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View Poll Results: Did you agree to have the sex buddy?
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Old 10-24-2007, 10:43 AM
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I would never to that to the man I luv. Nor would he ever tell me its ok to have a sex buddy!!!
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I voted no i am married and i don't have that much lon ger to wait 160 more days! I wouldn't want anyone else and my hubby would never agree to a buddy.
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Old 10-24-2007, 11:15 AM
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OMG! Daniel, you are SOO right! When he gets out it will be just like the first time..**HUGE GRIN**
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Old 10-24-2007, 11:34 AM
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no sex buddies here. and no, it is not hard to be faithful either.
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Old 10-24-2007, 11:36 AM
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My man always tell me after every letter and phone call to be good.

So I already knew no sex.
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Old 10-24-2007, 05:53 PM
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I have 8 years to go. This first year has been a little hard. We don't even discuss this at all we are married and have been for 8 years. Through good times and bad times i am committed to our marriage. Hey not to be too negative but what type of man would tell his wife it's ok to have a sex buddy? Do they really mean it? How could they really mean it?
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Old 10-24-2007, 07:16 PM
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Definantly not. Not only am I satisfied with the one man I have but i'm exhausted with him. Can't imagine trying to deal with a sex buddy to. I don't need that bullsh*t.
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Old 10-24-2007, 08:10 PM
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I'm gonna tell the absolute truth about who I used to be, and if I weren't just plain getting old, might still be.

If it were a long sentence, I might take on a new lover, if the option arose.
Wouldn't go looking, never have. And I wouldn't go talking about it to him, either, if I found one. Nor would I feel guilty.

It so happens it was a short sentence, the option didn't present itself, and I didn't go looking.
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I would NEVER have a sex buddy... I mean... more goes to sex than just sex... It has to have the right elements... Myself, I couldn't sleep with anyone that I wasn't in love with... It just in my heart wouldn't feel right... I would rather wait on the man of my dreams than blow it on a one night stand... Or someone who I have no feelings for... My husband has got my heart in there with him... So it's not up for grabs... I couldn't imagine anyone else holding my world either... Sex isn't that important to ruin my marriage... No matter what your men say now about a sex buddy ladies... it will come back in the relationship later down the road... Keep your slates clean... and honest... You can't have a trusting relationship with the one you love while your sleeping with someone else... Just my opinion!
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He has never brought it up and I have never asked because he is all I need or want. He keeps me smiling and happy and loved.
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Why would I want to f**k with anyone else? I'll just be frustrated until he gets home (and I can take all that frustration out on him )
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Old 10-27-2007, 04:07 PM
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Sanchezct,

My baby told me because it is a way of acknowledging he knows you have needs. (I got that from Wobabi) and it's true. He feels guilty that he can't take care of them. But just like Babi said, he didn't mean it and that was true too. I simply mentioned a platonic friend I have in Florida (I live in NC) and he freaked out on me. he was upset that I would even tell him about my friend, which was only a telephone conversation. DO NOT BELIEVE THEM WHEN THEY SAY IT!
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Old 10-27-2007, 04:22 PM
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big time no. my fiance told me i could have one.. but just like i thought, he didn't mean it. and i'm glad. no one else could satisfy my needs but him. i wouldn't enjoy it even if i thought it was ok to do it.
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I'm gonna tell the absolute truth about who I used to be, and if I weren't just plain getting old, might still be.

If it were a long sentence, I might take on a new lover, if the option arose.
Wouldn't go looking, never have. And I wouldn't go talking about it to him, either, if I found one. Nor would I feel guilty.

It so happens it was a short sentence, the option didn't present itself, and I didn't go looking.
I'm with you on this one. My guy is also serving just a short sentence so I figure I can handle this one on my own. If we were looking at any length of time though, if the option arose I would give it some serious consideration and if I decided to follow through I would not feel guilty about it.
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Nope, no sex buddy here. EVER!
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Old 10-28-2007, 09:30 PM
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No way-my committment is to him. Hey, he's not having sex, so why should I? We're doing this together.
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Old 10-30-2007, 09:34 AM
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NO!!! He wouldnt say it and I wouldnt be able to do it. I am so his and no one else would even be able to tempt me. I belong to Budda heart, body and soul!
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Old 10-30-2007, 09:51 AM
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I have to say, I like that one!!!!!! That must make you feel good to know that he wants to make sure that you stay faithful to him. To me it is as if he is being faithful also behind bars.

Mine has asked me to be true to him until the day he comes out, in which he KNOWS I have no problem with that! I also know that he is concerned with STD's and is why I know he would never approve of something like that. But.........................I wonder, if for the few who have gotten permission to have a side buddy, does it not make you wonder if they are doing something behind your back while inside? I have read so many having women visitors that their wives or girlfriends do not know about and at the same time, I see that CO's are an issue also. I do not want to offend any CO, because bottom line.....it take two to tangle. But I do wonder what is the percentage of CO's actually having affairs with the ones we love? And maybe that is why some of these men do not mind if their loved one has a sex buddy, because maybe he already has a CO sex buddy. I think it is truly hard for them when they have a long sentence to not be intimate with someone inside or the side on visits. From what my loved one has said, to survive in there in all ways, you have to be mentally strong and that goes with that also. I think when you are able to have visits maybe that takes the stress off a bit. I have not been fortunate yet to see mine. We have just found each other after 24 years and are definitely looking forward to our first visit!!!! We have been corresponding almost a year and talking on the phone. He's been very good to me with my insecurities with the CO issue and visitors. He has sent me his phone and visiting list. I have mentioned that my visits may be unannounced. He has no problem with that so it does make me feel better. And as I said, I do not want to offend any CO's although yes, to me it is a concern, because bottom line, we are all human and they can fall for any temptation. The thing that does give me a little bit of faith in him, is how he feels about the STD issue.

Sorry the topic changed just a tad bit...but it's just that I do wonder about the side buddy issue if it is just a way for them not to feel guilty of what they may be doing. Not saying they are. Don't want to offend anyone.


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I believe if you were with them when they got locked up and you were faithful to them out here. What makes it any different except no contact. Hey he's doin' time, I'll do it w/him. He's my man 150%. Ya know He'll be home soon so we can make up all that then. Til then we got our letters.
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I couldn't vote cuz I don't know where I really fit.

He said have a sex buddy, a dinner date...whatever the hell I thought I needed. I haven't exactly said "NO" but I haven't taken advantage of the offer either. Will I? I am a NEVER SAY NEVER kinda girl .....OK....in most cases....LOL
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oh, hell no

i couldn't do that - it would just feel so wrong
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well my bf and i dont really talk about it i just know thats a no no and i would never do anything like that.. im in love with him!
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No I am waiting sometimes I want to pull out my hair cuz well you know but I'll wait
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NO, I would not have relations.
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