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Old 03-20-2018, 06:48 PM
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My girlfriend just currently got transferred to CCWF, I think itís pretty cool that you guys have this site because it gave a little comfort to be honest, I bet itís hard for many of you guys whoíve spent your every day life with your girl and then suddenly sheís taken from you itís been hard for me But I see I am not alone
Yes this site has helped me as well. Itís easy to come on here and vent lol. Your correct when you say being with my wife 15 years then all of the sudden she has to go serve time for some BS. My wife could have pled and received probation however she wanted to prove her innocence at a trial (What a Joke that was) and then catches almost 3 years..... Either way, Time is running out, we have 22 days left and sheís home free! Cant wait to get back to living and putting this roadblock behind us. Itís easy to say coming out of the other end of this but going into it was much worse.. Stay the course and watch time fly. Best thing is the clock never stops ticking..
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Old 03-21-2018, 08:45 AM
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My girlfriend just currently got transferred to CCWF, I think itís pretty cool that you guys have this site because it gave a little comfort to be honest, I bet itís hard for many of you guys whoíve spent your every day life with your girl and then suddenly sheís taken from you itís been hard for me But I see I am not alone

You're good company here. Nobody's going to tell you you're crazy for sticking with your lady.
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Old 03-21-2018, 08:50 AM
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Yes this site has helped me as well. Itís easy to come on here and vent lol. Your correct when you say being with my wife 15 years then all of the sudden she has to go serve time for some BS. My wife could have pled and received probation however she wanted to prove her innocence at a trial (What a Joke that was)and then catches almost 3 years..... Either way, Time is running out, we have 22 days left and sheís home free! Cant wait to get back to living and putting this roadblock behind us. Itís easy to say coming out of the other end of this but going into it was much worse.. Stay the course and watch time fly. Best thing is the clock never stops ticking..
Glad you're at the end of it! You must both be on cloud 9! Wish we could be on it with you. "Trial" - A legal proceeding in which 12 people with no legal training decid which side has the better lawyer.
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Glad you're at the end of it! You must both be on cloud 9! Wish we could be on it with you. "Trial" - A legal proceeding in which 12 people with no legal training decid which side has the better lawyer.

Isnít that the truth... Yes our spirits are definitely on the rise and I wish you and your loved one a happy ending as well. I Give you and everyone here that is waiting and supporting there loved ones all the credit in the world. Although the pain was unbearable at times, the minute she walk out those doors and back in my arms, it will have all been worth it... I canít wait...
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Old 03-25-2018, 04:40 PM
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[quote=AltheBiker;7497335 ... If mom gets to choose her daughter's mate/friends, etc...then I would think I probably don't have much of a chance. ... [/quote]

It desn't seem like mom did an outstanding good job of choosing guys for her in the past.
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Old 03-25-2018, 05:03 PM
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Cristina left home at 13 and was living on her own from then on. There was poor homelife before that. The mom is at least back in her life and they’re rebuilding their relationship. It’s a positive thing but I don’t believe it’ll ever be what I’d call excellent. Cristina and I broke up but we’re still good friends. She got very mean and demanding and it became too much for me. I still send her enough $ for shampoo, bathroom products and coffee but not like i used to. I visit about monthly and she appreciates having a stable relationship with me albeit not romantic. I’m enjoying our friendship as it is now and expect we’ll be friends for life even though the romance didn’t go exactly as planned.
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Cristina left home at 13 and was living on her own from then on. There was poor homelife before that. The mom is at least back in her life and theyíre rebuilding their relationship. Itís a positive thing but I donít believe itíll ever be what Iíd call excellent. Cristina and I broke up but weíre still good friends. She got very mean and demanding and it became too much for me. I still send her enough $ for shampoo, bathroom products and coffee but not like i used to. I visit about monthly and she appreciates having a stable relationship with me albeit not romantic. Iím enjoying our friendship as it is now and expect weíll be friends for life even though the romance didnít go exactly as planned.
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I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you hoped it would. Still having you as a supportive friend has to mean a lot to Cristina. Best of luck to both of you.
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Well here we are 3 days left and a wake up! She walks out those doors Thursday morning and This nightmare of the last 2.5 years will be over! Really appreciate everyoneís advice going back to day 1 where I found this site and so many of you reached out and helped me pull through. I hope everyone on here has the same outcome and all your prayers are answered.
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Well here we are 3 days left and a wake up! She walks out those doors Thursday morning and This nightmare of the last 2.5 years will be over! Really appreciate everyoneís advice going back to day 1 where I found this site and so many of you reached out and helped me pull through. I hope everyone on here has the same outcome and all your prayers are answered.
Couldn't be happier for you (or more envious!). I hope her freedom's perfect for both of you.
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Not the only man in here. I Just found this site. My girlfriend has been locked up since mid Jan. Recently transferred to a rehab program. She will be there till mid September.
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Welcome to the place where everybody understands.
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Not the only man in here. I Just found this site. My girlfriend has been locked up since mid Jan. Recently transferred to a rehab program. She will be there till mid September.
I'm not a guy, but my spouse is in prison and the men are generous enough to let us drop in their threads now and again.

