I always wanted to take my husband's last name, but I didn't want to lose my maiden name! My family has so much to do with the woman I became! This ended up being a "heated" discussion because he sooooooooo wanted me to purely have his name period! He didn't like the idea of hyphenating because he felt like it didn't seem like we were totally on the same team. "You are my family. It should look like we are family!" We compromised. I changed my middle name to my maiden name so I didn't lose it. I can put it in print or not. He was even struggling with that for a while because he felt that I would always have it in print so he thought it was just like hyphenating. I actually don't have it in print a great deal, BUT if I ever do something amazing like write a book, it will SURELY be there!
My last name is precious to our family; I could not part with it. My Grandfather came from another country at a young age, alone and without any money nor did he know the English language - to live the American dream. Now we have generations of ivy league graduates. So, to answer the question, I hyphenated it. Although our child will carry his last name.
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We got our marriage certificat today And as quick as the sun rises tomorrow, I'm off to make it that name change happen
I was told to wait 2-3 weeks after our ceremony to call and see if the certificate was ready, that was the funniest thing I ever heard Me wait ! I tried, although being married to an inmate you would think I have mastered the whole patience thing. Which for the most part, I have, but I still get pretty jumpy about things. Anyways we got married Saturday December 11th and no later than that following Wednesday I was on the phone to Solano, asking whats up To my surprise she said she had it, all I ad to do was come pick it up. Well to say the least, since I was unable to drive to go get it, I overnighted my money and got it Today.First thing tomorrow I'm off it REALLY make it official. Yes ladies, I'm doing the name change thing and loving it. I cant wait to officically be called.Mrs.Evans ( loves the sound of that ) So heres my question : Would you take his last name or keeps yours, if so when would you do it, now or when he comes home and if not, if you dont mind my asking why not?
Still jumping for joy Does it ever stop??????????
My husband was a white supremacist gang leader when we met; before he got incarcerated even ( and I a not white ). I use his last name but officially I havent changed mine and we are going to take my last name if he ever gets out.
Reason is, that i dont want anyone to be able to find us, google us, look us up etc - that being former gang buddies, other prisoners etc. You never know who you pissed off during a prison sentence - sometimes without even knowing, best thing is to stay under the radar.....
My legal name is still that of my ex-husband's, not my current husband (the one in prison). It was such a pain in the neck the first time to change it, and when we got divorced, I didn't want my kids to think there was something wrong with their last name, so I never changed it. Now, I've considered changing it, but literally the thought of going through and changing it on the 100's of legal documents and banks, etc. just seems like the biggest rigmarole that I just don't think I'm up for it. My husband could care less.
A few months ago however, I made the comment in passing about changing my name and the next time I visited him he wanted to know what was up with that? Half the time though, I still need to refer to people when I call by my maiden name, so if i change my name to his, no one will know who the hell I am. Lol. I've considered referring to myself by that name, if not legally changing it. I have 2 friends who were both haven't legally changed their names, and basically go by the married names, so maybe I'll do that. They both have kids with those husbands though so maybe that also is why.
I've also thought about it a lot more this past year while he's been gone because as creepy as this sounds, when we both die, I've thought about what I would want on my tombstone and I don't think I want his stone to read xxx xxx and mine to read yyy yyy yyy where yyy is my ex husband's last name. I also don't know how weird that would be to have 3 last names on my tombstone since currently my legal name is my first name, my former maiden name, and my first husband's last name. My middle name is my maiden name. I never had a middle name so when I got married I made that my middle name.
Hence to all you young people, when you get married, take the name. Do it while you can, especially if you aren't blending families. I would if this were my first marriage. But do know, it is sort of a hassle, which is why the younger you are, the easier it is!!
Would you take his name
To my surprise she said she had it, all I ad to do was come pick it up. Well to say the least, since I was unable to drive to go get it, I overnighted my money and got it Today.First thing tomorrow I'm off it REALLY make it official. Yes ladies, I'm doing the name change thing and loving it. I cant wait to officically be called.Mrs.Evans ( loves the sound of that 
) So heres my question : Would you take his last name or keeps yours, if so when would you do it, now or when he comes home and if not, if you dont mind my asking why not? 
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