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Old 08-14-2017, 04:04 PM
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I am just so damn lonely. I really only have a few real friends. Even Andy's family don't get how hard it is. Anyway today was easier to just survive. My family hated him, for really no reason, just being jerks. I am setting smaller goals like cleaning out one box at a time. tToday was house cleaning, so no box!! Can't do both!!!LOL
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I am just so damn lonely. I really only have a few real friends. Even Andy's family don't get how hard it is. Anyway today was easier to just survive. My family hated him, for really no reason, just being jerks. I am setting smaller goals like cleaning out one box at a time. tToday was house cleaning, so no box!! Can't do both!!!LOL
I can only imagine. I have my moments simply because my husband is still incarcerated. I actually try to tell myself that I enjoy my solitude. And sometimes that is true. A lot of the time I want the simple things that others take for granted: dinner with my husband, watching tv with my husband, cuddling with my husband, shoot - even cleaning or shopping with my husband. I know you are wanting the same. Sorry!
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For me, being alone is both blessing and curse. But when it comes involuntarily, suddenly, it's apparently a lot like having a limb cut off - there's real pain and phantom pain, and after physical healing, the physical pain is done. The phantom pain is likely to hang around.

I love my alone time, and need it even in a great relationship. But when I lost my relationship the phantom pain is sometimes still there, even 30 years later. Just part of life, I guess.
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Setting smaller goals is probably the best thing you can do for yourself, so you don't overload your emotional circuits by trying to take on more than you're ready to process at one time.

I had no option but to do all the boxes at once based on how my Dad's will was written. It was horrific. I was lucky in that my hubby was there for me, and that his Dad had died before I met Mr Gin. He was there to help me with the boxes.

Had I no one to help me with the boxes? My garage would still be full of them. I could not have done it alone. Or perhaps I could have, but it would have been one box per day or some other really small goal like that, with days off in between boxes so I could recenter myself.

I'm sorry you don't have someone there to help you with your boxes, both physical, metaphysical and emotional. If I lived closer, I would offer to help.
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I am just so damn lonely. I really only have a few real friends. Even Andy's family don't get how hard it is.
Here- (((cyber hug))))
Not like the real thing, but better than nothing.
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I'm doing rather well since I've shared some stuff. I'm finally starting to want to live again. Not getting crazy yet but actually looking for fun stuff to do. I have a friend who has just lost his daughter to drugs, I honestly feel horrible for him but I just can't be around him because he's to depressing to me. I sound horrible but I am finally over that awful part of losing my husband and this man makes me revisit a bad place. I've told him my story and I have empathy just can't go there. He keeps trying to almost hit on me. I am so not ever going to want anymore then being a friend, but he has said and indicated he want more. Just can't even go there. First of all he's old, not the biggest problem but he has all kinds of health problems, I can barley handle and keep my own crap right. I haven't been mean just have to get my point across because no matter what this is never going where he wants it to. My god now I know what Andy was kind of dealing with when I was so sick. He actually had women calling him offering sex drugs whatever to help him through, at least it's not that bad. It's just creepy in my opinion that anyone would come on to someone who has just tried to be nice. Anyway that's my rant for the day!!!LOL
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