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Protected 292 21.77%
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Old 06-08-2010, 01:36 AM
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btw we both were tested and what not before we did unprotected!
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Old 06-08-2010, 07:29 AM
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My and my man didn't use condoms and we won't when we come home. We both got tested before he went in and we will both be tested when he gets out, its just how am I going to ask him to get tested without him thinking I think he had sex with other men. But its about loving and protecting my body and I love him to death but I will always love me much more.
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Old 06-08-2010, 09:51 PM
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i will probably have to go with protected when he comes home bc our relationship is so new and even though it will grow while hes away i have huge trust issues and also i know we dont need to get pregnant until we are both in a solid postion to take care of children since he already has kids.
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Old 06-08-2010, 10:10 PM
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I think whether or not to use protection or go "bare" is a personal decison that you and your guy should talk about, if your real with him and if he is that type to understand then everything wouldf be good. I honestly would rather wear protection since I don't want children right now and my guy tells me he gets tested for everything every couple of months. But I think it is up to how comfortable you and your man are with or without protection.
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Old 06-08-2010, 10:13 PM
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Well we usually use protection, because we did not want babies, but we have had unprotected sex, unprotected is definitely more pleasurable but not worth having a baby if thats not what you want. My man just got locked up about a month ago and he's got 5 years, so i won't be having sex for quite awhile! haha
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Old 06-09-2010, 10:08 AM
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I think a lot of people are very ignorant & irresponsible. I'm not, I do use protection! It saves lives!
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Old 09-29-2010, 07:47 AM
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Un protected I'd the best WHEN your both tested and clean and both of you are loyal. Then its the best.
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Old 09-29-2010, 09:30 AM
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I voted un Protected... But of course that will only be with my husband and we always get tested and share our result with on another
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Old 09-29-2010, 09:32 AM
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Personally I hate the way condoms feel during sex and prefer not using them.

But there are obviously valid reasons to use them. It depends on your relationship, if you're both clean, if you're in a monogamous relationship, trying to get pregnant/avoid pregnancy...it just depends.
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Ive only used protection once in my life and hated it. I dont have a lot of partners and always knew they were clean before we did anything. Ive always been on BC, except one time I wasnt and I am now a mother of 1. Ive never contracted anything, nor been with anyone who has.
I dont use protection with my man, and dont plan to. I have the mirena, so no more babies unless we decide.

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Unprotected. We've never used a condom (But I was on the pill anyway).
The feel of him without rubber, Grrr. Going crazy here ladies. I need my man! ><
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Old 09-29-2010, 03:54 PM
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I think a lot of people are very ignorant & irresponsible. I'm not, I do use protection! It saves lives!
If ignorant is being on the pill, both being clean and tested, and being married, then I guess that's what James and I are. Oh well. Ignorance really IS bliss!
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I myself with my man we go bare. But we trust and love eachother very much. That is something that you two have to decide together. My man has been fixed so I can't get pregnant and we have both been tested and are clean.
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Old 09-29-2010, 07:50 PM
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I think it depends on the situation. If its someone I am just getting intimate with, of course protected. I think once I am in a completely committed relationship and we both have been tested ... bare would be ok as long as I am on birth control. Less hassle with the condoms and all that.
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Old 09-30-2010, 12:27 AM
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I prefer unprotected. That is how we have been doing, after we went and got tested. My man will be getting tested when he gets out, I know that he is not doing anything like that in prison, but nowadays you might catch something anywhere. So until he goes and gets the results, he is going to wrap it up.
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Old 10-01-2010, 01:16 PM
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how would you all feel about not using protection if one day you find out your husband has giving you hiv. He's know this since b-4 u were dating and never told you. How would you feel then?
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Old 10-01-2010, 09:25 PM
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Theres different forms of protection. Theres barrier protection against diseases and pregnancy and then theres straight protection against pregnancy. So as far as rain coats go, I hate the things. Absolutely cant stand them but have used them in the past. I know Im good to go as far as being disease free and although I know there's no way He's doing anything inside, He's still going to be tested as soon as He gets out before I take Him for a ride bareback. As far as birth control goes I dont have to take the pill etc since Ive been tied. Im definitely into saving a horse and riding a convict!
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Old 10-02-2010, 03:12 AM
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My boyfriend and I weren't using condoms before he went in but we both got tested before we started having sex without them. We both agreed it was better to be safe the sorry. He's already told me that when he gets out he's getting testing right away because while he's not gay or doing anything that is gay it's still very nasty in there and he won't take any chances in hurting either of us. It's something you have to talk to him about and you both have to be comfortable with the decision. If he doesn't like the way you feel about it then maybe he's not the right guy for you afterall.
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Once both parties in a serious relationship are tested and cleared then unprotected sex is okay as long as both parties can be trusted. Unfortunately, being faithful doesn't always happen so if I had any reason to believe anything could be going on I would demand protected sex. When I divorced and decided to date again I got tested and cleared and after that always carried condoms in my purse so if I got the urge I was safe. I figured that in order to stay clean it was as much my responsibility, as the males, to have condoms on hand. When I suspected my grandaughter, then 16, was having sex I had a very serious talk with her about protecting herself, not just from an unwanted pregnancy but about disease. But I was so surprised to learn that she demanded the use of condoms but not that she was already on the pill. She told me they had extensive conversations in her health class about this. When she did get into that serious relationship, now 19, she made sure that both were clean and now they are having their first child.

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Shittttt we havin babies when he comes home bring on the bareback! LOL


LMAo... Thats what i'm talkin about!!!1
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Unprotected! I also hate the way it feels! We are very clean and share our bodies with each other only. When he comes home he could take a test just to be on the safe side but we will not be using any condoms. We never have so why change now!
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Unprotected is preferable but only with a man or woman that you can trust with your life. After all you are risking you life. Literally. :-(
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i havent really thought about that but i get the fact that u cant trust ANYONE so i think we will both get tested but i tell ya that is better said then done lol
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Unprotected all the way... After the test results exchange of course. That's how we did it when he got out in May and this is how it will be when he gets out again!!
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