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Old 06-05-2019, 01:20 PM
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It never gets easier. I still miss my son. I still want him home. I just want normal. to be able to see him when I want. To call when there is something to tell him.
to go on trips...or to have a picture of him not wearing the ridiculous bright yellow jumpsuit. for some reason I'm in a bad mood about all this right now. Can't seem to shake it.
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Old 06-05-2019, 02:37 PM
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Hi there I have given you your own thread so our members can find and read your post. I am sure that there are others feeling the pain same as you are.
I know the pain of losing a son behind bars.
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Hi susank,

It sure can be hard to not get to see or talk with them whenever you wish.
You can always write. I used to write a bit everyday for a week or so, then mail it off.
Mail is super important for everyone.
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Old 06-06-2019, 06:58 PM
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It never gets easier. I still miss my son. I still want him home. I just want normal. to be able to see him when I want. To call when there is something to tell him.
to go on trips...or to have a picture of him not wearing the ridiculous bright yellow jumpsuit. for some reason I'm in a bad mood about all this right now. Can't seem to shake it.
I'm sorry you're going through it. I promise with much prayer, scripture and faith it will get a little easier. I miss my son sooo much. He got transferred to another facility, he's the only one from our state there, was there 3 days and put in SEG. Can't get any answers no email/ calls. He didn't even get to put us on the visitation list. My heart is heavy and trust me I'm still shedding tears, but I'm trying to remember God's word and promises I've prayed over him and assure myself that all is God's plan. I write my son and send him God's Word n scriptures to pray over himself. I tell him to hide then in his heart in his time of need when trials n tribulations arise. I pray for my son n everyone especially mom's going through what I am. I pray you and your son's continued trust and faith in The Lord. I will definitely keep y'all in my prayers. Thanks, sending this to you has encouraged me also. God bless, comfort and keep you and yours. Lisa
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How do you handle all this? My son just got sentenced and will be going to diagnostics next week for a period of time....I don’t know how he or I will survive this...
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How do you handle all this? My son just got sentenced and will be going to diagnostics next week for a period of time....I donít know how he or I will survive this...
I know when I first came here these were my very words. I worried and worried and then worried some more just because I could still worry.

My only thought is that it gets easier. It is never going to be "normal" but once you and he develop a routine, it does get a little easier.

We had never even known anyone who was in prison until our son got sentenced. Now, after 5.5 years of this, I'm the veteran in the visiting room, helping others navigate the dress code, the vending card machine, emails, etc..

I still worry and pray but some days thats all I can do. Please know it does get easier. And believe me when people told me that almost 6 years ago, I thought they were all nuts, but its true.

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How do you handle all this? My son just got sentenced and will be going to diagnostics next week for a period of time....I don’t know how he or I will survive this...
Trust me it's hard. The only way to handle it is with prayers. God's word say weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning Psalm 30:5, and Psalm 55:22- Cast your burdens on Him, and He will sustain you, Philippians 4:6-7- Do not he anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgivings let your request be made to God. Matthew 7:7-8- Ask and it will he given to you, seek and you will find, knock and the door shall be opened. I look up scriptures and call them out over my child and every one that's going through this, knowing I'm not alone. I tell my son, when I'm not there you must remember that God is always with you. God chastens the ones He love and He loves our children so much that this is His way of getting their attention, letting them know that In Him they will have a more meaningful life and their trials and situation is to bring Him all the Glory.... Your son need you to be strong and praying for him. If you let him know you're sad or hurting it will depress him. Even when you're weak, remember you're strong in God. Tell your son, you're not worrying you're praying and that's what you need him to be doing also. In here for you and I'm praying for you.... You are not alone. The way you're talking to me please talk to Jesus and let him know how you feel. Tell Him you trust Him and to please wrap His hedge of protection around your son I. Jesus Name. I'mma send you a screen shot of scriptures I want you to pray over him daily. I pray in Jesus name this help you. Love you
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Old 06-10-2019, 01:25 PM
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It never gets easier. I still miss my son. I still want him home. I just want normal. to be able to see him when I want. To call when there is something to tell him.
to go on trips...or to have a picture of him not wearing the ridiculous bright yellow jumpsuit. for some reason I'm in a bad mood about all this right now. Can't seem to shake it.
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How do you handle all this? My son just got sentenced and will be going to diagnostics next week for a period of time....I donít know how he or I will survive this...
It is hard. As others said, it does get easier, which I didn't believe 7 years ago, but they were right.

Personally, I will never wear orange or buy anything orange for decor.
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I was where you are about 11 months ago. The two things that have helped me a lot are the people on this forum and saying the Surrender novena. You can google it to read it, and you can hear it on YouTube. It calms me down and is a really good meditation This experience has made me a much more religious person.