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Couldn't be happier for you (or more envious!). I hope her freedom's perfect for both of you.

Thanks so much. I will check in and update on the progress.
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Have any of your ladies become ill inside? We had a real scare. My wife found a lump in her breast. It took forever for the doctor to examine her and a while for them to get her to the hospital. It's cancer but "tubular" which is apparently not a particularly dangerous type. They did a lumpectomy and sent her back. No plan for any follow up except a mammogram in 6 months. I was pretty much panicking while I waited for them to take care of her. I've never felt so helpless and useless in my life. I'm worried that she may not have received the best care. Has anyone else had that sort of thing happen?
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I doubt that she is receiving appropriate followup care. She should be able to get a copy of her tumor biopsy, which you can then take to a real cancer facility for a second opinion.

Every case is different, but my wife had both chemotherapy and radiation after a successful operation. The treatment plan was done based on the probability of more disease, even though the margins were clear.
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fbopnomore I doubt that she is receiving appropriate followup care.


The care's generally lousy from what she's told me.



She should be able to get a copy of her tumor biopsy, which you can then take to a real cancer facility for a second opinion.



Thanks. I'll see if the hospital will let me have a copy. I'm expecting the to deny my request because (1) The information is property of the state and/or (2) HIPPA laws forbid disclosure of medical information to family members and everyone else who won't benefit from it financially.


Every case is different, but my wife had both chemotherapy and radiation after a successful operation. The treatment plan was done based on the probability of more disease, even though the margins were clear.


I'm sorry your wife had to go through that. Glad she's OK now.
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The HIPAA law specifically allows her to name you as someone who is authorized to have access to her medical records. The records are owned by the hospital, not by the entity that is obligated to pay the hospital. If she signs the authorization, the hospital/doctors will have to honor it, and the prison will have no involvement in that decision.
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Thank you for your concern. My wife has now been cancer free for 7 years.
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The HIPAA law specifically allows her to name you as someone who is authorized to have access to her medical records. The records are owned by the hospital, not by the entity that is obligated to pay the hospital. If she signs the authorization, the hospital/doctors will have to honor it, and the prison will have no involvement in that decision.
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Thank you for your concern. My wife has now been cancer free for 7 years.
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Checking in! Iím a man who was formerly incarcerated. I used the forum before going in and it was EXTREMELY helpful. Staying active on the forum is a way of paying it forward for me, and also helps keep me grounded with an attitude of gratitude. It helps to remember the challenges of facing incarceration to keep me on the straight and narrow. Thanks to all for contributing, and blessings for the upcoming holidays.
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Checking in! Iím a man who was formerly incarcerated. I used the forum before going in and it was EXTREMELY helpful. Staying active on the forum is a way of paying it forward for me, and also helps keep me grounded with an attitude of gratitude. It helps to remember the challenges of facing incarceration to keep me on the straight and narrow. Thanks to all for contributing, and blessings for the upcoming holidays.

Thank you for checking in, and blessings to you on the upcoming holidays as well.


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I wish my fellow outmates as happy a Christmas and New Year as possible, given the circumstances. I'm going to be glad to see 2018 go down the sewer. It's been a rough year, with Tammy getting tickets that cost her honor dorm, her library and classroom assistant jobs and might result in an outside case.
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I wish my fellow outmates as happy a Christmas and New Year as possible, given the circumstances. I'm going to be glad to see 2018 go down the sewer. It's been a rough year, with Tammy getting tickets that cost her honor dorm, her library and classroom assistant jobs and might result in an outside case.
Merry Christmas, Wilkes. Here's to hoping that 2019 will be a better year and that the outside case does not develop...

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Thanks. Fingers crossed. I hope your first Christmas with your lady was perfect!
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As a female who will be going in soon.... thank you for giving them the escape from their day with your letters. I am scared to death I wonít find a PP when I go in. I have a friend who will post on here for me but I hate the thought of no friends to escape in writing with. The longest I have been in jail for my charge was 26 days and I would cry each time I got a quick note from a family member. I am scared of going to prison and look forward to writing to good hearted people.

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As a female who will be going in soon.... I am scared to death I wonít find a PP when I go in. I have a friend who will post on here for me but I hate the thought of no friends to escape in writing with.

Getting news from you even if you can't supply it directly will be great. Hopefully news will flow in both directions.
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