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Old 04-03-2020, 01:31 PM
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I had been writing to someone for 3 1/2 years. We grew kind of close, and due to paperwork snafus I didn't get to visit her in person until about 5 weeks before she was released, which was on 2/20. We agreed when we met to consider ourselves an "item" but I told her I wouldn't consider it a real relationship until we had actually spent time together on the other side of the wall. I didn't push her to meet right away; she had family who wanted her time, other things to do to get her feet on the ground, and now... this. She lives several states away. It's pretty frustrating, I'm trying to let this be a speed bump and not a brick wall. She told me today about our impending relationship "It's airtight." Still, I do fear this inability to see each other could change things; I hope it doesn't.
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Old 04-03-2020, 01:49 PM
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Question is: how long are you willing to wait?
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Old 04-03-2020, 02:21 PM
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Hmm......I don't know. There's a couple things right off the top that would make me not so sure as to what the future holds.
1. She's too far away....as in not several miles away, but rather several states.

2. She's just been released and what we say & think inside as opposed to what we do under the same circumstances on the outside can change quickly and without any forewarning or explanation simply because.....new found freedom is like intense Spring fever.

I would try and be as detached as possible without high expectations.
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I've "waited" 3 1/2 years, it's not clear why I wouldn't keep waiting. Particularly since - well - do I really have other things to do with my life right now?

The distance is, at least to me, pretty much a non-issue. It's a 9-hour drive, which I don't consider particularly far. Again, what else do I have to do right now? (FYI, I'm semi-retired.)

I know that ones mindset can change at the gate, which is why I've kept things in check so far. No "I love you's," no specific plans for the future beyond a concert, a few Broadway plays, and a trip to Vegas.

But I still want to keep things simmering on the front burner, as best I can.

Her father, with whom she lives, is a nurse in one of the Covid hotspots, so she's understandably very worried about him, and I'm worried that he'll bring home a gift that keeps on giving.
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Just my gut feeling I'm spilling now... you've waited 3 1/2 years and yet she's not really including you in her life... you are making excuses. If she wanted to be with you she would ask you to come or at least make plans...now with the situation we are all in there could be at least plans... to be honest, I just don't have a good feeling about it.
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Its not the ideal time to be in a long distance relationship, covid 19 is causing travel disruption. However if you are keen to meet up with and see where it goes then good luck to you.Who knows what will happen only time will tell.
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I told her tonight "You picked a really shitty time to come home, but you picked a really great time to not be there anymore." Obviously, her PO is not leaning on her to find a job yesterday if not sooner. She lives with her dad, who is a nurse, so there's no danger of lack of income in the household.
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