I still have bad days, but I’m finally starting to find joy in life again. For me that has been a big improvement, but it’s taken almost a year. This entire thing has really affected my health, but I still have two younger kids to raise. I can’t give up yet, but it’s really, really hard. I think the parents suffer more than the inmates sometimes.

Don’t let it break you. You can have bad days, but keep looking for things that can help you. I’m happy to report that we’re starting to laugh again. We even made and almost life-size photo of our son and hold it up in family photos and on vacations. He thinks it’s pretty funny.

Right now, he’s clean, I know where he is, and he’s fairly safe. I’m trying to live in the moment.
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After 10 1/2 years, I still get feelings that overwhelm me about my son's incarceration. I'm mourning the future I thought my son would live. Mostly though, l just plain miss him, everyday. And it is heavy. Sometimes we manage to put it in a box, put our sadness away for a while and try to be whole for the others who count on us. Please know, I'll keep you in my prayers. Don't forget about the things you are grateful for.
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I fell ya! Today has been hard emotionally. I geuss because another holiday with family without my son. It's crazy how I can be fine a few weeks and then bam, the sadness lifts its"s head.
Tomorrow is a new day and hopefully I will make the choice to take a minute at a time and be greatful for the blessings that surround me.
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I'm missing my son too. Time goes by so slowly now. He's been in for 6 months. It feels like 6 years.
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I understand. I believe we all do. It's been four years since my son has been in my house. His last day here was not good. So m7ch I should have said and didn't. Now I wait another 13 years. I may not be here. Some day's, even weeks are good and then bam, I go back to that day and everything that happened after. My husband gets mad because sometimes it takes me a few days to be ok again.
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This week is the one-year anniversary of his self surrender. It was, without any exception, one of the hardest things I've ever witnessed. But at the same time I was so very proud of how he walked tall and confident into the unknown. He's considered a 'short-timer' so we do see a glimmer at the end of the tunnel, but there are days that I miss him so horribly that it is a physical ache. Praying for us all.
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AMEN!!! I SO AGREE WITH YOUR POST!!!! THIS IS A VERY DIFFICULT JOURNEY WITHOUT THE LORD.
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Beautiful, thank you for the Parent's Prayer.
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Thanks for sharing the prayer! I'm printing for daily use.
Miss my son too and it's only been about 4 months. He's still waiting for trial. We know he's innocent, but it's not his family he has to convince, it'll be 12 strangers. Praying, reading and researching daily. I took everything I could from my retirement to pay attorney. I pray that attorney will do everything he can to prove his innocence, the truth will set him free. Also have an autistic younger son to care for. It's not easy doing it alone, luckily my family is very supportive and wants to know everything that happens and they go to court with me, even taking vacation or personal days from work to go. I just pray my Son realizes what family means when this is all over, and changes his life around.
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I hadn't heard of the Surrender Novena, but, I'm going to get right on it! I visited son yesterday, he is not doing well. Seems like other inmates are ganging up on him. He said he is doing "jobs" for other inmates like ironing, cleaning shoes, etc., for food. I don't know what's going on. I'm scared for him!
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I hadn't heard of the Surrender Novena, but, I'm going to get right on it! I visited son yesterday, he is not doing well. Seems like other inmates are ganging up on him. He said he is doing "jobs" for other inmates like ironing, cleaning shoes, etc., for food. I don't know what's going on. I'm scared for him!
And so they're ganging up on him, huh? I hate to hear that. I really do. Nothing surprises me about that place no matter what state we're talking about or much else. I've done a lot of time inside (18 years in Texas) and when I hear stuff like this it still makes me mad. If it doesn't stop or if it gets worse....call the warden's office. All that bit about snitching and telling on someone.....DON'T BELIEVE IT FOR A MINUTE. The bad apples need to be held accountable for their actions and especially in prison. You're in prison to correct your behavior and if you don't want to do it, then fine, there's someone around who can make you do it.

Whatever you do....know that you are not alone. Some people don't see it the way that I do and I respect that. God bless you dear.
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I sent an email to main office and I called yesterday to ask for "classification officer." I was put on hold and when the guard came back on line, she said they don't have this, instead they have "unit managers." She also said for me to call today. That's on my to do list for today. You are right, people have to be held accountable and I appreciate you saying this. I woke up in the middle of the night with a sense of clarity....I know this is because folks are praying! I've come up with a prayer for all of us here...


God, please protect all prisoners, all parents of prisoners, all families of prisoners! All for the sacred heart of divinity all for the sacred memories we hold dear and all we hope!
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