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View Poll Results: Long distance or prison relationship?
I would prefer a long distance relationship 383 72.54%
I would prefer a prison relationship 145 27.46%
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Old 03-06-2014, 08:52 PM
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I would love for my man to be free at last. I would never be self enough
to want him contained behind bars any longer.
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Long distance for sure. Because he'd move to where I am in a heartbeat, so no more long distance.
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We're currently in a long-distance-prison-relationship where we can only visit once a year, so... I'd take the option of finishing out his time and then being able to be completely free to be with me 24/7 (and I'd add that he wouldn't have to go through several years of probation!!). Phonecalls, Skyping, etc. whenever we want to would be awesome, though.
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I would never be in a long distance relationship. Not worth it to me
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I want him to be free and live his life the way he wants too if there is space for me in his life I will fill that space but if there is another filling that space it was fun while it lasted
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I'd rather he be free. We started out long distance anyways, then continued to be long distance for a little bit after we were married because he was unemployed, I was not, and the plan was for me to move up to his state instead of the other way around. Once he was employed, I put in my two weeks notice, and moved right after those weeks were up.
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I would prefer a prison relationship, long distance alone has no point for me, why live apart ? It takes stone and bars to keep me away from the one I love.
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I took prison relationship.
We are already long distance prison relationship. The thought of him not being locked up and out and me not by his side is not a thought I like.
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Well for a lot of us this is both a prison relationship and a long distance relationship rolled up into one big test of patience! =( Hoping to be living closer real soon as flying back and forth is for the birds!
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Well for a lot of us this is both a prison relationship and a long distance relationship rolled up into one big test of patience! =( Hoping to be living closer real soon as flying back and forth is for the birds!
Same here. I'm in PA while he's in New York. That's how it was for a bit before when we were dating, but he wasn't incarcerated then/hadn't done anything then, so he still had his freedom. Now we're back to how things were when we were dating, except now he's my husband and he's locked up. I don't fly to see him, but 5+ hours one way in the car is no fun and hotel rooms aren't cheap.
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My husband and I had a long distance relationship when we first met. It sucked but I wanted to be sure he was the right one for me. He moved in 1 1/2 YEARS after we met. I'll never let him go now.
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My guy said to me once “The worst day out there is better than the best day in prison”.

I don’t get why anyone would choose a prison relationship over a LDR with their partner free. LDR are not ideal for anyone but you still have freedoms you were never have in a prison relationship. Unlimited FREE phone calls. The ability to Skype or FaceTime whenever you want and you get to be with them ALONE 2 times a year? A partner that would be much happier with their freedom. I definitely would choose LDR to based on the factors of the original question.
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My husband and I had a long distance relationship when we first met. It sucked but I wanted to be sure he was the right one for me. He moved in 1 1/2 YEARS after we met.

I'll never let him go now
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aww chica, hola.
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If you could choose:

Would you rather be in a long distance relationship with him free, for the same amount of time he was sentenced to (however long it is)?
You could visit twice a year, have phonecalls whenever, emails, texting and skype.

OR

Would you rather keep things as they are with him in prison doing the same amount of time he was sentenced to and then be completely free to be with you 24/7?
This is funny to see, this question, because my guy and I started off long distance Iím in sf he (was) in la. Definitely challenging, lots of traveling, planning, texting, phone, Facebook messenger, itís work but worth it. Heís just started his prison sentence 3 months ago and honestly I donít know how it will all turn out....so yeah no brainer I would definitely go for long distance. Lol. Itís hard as well but much more fun and satisfying emotionally and physically than the prison thing.
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Unfortunately I have both a LDR while incarcerated. He's shipped across the country it's a 1800 mile, 30 hr trip to visit. If they have him unlimited calls and video visitation would make all of this easier. My baby had a 15 mandatory minimum so I would DEFINITELY go with the first option
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Unfortunately Iím doing both at the moment. Iím Canadian and my boyfriend who is currently in prison is British, and is serving time in the UK. I was supposed to move to London and got my UK visa 3 weeks before he got arrested. So unfortunately I am living proof of both worlds... itís extremely difficult, I can tell you that first hand
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Hubby and I were in a LDR at first. It was way better than this - could instant message throughout the day, talk on the phone/webcam all evening. And we got to see each other a couple of times a year.



We're still at the very beginning and I hope it will be less awful as he gets settled and can hopefully talk more often, and write back and forth (STILL waiting for his first store order with envelopes to come...)... I think that will all help.


Both are really difficult, but having him behind the wire sucks and hurts in so many ways.
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Its tricky because although he himself says prison saved him from himself and he has become a better person because of it, I would absolutely rather be able to see him and talk to him and physically be with him whenever it was a possibility. Currently we talk pretty often, his phone always has a healthy balance and he calls often unless there is a lockdown but he went through a really hard time a few months back so much so that he got his non family visits revoked for one year for stuff he did. That means me . So long distance over prison any day
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