510 37.09%
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Old 09-08-2005, 11:30 AM
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I was just wondering how all of you feel about strip clubs? Someone mentioned that their man was going to a strip club after he gets out, and that would really bother me. I don't like strip clubs and how the girls throw themselves at the men to make more money. To me, lapdances are basically sex with clothes on. I can handle the fact that men wanna watch the girls, but it just makes me sick to think about my man getting a lapdance from another girl. How do you feel about it?
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Old 09-08-2005, 11:34 AM
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I AM WITH YOU ON THAT ONE I WOULD BE VERY MAD IF MY MAN WAS TO GO TO A STRIP CLUB IS LIKE WHAT DO THEY HAVE THAT I DONT EVERY THING THEY CAN DO I COULD IT BETTER AND FOR FREE SO I FEEL YOU ON THAT ONE AND IF HE FEELS THAT HE HAS TO MUCH MONEY AND WANT TO JUST TRASH IT THEN GIVE TO ME AND I WILL MAKE GOOD USE WITH IT..LOL...
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I could care less if my man wanted to go to one when he got home. It wouldn't be right when he got home. Yeah the women do throw themselves at the men. That is how they make their money. I would go with him just to see what they like about it. My man has even asked me if he could open one when he got home. I told him that I didn't mind because it is a lot of money in that business.
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Its a tricky one, it would depend on the circumstances. I went to a strip club when I visited Toronto (before I knew Ray), and to be honest it did nothing for me but the friend that I went with goes at least once a month and loves it. The drinks are too expensive and guys in white thongs just look silly LOL. I know Ray has been to one, but he said it didnt do much for him either, so I dont think he'll particularly want to go again, except if maybe he was out with his brother or for a stag night or something.
If that happened, or he came home and said they'd ended up at one, I dont think I'd be too bothered. But if he asked me beforehand and it was his idea to go, that would bother me more. Still, by the time he comes home, he'll be an old man incapable of doing little more than drooling into his beer, so it's pretty academic.
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I wouldn't mind at all and if me and Manuel are still on good terms when he gets out, I'll drive him to one and will pay for the lap dance myself!! he has talked about them all the time. he is missing out on so much, because he's been locked up since 1989 and strippers have changed so much since 1989......I'm afraid he'd have a coronary if he saw some of the things they do now!!
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I would probably be very upset.
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I dont think I would mind that much cause by the time he gets out it wil have been 10 years that he was down, I wouldnt mind at all. Its just a sense of freedom and I would love to go with him cause he maybe watching them dance but hes coming home with me.

I guess its like watching porn I dont see the big deal. But thats just my .2 cents!
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I would have a serious issue with that...I'll be the ONLY one giving my Man a Lap Dance! LOL
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I would not have a problem with it if that is where my husband would like to go. Since he was very young when he got locked up, I am sure it would be an experience for him. There are alot of "firsts" that he would like to experience and I am sure this will be one of them and I will be right by his side.
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This issue came up before he went to prison because he went a couple of times with a friend and at first I didn't like the idea. But now I'm cool with it, I would let him go because I trust that he won't be spending all our paper or getting NO lap dances.

I would rather he didn't go at all, but if it's something he really wants to do, I'm not going to make an issue out of it. I would go with him if he wants me to, but won't be sitting at the stage or having a lap dance!
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I'd go with him. And even pay for a couple of lap dances for him. Then when we get home he can watch me dance... but not only will he get to watch me... he'll get to be with me.
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The more you push the issue of not wanting him go, the more he'll want to go!!!!! Please believe me when I tell you that the excitement of a strip club wear off real quick when he realizes that he is looked at as an object or a walking dollar sign! My husband and I have gone to several clubs on several occasions and I took my husband on his birthday and we had a blast together! It's not for everyody I do admit, just try not to over react either. Those girls want to make money and when there is none coming their way they will ignore your man or any man for that matter! Try to invite yourself along and make it fun, who knows, you two might go home and have good ole time afterwards............................just my opi!
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I don't think I would want to go. I'm not really into the strip club thing, but if he wanted to go I wouldn't mind. I trust him and know that he would know where the line is. Plus, the women in strip clubs appear to be available but really aren't. I think that we have to keep that in mind when we let our guys go to places like this.
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You gotta pick your battles, you know! As long as i'm the only one benefitting from it - whatever.
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He can to any strip club he wants just as long as he visits ME first, LOL.
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I would not want him to go and if he did want to then that would be his decision but he would have serious consequences to follow! lol
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I'm a guy, and I don't get strip clubs... I've been to a couple, never my idea, but for bachelor's parties, friends on leave from Iraq, etc., and I still don't see the point. Pay all this money for what... There's no "payoff" (like, no matter how gorgeous the women are, they aren't going home with you, you're never going to date one)... Maybe I'm odd. (Scratch that. I'm pretty sure I'm odd. )

OTOH, these guys might have done this in reverse; first strip club, then jail... http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/0902052lap1.html

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Eric's odd too, then. He kinda thinks it's cheap and tawdry, not his thing...works for me
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Actually, I don't like strip clubs, but if my man wanted to go once he came home, he could definately do that , especially if it is after the fact that we've done got our groove on several times, cause I wouldn't want him going there and getting all worked up and that be the reason we get it started, you know???? And on the cool, if that is what he wants to do, and he wants me to go with him, um.... I might do that too.
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No way.....I have took Marc to a stip club for his first time...we had A BLAST!!!!

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I used to have a real problem with it, but 17 years later, I couldn't care less. I tell him, "I don't care where you get your appetite, so long as you're eating at home!". But- now HE has NO interest in going... just about the time I think it would be fun. MEN!

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At first I was hurt and jealous over strip clubs, but then I started going too, and knowing that he can't touch them or take them home makes it easier. So I would let him go, but this better be like a year after he gets home, he's got alot of making up to do!!!
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My husband has been home for 10 months now and has gone twice. I actually set up the first one for him to go. I don't mind him going. Like others have said, he can't touch them or go home with them. I trust him enough to let him go. I know he looks at other girls...pretty much a pervert but what guy isn't. I don't mind him reading the menu as long as he doesn't order.
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He's not really into that stuff, but I'm taking a pole dancing class - basically just an exercise class - but with pole! It's a blast. They sell poles for home use, so if he wants to buy me a pole and have me work out at home, more power to him!!!! Come on, what could be better than that?!?
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