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Loving a Violent Offender Discuss the issues of having a violent offender as part of your life. Please keep in mind that some of us are married to violent offenders. Please remember that these offenders are human, and as such, can change... just like anyone else.

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Old 03-10-2004, 06:22 PM
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I aint never scared! I know my man can do damage to me if he wants to but he wont.
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Old 03-11-2004, 05:04 PM
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NOPE..MY HUSBAND IS A NON VIOLENT OFFENDER AND THE MOST LOVING MAN I EVER MET..IM THE MEAN ONE..LOL..HE HAS NEVER EVEN YELLED AT ME, CAN U BELIEVE THAT ONE? HIS MAMA TAUGHT HIM WELL..AND IF I EVEN YELL AT THE KIDS, HE GETS UPSET..HE WOULD NEVER FIGHT IN PRISON, HE'D WALK AWAY IN A HEARTBEAT NO MATTER WHAT THE OTHER "TOUGH GUYS" THOUGHT...SO NOPE..MY MAN IS A STRAIGHT UP LOVER!!!!
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Old 03-13-2004, 07:11 PM
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No I'm not scared of him. He don't even hit women. All the times he should have he never did. I doubt if hell start now! He knows I'm not even the one to try it on either.
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Old 03-23-2004, 03:43 PM
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I say what he did it was bad very bad , but I know with all my heart that he would never hurt me. I married Nick 1 month after what he did , so I can say I am not scared of him, I am scared of not being with him.
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Old 03-31-2004, 03:11 PM
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MY hubby was charged with a violent crime, but he is not violent at all. In fact he was the one that got hurt . But he is still considered a violent offender. That is why he does'nt get another parole hearing until 2012. He can't even appeal, get post conviction relief, or a sentence modification because he pleaded guilty. But he was so messed up on alchohol and drugs at the time of his crime, and he did'nt have a good attorney to represent him. By the time he realized what he had done it was to late to withdraw his plea of guilty. He wenbt in court on a blind plea, at the mercy of the court. So the only thing we can hope for is an early parole hearing or review.I agree with TNC that someone can be arrested for a violent crime and not be a violent person. :fb:
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my man is built like stallone and I know that he wouldn't ever raise a hand to any woman! Doesn't matter who she is. But I am not afriad of him. I think he is more afraid of me!! Ha ha ha ... He isn't a violent man, just surviving in a violent place.
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BabieBoo that's the only thing I'm "afraid" of with my honey. But other wise he is a gentle man to me.
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Old 04-16-2004, 04:48 PM
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I'm not scared of my bud in prison I'm scared of my ex who is out! I wish they could trade places!!
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Hell nah aint scared pf my man, because I know he would never raise a finger at me, let alone a hand.
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I don't think I understand WHY anyone would be w/someone if they were afraid of him/them? My bf is a "murderer" but like someone else said there were mitigating circumstances.I would not be w/him if I was afraid of him.I think he wonders about me! Oddly enough we can't have hammers in the house!
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Old 04-28-2004, 01:10 AM
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Old 04-29-2004, 01:59 PM
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He is a violent offender and sweet as a puppy but can get me as a bull dogg! The best part about it all is that I am even meaner!!
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I'm not afraid of Aaron at all. My friends are afraid for me.. but I know Aaron would never lay a finger on me. When I look at him, its hard for me to imagine him ever hurting anyone period! But when I told him my friends were tripping that he may hurt me, he got upset because he was afraid I thought that he would hurt me.. I had to reinforce him, that I am not afraid!! I feel his crime could have been done by anyone.. I know there have been times where Ive wanted to hurt people.. I just had the brain to NOT do it.. he had the drugs that was stopping his brain from thinking before he acted.. so he's paying the price now! But no, I am not afraid of him at all!!


He should be more afraid of me then I should be of him

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Im only 5'2", and hes alot bigger, but never been afraid of him...
He brought it to my attention at the last visit though, that HE'S afraid of ME!!
Apparently, Im scary when pi**ed. He made the mistake on the last phone argument of putting his cellie on to defend him, and vouce for what he was saying...when they got off the cellie told him "that was the WORST 15 min of my life, and IM in PRISON!!"
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As many of you said, I am NOT scared of Dave at all!!! Sure he's 5'9" and 185 lbs of complete muscle (and all prison muscle, from many times of being locked up) and I am 5' and 108 lbs of no muscle...but I am not scared of him at all. Hell, I am the one that does the hitting and Brin I agree with you to the fullest, don't mess with me when I am pissed. Yea, if Dave wanted he could lay me out, quick, but he would never do such a thing. He's a beast when it comes to fighting guys, but he would never hit a girl. And trust me I know this for sure, he has had many times where if I was him I would've punched me dead in my face, but he has never done that. I was in a relationship before where I was abused, but not really scared still, but I won't do that again. If you are in a relationship where you are scared, I don't think that is the best relationship. Hugs
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Old 06-25-2004, 08:21 AM
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I am not scared of my man, even though he could knock me the &*$% out if he wanted to. He is awesome, he would never let anything happen to his family. Which is why I feel more safe with him than anything. He's a tough mofo, but a big teddy bear when it comes to me and his daughter.

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Old 06-26-2004, 09:25 PM
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I am not scared or afraid of my man at all. He is the most loving and respectfull man to me. He would never do anything to hurt me. But boy if anyone ever tried to disrespect me, I feel sorry for them because my man won't stand for that.
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Nope I'm not scared......I remind him I KNOW where he sleeps He's not a violent man anyway.

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At least it seems our "violent offenders" are nice to us! And they'd better be, right? No really, my man is a fighter - bad - won't back down when it'd be in his own best interest. However.....he's totally respectful to me. He loved his mother and I know she raised a man that treats women right. He is, however, very protective. If anyone messed with me or my children, then he'd be showin' that violent side.
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My husband murdered his first wife twenty-one years ago and spent 20 years in prison. Everyone thinks I should be afraid of him, but I'm not. Twenty years ago, he was a 28-year-old drug addict who went into a rage because his wife was divorcing him. Today he is 48 and has been clean for 17 years. He did make a mistake and has to go do 22 more months, but it wasn't a violent offense or related to drugs. Joseph wouldn't hurt anyone now. If I was afraid of him, I wouldn't be married to him.
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During our relationship there was a few times when Ron really scared me but I knew it was the drugs and not taking his medication that was affecting the way he acted and percieved everything. He has hurt me a few times like slapped me when I said something mean but he has never ever hurt me bad. I have learned about his illness and learned to deal and cope with it and how to help him so he can get better. I stuck by his side when no one else believed in him and I will continue to do so until the day we die
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I am not scared of Ray. Others might be but I am not. I know deep down inside he is a big sweetie pie.LOL He was nothing to mess with in his past but now he is so sweet. He knows better than to try me..I will beat him down.... (YEAH RIGHT)
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My brother gets out of prison 12/2005 and he has been in there for 20 years. Sometimes I'm afraid of him because over the last 20 years he has went through periods where he has been angry at all of us (his family). I think it's because he is in there and our lives have continued to go on? I also feel that he killed my stepfather more to protect us from him and I guess he feels in a way he's in there because of us?

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Pooh's got serious violent charges he's fighting now and he acted in self defense - he also has a violent conviction for assaulting some dude, but the time we were together I never once saw him act out violently or disrespectfully to anyone. We talked about our anger, each of us have tempers, and we agreed to no name calling, no pushing or shoving and hitting.

But to answer your question, I'm not afraid of him. If I was, I wouldn't be with him.
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